Engagement/marriage is everywhere

[caligal]

Did you ever notice that once you are really in the LIW club everything around you seems to be about weddings? I can''t count the number of commercials, t.v. shows, movies, conversations I''ve been around with my guy that have involved proposals, weddings, etc... I just smile and blush a bit and he gives my arm a squeeze- so I think he knows how excited I am about all of it!

 

[SoonIHope]

Yeah, pretty much EVERYTHING IN THE ENTIRE WORLD. It is funny though, I totally didn''t notice it at all previously. But now, it''s eeeeverywhere!!!

Plus I check out women''s ring fingers on the subway obsessively, and so many people are engaged!

Sidenote: I saw this woman with the most gorgeous ring ever on the subway the other morning and totally wanted to ask her where it was from...buuuut, you know, morning commute...total stranger...crowded train...didn''t get up the nerve.

But I enjoy stalking people''s rings from afar anyway!

 

[Caribou]

Date: 11/17/2005 3:12:41 PM
Author:caligal
Did you ever notice that once you are really in the LIW club everything around you seems to be about weddings? I can''t count the number of commercials, t.v. shows, movies, conversations I''ve been around with my guy that have involved proposals, weddings, etc... I just smile and blush a bit and he gives my arm a squeeze- so I think he knows how excited I am about all of it!

OMG! I was just thinking the same thing.

I have one friend, aside from me, left to get married and she won''t be anytime soon. So I thought, well I won''t be hearing about this wedding business until I''m offically engaged. But every time I turn around wedding is in front of me.

 

[IndiBlue]

I''ve noticed that I have good, "engament is everywhere" days and real bad "engament is everywhere" days.

Particually, there was one day when EVERY SINGLE things I saw reminded me of my non-engament.
Ironically, it was the day after we attended a family member''s wedding where we answered questions all night about why we weren''t engaged yet or why we might not be "next"....

 

[Erin]

It''s like buying a new car. You never noticed so many were on the road until the day YOU bought one.

Still, bf and I sit on the couch together to watch TV/channel surf and it''s the ugly e-ring episode from SATC, and then Monica gets down on her knees in her candle filled living room, then a Zales commerical, then an ad for a bridal expo at the local convention center, then the cold sore commercial where the bride doesn''t want to lift her veil, capped off with the Monica marries Chandler episode. My god we haven''t watched tv together in six weeks. What a line up.

 

[nytemist]

This year has been all about wedding/engagements. Six childhood friends got/getting married this year. A ton of people getting engaged (aquaintences, co-workers, friends of friends), and of course this year''s round of Christmas ads for jewelry. This Thanksgiving at my BF''s parent''s house will be even harder than in the past... now that BOTH his sisters got married within 6 months of each other (OCt 2004 and April 2005) sitting at the table listening to their stories with their husbands will be even more difficult. His no-holds-barred sister will point blank ask him why is wasting time (she''s done it before) and I will want to crawl under the table when I start getting the ''sympathy'' look.

 

[AmberWaves]

Date: 11/17/2005 3:30:33 PM
Author: IndiBlue


, it was the day after we attended a family member''s wedding where we answered questions all night about why we weren''t engaged yet or why we might not be ''next''....

We had that happen to us, too! We left before the bouquet toss. I just couldn''t stand it. Also, Albi- I do the same thing.. When we were looking for apartments, I saw ones for rent everywhere, when we were looking to get a dog, I saw tons of different puppies! Now that I know it''s coming soon, I''m looking at everyone''s rings and thinking, hm.. I wonder if mine will be bigger, or I wonder if that''s a ring-ring, or an Wedding Band.. I''m getting so good at giving the pouty puppy face when "Whose Wedding is it Anyway" comes on, so he lets me watch it and find out all I can about other people who are REALLY getting married, and not just in the queue for it. I''m dreading Thanksgiving, that''s when it''s a huge family dinner, and we''re going to get it.

Now he asks me if I''m going to be this annoying when I''m pregnant.. Like, "Baby wants ice cream, can you get us some?"

 

[AChiOAlumna]

Date: 11/17/2005 3:42:45 PM
Author: Starset Princess
It''s like buying a new car. You never noticed so many were on the road until the day YOU bought one.

I just went to a conference about this...it''s called the Reticular Activating System...it''s when things like this go on like this day-in and day-out, but now that you''ve been made aware of your own circumstance, you start to see that day-in day-out activity more clearly...it''s an interesting process how our brains work.

 

[squeaksluv]

It seems like every one of my friends got engaged this year and all they talk about now is their wedding plans and engagement rings, it''s like they didn''t have a life prior to the proposal. I went out to dinner with one friend and she wouldn''t stop staring at her ering and twisting it so it sparkled. I finally had to tell her to either take it off or turn it around on her finger so she could hold a conversation for longer than 15 seconds! And if I had a dollar for everytime I was asked...''so when is your turn?'' UGH!!

Don''t get me wrong, I am so excited for my friends but I feel so sad and jealous at the same time. I know my bf will but he has given me no indication that it''ll happen soon, an I can''t ask him or he feels ''pressured''...MEN!

I think he''s thinking about it though because I did find printouts of princess cuts in his desk when I was looking for something once...Okay so I was doing a little snooping!!! The odd thing is he knows I love emerald cuts although lately I''m starting to really look at rbs! Just the other day I saw a woman on the subway with a gorgeous 3 stone round, I couldn''t stop staring at it (I''m ALWAYS checking out other womens rings). BF did catch me looking at it and whispered in my ear that it was some rocks wasn''t it?! It was probably about 3 carats total and gorgeous!

 

[SoonIHope]

Hehe, this reminds me of when my first good friend got engaged (before I was in the LIW club) and I just couldn''t stop staring at her ring. She''d be talking to me and gesturing with her hand and my head would just move around as I watched it. She said it got pretty annoying.

So I would just make her put her ring hand right in the middle of the table and then I could glance down and see how sparkly it was while also being able to look her in the face (occasionally

)

But yeah, now I''m much more in the jealous faction. Especially since one on my friends who is getting married in June and has been with her fiance for less than two thirds as long as I''ve been with my boyfriend told me I''d be "stealing her thunder" if I got married before her!!!! Due to scheduling issues (long & complicated) the ONLY time I could theoretically get married prior to June 2007 is in the few weeks before her wedding. But then I found out my brother is getting married 2 weeks before her, so I scratched 2006 off the list, so I only told her about it AFTER SAYING "It made me a little sad because I didn''t think there was any chance we''d actually want to get married next year since it''s right before your wedding but now it is a bit disappointing to know that we definitely can''t get married until 2007." AKA THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU, THIS IS ABOUT ME PUTTING OFF MARRYING THE MAN I LOVE UNTIL A FULL YEAR LATER. So yeah, not so pleased with her at the moment.

 

[AmberWaves]

What a cow!!

How dare she say that to you! You should have said, "Well, because I''ve been with ** longer than you have been with **** YOU''RE really stealing MY thunder by getting ENGAGED first! It''s only fair that I should get MARRIED first."

My old best friend a few years ago got engaged, and I was so jealous of the ring, not to be married, but to have a huge rock on my hand, too! I wish I had known more about diamonds, then I could tell if it was actually a good one or not! We''re not friends anymore, so I can''t ask.

 

[SoonIHope]

Yeah, I totally wanted to say something like that to her, but then I feel like I''d get one of those condescending, "oh you''re just jealous, your time will come" comments. The thing that really bugs me about her though is that she didn''t even WANT to get engaged AT ALL and was freaking out when her boyfriend started hinting he was going to propose, coming to us all upset, trying to decide if she should break up with him. Of course she doesn''t remember any of this NOW though. And that means she has NO SYMPATHY whatsoever for the LIW mentality so she thinks it''s so awful that my boyfriend hasn''t gotten around to proposing yet, b/c HER boyfriend knew so early in their relationship. (Ahem, back when SHE wasn''t sure yet.)

 

[Buena Girl]

albicocca - yipes, what a bridezilla!

It''s funny how quickly people forget things.

I''m kind of mixed about all of the jewelry commercials during this time of year. I don''t mind the t.v. ones, but I can''t stand the radio ones! I immediately flip the station if I hear one come on, especially when my b/f and I are riding in the car together. I guess it''s because the t.v. at least has something beautiful and sparkly to look at. The radio commercial is just words reminding me I''m not engaged yet.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I totally remember that feeling. I was so frusterated I would get teary eyed whenever there was a proposal on TV/movies. I don''t know if anyone here listens to country music but Jeff Bates has a song called "Love Song" and the lyrics (from memory so might not be perfect) are:
Found a ring
Hit my Knee
Couldn''t Talk
Couldn''t Breathe

and EVERYTIME I heard that part I would cry. REAL TEARS. I guess I just couldn''t imagining it happening even though my brain knew it would my heart was sad. (If that makes any sense).

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 11/17/2005 3:12:41 PM
Author:caligal
Did you ever notice that once you are really in the LIW club everything around you seems to be about weddings? I can''t count the number of commercials, t.v. shows, movies, conversations I''ve been around with my guy that have involved proposals, weddings, etc... I just smile and blush a bit and he gives my arm a squeeze- so I think he knows how excited I am about all of it!

By the way that is so cute that he reassures you. My FI would just ignore it or roll his eyes.