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OK so this topic is on my mind lately. When my dh and I first met we were on different pages with spending and saving. I was/am a saver and my DH is a spender. Not to say he isn't a smart investor because he is but he and I are not exactly aligned on this issue. He feels he has worked hard his whole life to get to the point where he can buy what he wants and not sweat the cost if it is reasonable. I look at it like this. It all adds up so be smart. If you can get it for less take a minute and search the options and be savvy about the purchase. Even if it is just 100$ purchase. I am reading this to him to make sure I am portraying his thoughts accurately fyi.
When we first met I had purchased my co-op (in my 20s) in Park Slope Brooklyn-a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom on a great street. 24 hour doorman. And I had paid it off in three years (30 year mortgage I kept putting more money towards principal each month). Whereas my DH was renting in Manhattan and had just (day of our first date lol) purchased a beach house with a 30 year mortgage that he was not intending on paying off as early as I did. So he did have an eye towards the future but had a different approach.
He likes to purchase things that enhance his life and his many hobbies.
And that is of course A OK it's just I find he spends a lot and he does not add it up so he doesn't realize how much he is spending but he does track all the expenditures (month to month) so he knows where it is all going.
I am more cognizant of how much I am spending and I feel I am smart about it. I look at price per wear (for the most part not always) and then decide if the purchase is worth it. My DH says he does that too but lol I'm not so sure.
Anyway for the most part we are smart about the future and have (hopefully) enough saved to be comfortable when my DH stops working but we are definitely not on the same page regarding spending and we have never really been on the same page. I would say I have changed more than my dh has regarding this topic. I spend more than I did when I was in my 20s and early 30s (I was a big saver) and maybe he spends a little less and saves more than when he first met me but still I have come over to his side more than he has mine.
What about you? Do you and your partner align on spending and saving or are you different?

When we first met I had purchased my co-op (in my 20s) in Park Slope Brooklyn-a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom on a great street. 24 hour doorman. And I had paid it off in three years (30 year mortgage I kept putting more money towards principal each month). Whereas my DH was renting in Manhattan and had just (day of our first date lol) purchased a beach house with a 30 year mortgage that he was not intending on paying off as early as I did. So he did have an eye towards the future but had a different approach.
He likes to purchase things that enhance his life and his many hobbies.
And that is of course A OK it's just I find he spends a lot and he does not add it up so he doesn't realize how much he is spending but he does track all the expenditures (month to month) so he knows where it is all going.
I am more cognizant of how much I am spending and I feel I am smart about it. I look at price per wear (for the most part not always) and then decide if the purchase is worth it. My DH says he does that too but lol I'm not so sure.
Anyway for the most part we are smart about the future and have (hopefully) enough saved to be comfortable when my DH stops working but we are definitely not on the same page regarding spending and we have never really been on the same page. I would say I have changed more than my dh has regarding this topic. I spend more than I did when I was in my 20s and early 30s (I was a big saver) and maybe he spends a little less and saves more than when he first met me but still I have come over to his side more than he has mine.
What about you? Do you and your partner align on spending and saving or are you different?
