Do you expect/hope your SO calls the parents?

[beesha77]

since this is my second time around I didn't really think it'd be necessary or traditional really. Plus my dad passed away a year and a half ago but I do have a stepfather. I found out today he called my mom today to ask her for her blessing and proceeded to tell her how much he loved me and the boys. So sweet! I love that he did that. My late husband did that as well with my dad and mom, but we were young and had never been married. Whats your take? Do you expect or hope our SO asks for your parents blessing?

 

[madelise]

I totally thought your post was going to be about what title your SO will be calling your parents after you're married! Like Mr/Mrs. Beesha, Firstnames, or Mom/Dad.

I think it's cute. I'm not a traditional person in any way, but I think it's really cute, and ballsy for a guy to do that. I wouldn't have to go through anything like that since I'm estranged with my mother, and I haven't seen my father since I was 3, and only keep in touch with him via Facebook. So I'm not help! But I'm excited for you! This hints you'll be off the list soon!

 

[maebelle]

I also originally thought this would be a about what the SO would call my parents

On the actual topic, I've seen the question on the board before and my answer is still the same... I would actually be upset if my SO called specifically "for my hand" and even for a blessing. I've never been married before and we are fairly young (25) but it just rubs me the wrong way. I want to call together once I finally have my ring!

 

[audball]

No. Definitely not. In fact, I'd be pretty upset if he did. I'm not close to either of them and he knows me well enough to know that I wouldn't want him to do that.

 

[peonia]

i did and he did. i'm 24 so extremely young, but i come from a slightly conservative asian family so i always expected that from my partner. my BF is french, so i'm not sure he was brought up thinking this was a necessity, but he knew i wanted/needed him to do it so he did.

 

[Lilcubby76]

Well, my father passed away 3 years ago and SO never got a chance to meet him. My Mom has already given her blessing although we are not engaged yet.

While I think it would be a very sweet gesture if he did call and ask her before he officially proposes, I am concerned that due to her excitement she may accidentally let it slip to me. I don't want the biggest moment of my life spoiled like that and I have expressed that concern to him so I'm thinking he probably won't.

 

[audball]

Well, my father passed away 3 years ago and SO never got a chance to meet him. My Mom has already given her blessing although we are not engaged yet.

While I think it would be a very sweet gesture if he did call and ask her before he officially proposes, I am concerned that due to her excitement she may accidentally let it slip to me. I don't want the biggest moment of my life spoiled like that and I have expressed that concern to him so I'm thinking he probably won't.

This is definitely a concern some of my friends have in general!

Besides, I wouldn't want anyone else knowing I'm about to be engaged, besides my FF of course , before me.