Did I just get what I think I got?

[bubbly1126]

So I think I inadvertently had a real conversation with BF about a timeline. Nothing like "We''ll be married by this time, etc" but it''s something. lol.

[back story: in a previous discussion we both agreed another 5 years until we have our first child.]

We were talking about how if I get this job (that I interviewed for last night, won''t know til the end of the week) that our SUV will officially be ''my'' car. (Right now we share the car or he takes the motorcycle if need-be.) I said how I loved it (it''s a Trail Blazer) and it''s so much more convenient than having a tiny little car that you have to try and squeeze everything/everyone into. He states, "It''s 5 years ahead of it''s time." I asked what he meant and he said, ''you only buy an SUV if you have kids and need a lot of room, we agreed 5 years, didn''t we?"

Holy crap! He actually remembered something we agreed upon regarding our future?!?! Woah! lol. But really, it blew me away that he''s really taking all that into consideration. This makes me feel so much better about the whole thing because I have previously told him I would like to be married at least 2 years before we have our first child. So if kids are 5 years from now, we''d like to be married at least 2 years beforehand, and it takes at least a year, sometimes more, to plan a wedding w/ a nice venue (unless luck is on our side), that brings us to 2 years from now.

So maybe, just maybe... my timeline is 2 years? lol. I know, a LONG time... but it kind of fits into my talk with him a month ago during his Giants game. You know, the one where I asked if it would be within the next 2 years and he repsonded with "Quite possibly, relax, you''ll see..."

Hmm. Who knows. But here''s to him remembering all this stuff and putting it all together! [and hopefully coming up with the same, if not sooner, timeline as me! lol]

hehe... sorry, I get excited over the littlest things!

 

[diamondsgirl22]

aww, you are adorable bubbly! I see that you are back on the forum. have you decided to stick it out a little bit longer? That is so exciting that he remembered that conversation. You never know about when he will ask. guys often dont like to set concrete things down. Maybe he has a special day picked out that he plans on asking and even though you are waiting for him to ask he cant ask unless it is on or around that day? Like if he was waiting for christmas or new years he cant just give it to you now because that would ruin his plan. Maybe you should wait and see before just giving up about the whole ring thing. I dont know, i have learned that just because guys wait and dont give you a ring and you wonder why, that it could just be that they have to wait for something or their plan will be destroyed and that him not asking is not actually his fault but just how he has to wait because of the plan. I know in certain instances it is the guy's fault but by the way your guy said we will see and to relax is a guys way of trying to get you to back off of him so that he can continue to plan stuff. yah get my drift? i am so happy that you guys talked and you never know, he could just blow your mind away some random sunday afternoon when you guys are lounging around or something...guys are hard to read alot of the times and we often underestimate them.

Good luck on the job interview by the way! Keep us informed!

 

[bubbly1126]

Thanks diamondsgirl22!

Yeah, I don''t know if you read the last thing I posted on my thread about leaving but it explains everything.

Unless I get this job (I''m hoping and praying!), I don''t forsee our financial situation getting any better any time soon. So therefore, I do feel that the proposal will most likely take up to another 2 years. Sucks. But it''s something I have to accept.

Of course, I am still holding out hope for a proposal way ahead of that time. Definitely could happen. We''ll see!

Good things come to those who wait! (I have to keep thinking that to keep myself sane! lol)

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Date: 10/23/2007 12:59:58 PM
Author: bubbly1126

Good things come to those who wait! (I have to keep thinking that to keep myself sane! lol)

That is very good advice to give yourself! It''s my mantra when it comes to being an LIW. However, I have found that Alice from Alice in Wonderland sang it best when she declared:

I give myself very good advice,
But I very seldom follow it,
That explains the trouble that I''m always in,
Be patient, is very good advice,
But the waiting makes me curious.

It''s very cute that your BF remembered your discussion about a timeline for children. I know that I am always excited when my BF remembers anything at all

 

[nebe]

I get excited over stuff like that too. Pi was talking about buying a Caddy the other day and he said "We could get the Cad for you and I''ll drive the Tahoe. It''ll have enough room for the kids" and I was like...

Oh really?

And the other day we were getting into the truck to go grocery shopping and he looked into the back seat and popped up with "We definitely need two kids." And nodded, as if it were nothing! He keeps popping up with stuff like that along with the fact he is much more accepting about my talking about a wedding and details associated with it. Definitely still has those days were he gives me the look when I bring it up, but over all he''s definitely getting himself ready.

I know how you feel about the little things! They are oh-so important before the engagement.

 

[largirl]

Date: 10/23/2007 1:48:24 PM
Author: nebe
I get excited over stuff like that too. Pi was talking about buying a Caddy the other day and he said ''We could get the Cad for you and I''ll drive the Tahoe. It''ll have enough room for the kids'' and I was like...

Oh really?

And the other day we were getting into the truck to go grocery shopping and he looked into the back seat and popped up with ''We definitely need two kids.'' And nodded, as if it were nothing! He keeps popping up with stuff like that along with the fact he is much more accepting about my talking about a wedding and details associated with it. Definitely still has those days were he gives me the look when I bring it up, but over all he''s definitely getting himself ready.

I know how you feel about the little things! They are oh-so important before the engagement.

Hahahaha, Nebe, I know EXACTLY what you mean by this! I was shocked the first time he actually had a conversation with me about an actual wedding, rather than just pretending like I didn''t say anything. Now I push it and he usually plays along, although you can tell when he''s done talking about it!

Similarly to the SUV thing, my BF is definitely on the slow track for kids, and the other day I jokingly made a comment to him about donating an egg to raise money for a wedding (at the suggestion of a friend, who made it only half-seriously). And he just kind of gaped at me and was like, "But what if you give them your only good egg and you don''t have any left for us?" It was pretty much the cutest most endearing thing he''s ever said, considering all the other things he''s said about not wanting kids for a long time.

 

[nebe]

Date: 10/23/2007 7:03:16 PM
Author: largirl

Date: 10/23/2007 1:48:24 PM
Author: nebe
I get excited over stuff like that too. Pi was talking about buying a Caddy the other day and he said ''We could get the Cad for you and I''ll drive the Tahoe. It''ll have enough room for the kids'' and I was like...

Oh really?

And the other day we were getting into the truck to go grocery shopping and he looked into the back seat and popped up with ''We definitely need two kids.'' And nodded, as if it were nothing! He keeps popping up with stuff like that along with the fact he is much more accepting about my talking about a wedding and details associated with it. Definitely still has those days were he gives me the look when I bring it up, but over all he''s definitely getting himself ready.

I know how you feel about the little things! They are oh-so important before the engagement.

Hahahaha, Nebe, I know EXACTLY what you mean by this! I was shocked the first time he actually had a conversation with me about an actual wedding, rather than just pretending like I didn''t say anything. Now I push it and he usually plays along, although you can tell when he''s done talking about it!

Similarly to the SUV thing, my BF is definitely on the slow track for kids, and the other day I jokingly made a comment to him about donating an egg to raise money for a wedding (at the suggestion of a friend, who made it only half-seriously). And he just kind of gaped at me and was like, ''But what if you give them your only good egg and you don''t have any left for us?'' It was pretty much the cutest most endearing thing he''s ever said, considering all the other things he''s said about not wanting kids for a long time.

hehehehe! now... what about this donating eggs thing?