did you make your screenname to be secret?

[froufrou]

So I was thinking about this, did you guys try to make your screenname so that if your guy came on this website he would never know that it was you?? I think mine would probably recognize my name and then proceed to read all my posts were he to find this site, since its one I use pretty often on sites, so I''m trying to decide whether or not I would care about this. I think though if I were the guy I would hide my identity if i wanted to find a ring for my girlfriend so it would be a "surprise"...

along with that, if i were the girl, and my boyfriend wanted the ring to be a complete "surprise" , i might purposefully make my screenname one that he would instantly recognize, then put this site in the "history" and make him think like he found out who i was by accident, that way he would be able to get the ring you really wanted all the while thinking he was being clever. my boyfriend would probably just let me help him pick out the ring, but for those of us whose boyfriends have to do the whole surprise thing, i think this would be a clever way to make them think you are still being surprised, while getting the ring you want. youd have to plan it carefully though because you couldnt then be too obvious about getting him to find this site...

 

[Blenheim]

I really didn''t put all that much thought into it. He was the one who told me to just go ahead and register. I don''t think he would have immediately guessed my name, but when I said "guess what I chose as my avatar" he knew immediately what my first avatar was. He''s joked about coming on and reading what I''ve been saying about him, but I really doubt he would. He has better things to do, especially because I don''t think I''m posting anything on here that he doesn''t already know. (Well, except for that one time that I "found the ring box," heehee).

At the same time, I doubt that, for example, my study group would be able to guess without reading most of my posts.

 

[Scooba]

I was just a lurker and my boyfriend told me to register and post, and now I can''t stop!

 

[ephemery1]

I didn''t really think much about it either... but I use this name for other things too, so he would definitely recognize it. I know he did his original diamond research online (the 4 Cs, etc.) but I''m assuming he''ll buy from a B&M (he wasn''t overly comfortable with the online concept), so I don''t think he''d be posting on here anyway. Either way, I''ve already mentioned the LIW forum and he just laughs at me, so it definitely isn''t a secret!

 

[froufrou]

hm..my boyfriend is the type where if he knew a forum i posted on, he would search me out and read every single thing. i found this out cause i have a xanga blog that he knew about but i didnt think anything of, where i never really post much except like comments to my other friends'' blogs, and he will still go through and read my comments, no matter how uninteresting i personally think they are. he also likes to read the blogs of my friends that he''s never met, and even will read the comments on those people''s blogs...he does this same thing with all his friends, reading their blogs and their friends friends blogs etc...he is a big time lurker!!! (all this while he claims to be extremely busy...too busy to go out and buy me a ring!! )

 

[ephemery1]

Haha, froufrou your boyfriend sounds like ME!! My guy is constantly making fun of me (and my mom) for being "stalkers"... constantly checking up on people''s away messages on AIM and such. I can''t help it... I just like to know things!

 

[KissyKissy]

I made up a completely random name and keep my posts generic enough that he would never know...

I often wonder if maybe he''s on here too anonymously! In that case, I would hope he would use an obvious name so I could figure it out and know his plans, but on the other hand I don''t want to know at all!!!

 

[ilovesparkles]

My guy would never guess my name was me but if he were to ever read the posts by me he would figure it out in a heart beat! I actually now hate my name because ther eis no easy shortened version of it to reply back and well it just seems silly. Of course we all love sparkles thats why we are here

I wish I had chosen something that had more meaning or symbolism to me. But when I signed up I just kept walking around going I want a sparkly they are so pretty. Bla, now I''m stuck with it.

 

[sumbride]

He''d know me immediately because I use my avatar on my blog. My screen name is my nickname "Sum", the first part of my real name, and bride because that''s what I hope to be soon. It''s also kind of fitting because he''s an accountant. I also have a gmail account and a CL handle that match it. Figured I should get them while I could.

As for whether or not he''d read my stuff.... I''m not sure. He loves reading my blog, even complains if I haven''t posted in a while. But he also says he''d never read my journal, so I don''t know if he''d read this stuff if I explained it was like a journal. hmmm....

 

[Mandarine]

I didn''t think about it too much...so Mandarine might give it away, but maybe I''m wrong and it wouldn''t even ring a bell!!....

Now if he read my posts then he would know in a second that it was me.....and he wouldn''t like it one bit! (he''s very private)

. Well...hopefully I won''t get caught! and if I do then hopefully he''ll know this was a good way to keep me sane and understand that I''m not alone in the waiting game!

M~

 

[firebirdgold]

Duh, I changed my name didn''t I? Although, mind you, some of my posts are a bit of a dead give away. Not to mention that Indiana Jones doesn''t exactly require a rocket scientist to figure out it''s me. And well... ok, not going there.
I hope that if he did read my posts (knowing it was me), he''d be understanding. Hey, it''s a lot better for me to vent off steam and anxiety here than with him while he''s been stressed. But he is a very private man, so I worry that he''d be upset that I talk about him on a web forum.

 

[jesterjigger]

My guy could figure it out, it''s my horse''s name, and I use either jesterjigger or Stephanie on every board I post on. I know he''s read some of my posts on other boards, but doesn''t keep it up enough. It''s driving me crazy though, because I think I''ve figured out when he''s going to do it, and I want to make a post about it, but I don''t want to chance him checking it out, lol. Sigh.

 

[swt_acacia]

I don''t have to be too careful with my screen name or what I say, since my boyfriend would never, ever read a forum in the hopes of finding my posts. He''s just not like that. I am the sneaky one in our relationship...

 

[akw94]

Initially, when I found the site, I didn''t think about posting in the forums, b/c I was just learning about my ring preferences (which he asked me to do). Then when I started visiting more often, i''ve mentioned it to him saying what i''ve learned or something I thought was interesting. A few weeks ago, it came up when I mentioned something totally unrelated to rings and he asked me where I learned it. I told him PS. He asked me my username. So I went ahead and told him..not like it''s not a pretty easy one to figure out. Then the next day he said, wow, you do post often and about a multitude of subjects. So I don''t know if that means he read my posts or just did a search for me and saw the topics.

Really though, I don''t think he''s the type to read my posts but who knows, he is the inquisitive sort!
So now I wouldn''t change it (although i''ve thought about it just b/c I don''t like using my name online) but I wouldn''t want him to think it''s due to him. I''ve also decided not to bring up the site to him so I wouldn''t want to bring it up, even if I were just telling him that I changed my name. Quite ridiculous really!
Also, I don''t say anything on here that he doesn''t know. He might not know specifics about what I like/dislike but he knows I think about rings and marriage and we have talked about both. Although it might feel weird to think he was reading these thoughts, I wouldn''t say anything on here that I really, truly didn''t mind him knowing.