Etiquette on who sees Wedding Website

[violet02]

Is this something that can be sent to everyone you know, invited or not? Of course most people wont know if they are or not until later. We''re on a tight guest budget. I''d like to add a link to my page and let everyone check it out. Is that okay though?

 

[Pandora II]

I have sent it out on STD's to people I am definitely inviting - I have a second lot to go out to my second list. I am using is as a bit of a pre-invitation RSVP. That way, if people aren't coming I know way in advance of my invitations going out - and no-one feels 2nd tier.

I have shown it to a couple of work collegues before I finalised it - just for some feedback. They're not good enough friends to presume they'd be invited (although they are invited to our London drinks party a week later) and gave honest opinions.

I DEFINITELY wouldn't send it to people you know that you're not inviting - that could cause confusion and a lot of embarrassment later on when they wonder if their invitation got lost in the mail.

 

[Haven]

I would not share a wedding website with people who were not invited to my wedding, in the same way that I wouldn''t offer details about the wedding in coversation with people who aren''t invited. I can''t imagine one possible reason why anyone who isn''t invited to a wedding should see a website about it.

 

[Independent Gal]

I definitely would not do that. If I were your not-invited friend, I would think ''why are you telling me this? are you trying to make me sad and jealous?'' But then, I don''t ''get'' facebook culture (the whole share the intimate details of your life with the world thing) to begin with, so maybe I''m just old fashioned!

 

[enbcfsobe]

Date: 1/27/2008 7:20:11 PM
Author: Independent Gal
I definitely would not do that. If I were your not-invited friend, I would think ''why are you telling me this? are you trying to make me sad and jealous?'' But then, I don''t ''get'' facebook culture (the whole share the intimate details of your life with the world thing) to begin with, so maybe I''m just old fashioned!

ditto. we are also passwording ours. it is just too much personal info for me to feel comfortable having it open to the whole wide world.
if you show it to people who you would even vaguely consider inviting, you will be creating an expectation of an invite. dealing with existing expectations is bad enough -- no need to dig a deeper hole.

 

[KimberlyH]

Date: 1/27/2008 7:20:11 PM
Author: Independent Gal
I definitely would not do that. If I were your not-invited friend, I would think 'why are you telling me this? are you trying to make me sad and jealous?' But then, I don't 'get' facebook culture (the whole share the intimate details of your life with the world thing) to begin with, so maybe I'm just old fashioned!

Thritto. It seems a bit "in your face" to share wedding details with people who aren't invited, no matter the reason, especially via an email sharing your website address. My closest friends weren't invited to the wedding for several reasons and I shared very little with them about planning and the day itself, except when they asked, and even then I was very brief, because they weren't going to be there to share it with us.

 

[Future Mrs Polka Dot]

I agree. There is no reason to send a link to a wedding website for guests who are not invited. Plus, sending someone the webpage could cause them to believe that they are invited. You can''t say, here is my website...but you''re not invited. I just don''t think that sounds like a very good idea.

 

[Harleigh]

Hi violet!

We are only sharing our wedding website with those invited to the wedding. It is password protected and contains pertinent information about where we are staying, how to get ahold of us, etc...

I am seriously considering doing a very similar but separate website for our wedding reception that anyone and everyone is invited to...guess I should get on that!

 

[Sabine]

I agree that you should not send it out to people, but I actually don''t find a problem with having a link to it posted on a personal info. page, such as myspace or such if you are totally comfortable having all the info. out and public. I know that a few people that I don''t actively keep in touch with but still see on aol instant messenger have posted links to their websites in their profile, and I''ve enjoyed looking at the pages even though I wasn''t still close enough with the person to be invited to the wedding.