IrishAngel7982
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Here comes another "My ex is getting married" post.
Quick background info:
My ex and I dated for about 1 1/2 years. We were in college at the time, and everyone was absolutely sure (his family, my family, our friends) that we were done. It was just a matter of time i.e. reaching our senior year before we were to get engaged. Everything was planned out. Every time we went to the mall he took me into the store to ask me what I liked, we decided where to live, how we would alternate going to grad school, everything you could think of we had covered. It was crazy. During our Junior year of college I felt him becoming distant so I eventually called him on it. It turns out a girl he went to school with, whom we had become friends with, confessed his love for him one day. All of a sudden I wasn''t appreciative of him and the distance was too much. Keep in mind I was only 2 hours away at school, he was at home, talked every day, and saw each other every other weekend. Needless to say I was not happy, especially when I figured out what really went on because he didn''t have the balls to tell me himself. This was about 3 years ago.
Ok flash forward to last night. I was with my friend (who I met through my ex since they went to college together) on our way to another friend''s house, and she asks if I''ve heard from any of J''s friends. I said no, and she said "OK...well he bought a place out here and his girlfriend called me and told me she''s getting married." Hmm. Didn''t bother me at first. After all, I''m not one to exaggerate and to this day when it comes up people still say "Wow you got screwed over." The thing is, it sucked at first and I went through the stage of never thinking I''d find anyone else, especially when all I found were guys who weren''t up to par. I became extremely picky.
Anyway, my friend almost made me cry last night. We were talking about the whole thing and how in hindsight I know I wouldn''t have been happy if we stuck together, and I''m so thankful for my sweetie I have now (who I have to say, is more of a man than J will ever be. Muahahaha.) Anyway back to my friend. She said to me, "You know, when that whole thing went down we knew something wasn''t right and they wouldn''t talk to us anymore. It''s like they knew they were wrong. Sometimes people ask me how I came to be such good friends with you after the whole ordeal, and I say it''s because you''re a great person and you did nothing wrong. If anything, it''s common knowledge that you''ve always been the better person and it was you who got the short end of the deal." I just about cried. If we weren''t flying down the expressway I would''ve given her a great big hug.
Anyway my friend felt so badly because she''s known this since November but wasn''t sure if she should tell me and how to do it. I''m glad she did, but it still isn''t too much fun. I didn''t cry, but I felt really weird. It''s hard to explain. I''ve been over him for a long time and I am much happier with M now, but it still stung a little. I wish it didn''t. I felt like When Harry Met Sally...upset because for whatever reason he didn''t want to marry me. I know I know, we were only 20 at the time and still very young, but you get the point.
Anyway, WOW that''s really long...I''m so sorry if you''ve read this whole thing! I hope everyone had a great weekend!
Quick background info:
My ex and I dated for about 1 1/2 years. We were in college at the time, and everyone was absolutely sure (his family, my family, our friends) that we were done. It was just a matter of time i.e. reaching our senior year before we were to get engaged. Everything was planned out. Every time we went to the mall he took me into the store to ask me what I liked, we decided where to live, how we would alternate going to grad school, everything you could think of we had covered. It was crazy. During our Junior year of college I felt him becoming distant so I eventually called him on it. It turns out a girl he went to school with, whom we had become friends with, confessed his love for him one day. All of a sudden I wasn''t appreciative of him and the distance was too much. Keep in mind I was only 2 hours away at school, he was at home, talked every day, and saw each other every other weekend. Needless to say I was not happy, especially when I figured out what really went on because he didn''t have the balls to tell me himself. This was about 3 years ago.
Ok flash forward to last night. I was with my friend (who I met through my ex since they went to college together) on our way to another friend''s house, and she asks if I''ve heard from any of J''s friends. I said no, and she said "OK...well he bought a place out here and his girlfriend called me and told me she''s getting married." Hmm. Didn''t bother me at first. After all, I''m not one to exaggerate and to this day when it comes up people still say "Wow you got screwed over." The thing is, it sucked at first and I went through the stage of never thinking I''d find anyone else, especially when all I found were guys who weren''t up to par. I became extremely picky.
Anyway, my friend almost made me cry last night. We were talking about the whole thing and how in hindsight I know I wouldn''t have been happy if we stuck together, and I''m so thankful for my sweetie I have now (who I have to say, is more of a man than J will ever be. Muahahaha.) Anyway back to my friend. She said to me, "You know, when that whole thing went down we knew something wasn''t right and they wouldn''t talk to us anymore. It''s like they knew they were wrong. Sometimes people ask me how I came to be such good friends with you after the whole ordeal, and I say it''s because you''re a great person and you did nothing wrong. If anything, it''s common knowledge that you''ve always been the better person and it was you who got the short end of the deal." I just about cried. If we weren''t flying down the expressway I would''ve given her a great big hug.
Anyway my friend felt so badly because she''s known this since November but wasn''t sure if she should tell me and how to do it. I''m glad she did, but it still isn''t too much fun. I didn''t cry, but I felt really weird. It''s hard to explain. I''ve been over him for a long time and I am much happier with M now, but it still stung a little. I wish it didn''t. I felt like When Harry Met Sally...upset because for whatever reason he didn''t want to marry me. I know I know, we were only 20 at the time and still very young, but you get the point.
Anyway, WOW that''s really long...I''m so sorry if you''ve read this whole thing! I hope everyone had a great weekend!
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