Etiquette Question for Haven and others...

[wyndham]

Hi Ladies,
Can any of you tell me how to address an invitation when the husband is a "Mr." and the wife is a "Doctor"? Our wedding is formal black tie so we''re doing the typical "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith Adams" format.

Thanks!

 

[NovemberBride]

You have two options. You can either stick with Mr. and Mrs. John Smith or you can use Dr. Mary Smith and Mr. John Smith. The second is the same format you would use for a married woman who kept her maiden name.

 

[swingirl]

Mr. John Smith and Doctor Mary Smith

Male first, professional titles (other than Mr and Mrs) spelled out.

 

[wyndham]

Thank you both NovemberBride and Swingirl!

If we''re doing First, Middle, and Last name for the male guests, would we do the same for their doctor wives?

Example:
Mr. John James Smith and Doctor Mary Louise Smith

or would we just do it this way:
Mr. John James Smith and Doctor Mary Smith

Thank you!!

 

[Blair138]

I would say that to keep it uniform put the woman''s middle name as well, I''m not sure if there is etiquette regarding middle names

 

[tropiqalkiwi]

I had this situation for several of our friends and I followed the advice of Crane''s blue book. They say to either use social titles (mr and mrs) or put the woman''s full name first followed by the husbands, like so:

Mr. and Mrs. Troy Clayton or Doctor Christine Clayton and Mr. Troy Clayton

So in your case you would just add the middle names.

They have almost every situation covered on their website (if you happen upon more problem addresses , but here is the etiquette for Married Couples.

 

[wyndham]

Thanks all, this was really helpful!

 

[ilovesparkles]

I have always seen it as Mr. John James Smith and Dr. Mary Louise Smith.

 

[NovemberBride]

Wyndham,

Just wanted to add a quick comment about middle names. It''s a common misconception that it''s more formal to add the middle names, but proper etiquette actually does not use middle names. Of course, you may do what you wish, but since you posted asking about etiquette I thought I''d let you know that they aren''t really used.

 

[meresal]

Date: 5/31/2009 11:55:45 PM
Author: tropiqalkiwi
I had this situation for several of our friends and I followed the advice of Crane''s blue book. They say to either use social titles (mr and mrs) or put the woman''s full name first followed by the husbands, like so:

Mr. and Mrs. Troy Clayton or Doctor Christine Clayton and Mr. Troy Clayton

So in your case you would just add the middle names.

They have almost every situation covered on their website (if you happen upon more problem addresses , but here is the etiquette for Married Couples.

ITA. Doctor should always be first, no matter woman or man, if you are using her title.