engagement present for a man???

[daniel456]

i was speaking with my girlfriend the other day about how my engagement ring search is going [she knows im looking, but doesnt know when its going to happen or what the ring will be].

she became frustrated as to what to get me. you see, i am a very difficult, strictly utilitarian person. i dont wear jewellery (except a small gold chain with a cross and my initial). i dont wear a watch either. i dont like having items that serve no purpose for myself, so that rules out a lot of gifts. as a joke, i asked her for 20lbs of protein powder (i workout and eat lots of food) but she was not amused!

basically, what is a good engagement gift for a man to get from his fiancee??? i agreed with her that the gift should be something everlasting, not something i can use up or become disinterested in.

any ideas???

 

[devientdrow]

I got my husband really nice cufflinks to wear on our weddng day. He''s the same as you, no jewelry except for one ring I gave him and that was pushing it! Watches not for style but for practicality. The cufflinks were nice because it''s something he wouldn''t of bought himself and practical because well, you need cufflinks for your tux!

 

[jcrow]

i got my FI a Burberry tie. he loved it. i plan on the giving cuff links the day of the wedding. i am going to get them engraved with his last name initial.

 

[njc]

DH is a very gadget/electronics type guy, so for an engagement present he got a 50" HD, DLP. Can you tell the man is happy by that grin?

And for a wedding present he got this network music player, which honestly, is really cool.

 

[MissAva]

I got V and new Alienware computer. He seems pleased, it may not sound romantic but we had already done the watch thing, and most other obvious answers. And since he has had the same computer since 7th grade (and somehow kept the thing working and running on new OSs) I think this will be a lasting gift that he enjoys often.

 

[MissAva]

Guy friend on the phone says to ask her for a Viper

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Do you have a general price range? Cuff links can be from 50.00 to 5k tvs and computers are not cheap. Give us more specs!

 

[SoonIHope]

Hehe, my fiance didn''t want any of the normal stuff either, so I got him cross country skis (my family skis a lot and he has enjoyed doing it with us for the past several years but has had to rent them.) I cannot tell you how many times my dad said, "Well, the ring was one thing, but now that you own your own skis, you''re REALLY a part of the family!"

 

[codex57]

You know, I never got my engagement/wedding gift. I let her get her dress, which cost WAAAYYY more than my present. Least she still feels guilty about it cuz I brought it up recently in an unrelated conversation and she said we''ll get it after some other expenses. No big deal. It was car parts. LED tail lights from the newer version of my car that I would retrofit onto my car. That''s what I like. It''s all a symbol anyways. People upgrade jewelry. I don''t think it has to be something you pass onto your children.

 

[saturn]

I got my fiance a set of Wusthof knives and a diamond knife sharpener, so he could have some diamonds too!

He likes to cook, so they were practical but yet they were expensive enough that he wouldn''t have gotten them otherwise.
I hope that they last a good long time, but I don''t expect that they''ll be heirlooms.

 

[daniel456]

consensus shows men are getting quite a raw deal.......hmmmmm.......

 

[portoar]

Well this may be a dumb idea, but what about a vacation trip somewhere you''ve always wanted to go? The trip would be "used up" but the memories will be there.

 

[daniel456]

trip is not an option.....devoute catholic parents.....you know what i mean

i think i will ask for the whey protien! lol

 

[JulieN]

you get her.

 

[daniel456]

Date: 1/11/2006 3:13:18 AM
Author: JulieN
you get her.

haha....i was ready for that answer.

my response is: she gets me + a nice ring! lol

 

[ello]

How about a nice pen - like a fancy Mont Blanc or a Mont Blanc key chain?
http://www.montblanc.com/

 

[MiniMouse]

Date: 1/11/2006 3:16:39 AM
Author: daniel456

Date: 1/11/2006 3:13:18 AM
Author: JulieN
you get her.

haha....i was ready for that answer.

my response is: she gets me + a nice ring! lol

she gets you, your laundry, your meal requirements, your hogging of the remote control...
a ring is merely compensation!!!

 

[njc]

Date: 1/11/2006 8:54:44 AM
Author: MiniMouse

Date: 1/11/2006 3:16:39 AM
Author: daniel456

haha....i was ready for that answer.

my response is: she gets me + a nice ring! lol

she gets you, your laundry, your meal requirements, your hogging of the remote control...
a ring is merely compensation!!!

Oh good golly do i second and third that one Mini!!! Dont forget the dirty dishes and the trash!!!

Daniel - What do you mean by men are getting a raw deal? People have mentioned some very heartfelt gifts. DH didnt get a raw deal at all... i got what i had wanted forever (ering), he got what he had wanted forever (TV). Granted the ring was twice the money, but the money isnt the point. Its the thought right? Your protein doesnt cost that much.

 

[daniel456]

^ a tv.....skis......etc. those are things you will see at a garage sale in 20 years or on the curb waiting for the garbage man to pick them up when they break down....

maybe i shouldnt be so utilitarian and accept some bling too! lol

 

[njc]

I agree! There are some great mens rings out there! What fun is it to go through life saying, oh i dont want that because in 10-20 years its going to break/need to be repaired/i wont want it any more. You would never own a home... a car... the computer you are using! What about when your FI comes to you 20 years from now and wants an upgrade to her diamond? Or it breaks/becomes damaged?

You are making your FIs dream come true (well, it was at least mine) by proposing and giving her a beautiful ring.... why not make your dream come true and get a little crazy! Whats the one thing you have ALWAYS wanted, but would never let yourself get?

Other ideas for you:
Tool set (like screwdrivers, hammer etc)
Nice clock (perhaps that winds)
A professional portrait in a nice frame of your FI or the two of you.
Tattoo

 

[portoar]

o.k., does your utilitarian lifestyle extend to your walls? How about choosing out a nice, original piece of art? Maybe a local artist you admire?

 

[daniel456]

i really dont know!!!

maybe i should just take the protein and relish in the fact that i found a wonderful girl!

 

[appletini]

Date: 1/10/2006 6:54:13 PM
Author: daniel456
consensus shows men are getting quite a raw deal.......hmmmmm.......

Not my Fiance! I gave him a rolex watch. Perhaps you should start wearing a watch and she can give you one.

 

[sxn675]

Well, I've given my husband a number of things over the years, here are some ideas:

Watch with metal band (he doesn't wear it all the time, but does for dress)
Watch with leather band (this is less "fancy" so he can wear it everyday to work)
MP3 Player (not super romantic, but whatever)
High end pen(s) and ink
Wallet
Moneyclip

He's a surgeon, so cufflinks/french cuff shirt and a tietack aren't really practical for him, but they might be nice for you. You said you like to work out - is there something related that you've always wanted? Like a treadmill or weight set?

I didn't get my husband anything for our engagement, but we had a pretty short engagement and were going to combine our finances anyway when we got married. I did get him the watch as his wedding gift (besides the band of course!).

Congratulations on your impending engagement.

 

[marvel]

Date: 1/11/2006 4:53:54 AM
Author: Ries
How about a nice pen - like a fancy Mont Blanc or a Mont Blanc key chain?
http://www.montblanc.com/

Gotta love a pen with diamonds!

 

[monarch64]

Yeah....I gave him the "milk" if you know what I mean. Hee hee.

Just kidding.