Ettiquete Question for Rehearsal Dinner

[blushingbride]

I was at my FI''s parents house tonight and his older sister asked if I wanted to show me what she''s wearing to our rehearsal dinner on Friday. To my surprise, it''s an ivory dress from United Colors of Benetton. It''s very classic and definitely suitable for a rehearsal dinner, but I was just wondering if it was OK for her to wear ivory if I''m the bride? Obviously, we all know never to wear white or ivory to a wedding, but is it acceptable for a rehearsal dinner esp. if she''s family?

Please note, my FI is European and this definitely wasn''t something that was done intentionally - after talking to my FI about it on the way, he mentioned that it''s just not customary where he''s from. He said he would say something to her if wasn''t appropriate so, any thoughts on this? I asked my sister about it and she said it absolutely doesn''t matter what people wear to a rehearsal dinner - I just thought an all ivory dress was a bit strange for HER to wear.

 

[MMM]

i always thought it was allowed.
i personally probably wouldn''t, just to be completely safe - but i''ve never heard that it was a no-no, and therefore wouldn''t think it strange for someone to do so.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I think it is fine for the RD. Were you planning on wearing white/ivory also?

 

[MMM]

i googled: "wearing white to a wedding rehearsal dinner" and the first link that came up said it was okay. im sure if i searched more i could find someone else saying its not okay, but it''s apparently not a universal rule like it is for the wedding day. (which we know even that hard and fast rule is broken by some FMILs!)

 

[Krissie]

I think it''s fine for the rehearsal dinner. I probably won''t wear white or ivory for mine, so I wouldn''t care if another guest chose to. It''ll be obvious you''re the bride!

Side note: my fiance is European too and they''re completely new to the "rehearsal dinner" concept!!

 

[zoebartlett]

I agree with the others. I don''t think there''s a problem with guests, even family, wearing white or ivory to the rehearsal dinner.

 

[Pandora II]

In europe and especially the UK it is totally normal and acceptable to wear white or ivory to a wedding. I was looking for dresses for my FBIL''s wedding last week and in three of the shops which are where most people our age would go for wedding outfits etc there were more white dresses than any other colour - some might have a bit of coloured embroidery on. Obviously one wouldn''t wear a full-on bridal gown, but a white calf-length dress wouldn''t raise eyebrows here.

 

[blushingbride]

Thanks ladies - I had a feeling it was OK for her to wear but, needed to make sure! Sorry for the babbling post earlier (after re-reading it, I realized some parts didn''t make sense) - I''m physically and mentally drained after planning a wedding for the past 12 months! Just 3 more days to go!!!