Did you know "The Plan?"

[mamie]

I''m pretty sure I''m going to drive myself crazy the next 25 days.

Short backstory: 95% positive ring is purchased and could be physically in our home, but I''m trying to summon up my willpower to not snoop. I''m also 90% sure he''s going to propose on our winery trip March 29. I think I even know WHERE it will happen. So while I''m happy to iknow a proposal is iminent, I''m afraid that a.) I''m wrong in my assumptions and b.) that I''m spoiling my own "surprise."

My last post on here was about ''reveling in the buildup.'' I''m still reveling, but my anxiety and impatience is starting to take over what''s left of my LIW sanity. I''ve been lurking on the Knot and other bridal websites for six months now, so I basically have the whole wedding planned, but I''m refusing to sign up on wedding websites or buy a bridal mag or planner until it''s official.

I almost wish I didn''t know so much about this huge moment because I don''t want it to take away any of the magic. He doesn''t know I know, but I''d have to be pretty obtuse not to guess his plan!

So, my question to you all is: Did you know when/where your proposal would happen? If so, do you think it took away from the experience? TIA!

 

[EricaR]

I was about 95% sure it was going to happen and you know what? It didn''t make it any less special or wonderful. As we were walking towards what I knew was going to be *the spot* my heart started pounding. When he got down on his knee it was like the whole world stopped spinning around me and the only people that mattered were the two of us.

Even if it had been a total surprise there is no way the moment could have been any better. I am actually glad I knew ahead of time because I was able to relax and just enjoy what was happening.

 

[CNOS128]

The fact that you know when/how it''s coming won''t take away from the magic! You''re getting engaged to the man you love -- what could be more wonderful? (No, I''m not engaged yet, but I don''t think a surprise is necessary for magic).
Besides, you don''t know what he''ll say or exactly what he''ll do, so it''s not as if you''ve cheated and read the last chapter of your book; there are still unknowns.

If you can handle it, I''d say don''t snoop -- or if you do, just snoop until you find a ring box, and don''t open it.

 

[princesss]

I don''t have any experience with this, but if you''re worried that knowing what day it will happen will spoil it, go through and read MissErin''s post about her proposal:
her post the day before the proposal.

She knew what day it was coming, and I don''t think it dampened any of the "Wow, is this really happening?" excitement when it really happened.

 

[mamie]

EricaR - Thank you for your response - I was hoping to hear a story like yours to set my mind at ease! I''m hoping I''ll be able to relax as the moment approaches, but at this point I''m afraid I''ll blurt out "Yes!" before he''s actually done with the question. : )

TheBigT - I like your thinking - snoop just until I find a box! Then it will seal the deal that it is in fact HERE and ready to be placed on my finger. And you''re right - I don''t know everything (will he pull me off the side for a private moment; what will he say; will his hands tremble, etc). Thanks for your advice!

princesss - Actually, MissErin has been in the back of my mind as I''ve kept up on her story and we''re in similar situations because of the knowing when. I''m so glad that her engagement was as happy as she imagined!

Ugh, why am I stressing out? I guess I wouldn''t be me if I didn''t find something to nitpick and worry about. I need to relax and enjoy the anticipation I previously posted, huh? I''m getting ready in my own little way of growing out my nails (habitual nail-biter) and picking out a cute little "proposable" dress to wear. : )

Thanks for your kind words and reassurances!

 

[LegacyGirl]

Oh no! Hahaha just calm down and try to enjoy it

I know its hard.