Excited / Confused eeks!

[Quinnie]

I have news...

I saw BF last night and he told me he e-mailed Leon Mege regarding a price quote for the setting I fell in love with. He told me he wants to get me the setting I want, but that he really wants to be engaged to me very soon, and that setting would take him about 3 more months to pay for.

So, he asked if A) I would mind a temporary plain white gold solitaire setting so he could propose to me and we could be officially engaged (aww

) very soon. He said that he would upgrade my setting about 3 months after that.

The other B) option was to wait the extra 3 months to be engaged and get the whole *perfect* ring all at once.

So now I''m kind of torn. I want to be engaged to him so badly and be able to tell everyone! But, will people think it''s weird if I change the setting after only 3 months? I know lots of people have setting upgrades, and it doesn''t really bother me to change it for sentimental reasons, and I think my diamond would look great in a simple solitaire anyway. I''m 99.9% sure I want to go with option A but I guess I just need some outside opinions on the situation before I tell him what I think.

Any thoughts?

-Quinnie

 

[neatfreak]

Who cares what others think, do what is right for you!

But if you want something to say to people, just say that your BF was sooooooo smart and kind that he wanted YOU BOTH to pick the setting of your dreams together.

Done and BF comes off looking like a romantic hero.

 

[louisvgirl]

This isn''t about the setting or the ring. (take a look at the SMTR forum) This is about you and him wanting to get engaged and being together. It is so sweet that he wants to get you the setting you want, but it seems to me that you aren''t that crazy about waiting to get engaged for 3 months. He also wants to get engaged soon and that''s what matters. I don''t think there is anything wrong with getting the temporary setting for now, because both of you want to take the next step, and then getting the new setting later when it''s ready. Who care''s what others may think. Both of you want to get engaged sooner than the 3 months, and that''s what counts. I think it''s real sweet that he''s getting you what you really want, but more than that.........he wants to PROPOSE....... to you sooner.

 

[sunnyd]

go with option a!! not just so you get proposed to sooner, but actually lots of people get the temp band before getting their official "ering". if that''s okay with you, then do it, do it!! so exciting!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Awwwww, it''s so sweet to see a man who can''t wait to be engaged! And you guys are openly discussing it in a nice, healthy way! It''s refreshing!! It''s obvious that you guys are both very ready to be engaged, so why not go for it? Your ring is going to look fantastic in a simple solitaire setting and we all know how fab it''s going to look in a Leon setting--this way you get to show the ring to everybody twice!

 

[gwendolyn]

That is just the sweetest thing!! Whichever you choose, you are getting engaged to the man of your dreams, so you''ll win no matter what. Congrats! He sounds so incredibly sweet and I LOVE that he can''t wait to be engaged to you!!!!!!

 

[rubybeth]

I''d go with option A, too. It''s the best of everything. You can both be happier, sooner, and then later have what you really want. And, I like that you could show it off twice!

 

[surfgirl]

You dont need a ring to be engaged you know. Why not let him propose and then you order the ring. We got engaged and then I shopped for the ring. I personally wouldn''t waste good money on a temp setting for 12 weeks, especially since money is an issue to get what you want. Just get engaged and then order the ring...

 

[KimberlyH]

Date: 12/14/2007 9:00:38 PM
Author: surfgirl
You dont need a ring to be engaged you know. Why not let him propose and then you order the ring. We got engaged and then I shopped for the ring. I personally wouldn''t waste good money on a temp setting for 12 weeks, especially since money is an issue to get what you want. Just get engaged and then order the ring...

Ditto.

 

[emilina22]

i vote option A too...i mean whats a temp setting go for? not that much...and its not weird to upgrade after 3 months..who cares what people have to say....

 

[Sparkalicious]

Quinnie - How exciting! Sounds like you have found a fantastic guy!!

It appears as though my opinion differs from everyone else but I tend to think, ''whatever is worth having is worth waiting for''. You both know that you are in love and that you are going to get married. Why not wait until he is able to get the ring of your dreams ... just a couple short months and then take care of the proposal etc all at the same time ... As they say "Where''s the fire?", right? Apart from wanting to be able to say that you guys are engaged, my understanding is that there is no rush, is this correct?

You guys will have your ''forever'', 3 mos is not that long and I''m sure that all the excitement and anticipation of working towards and finally getting your ring and becoming engaged will make the wait all the more worthwhile.

On the other hand, as stated by others, there are no rules, do what makes the both of you happy. There is nothing stopping you from becoming engaged with no ring whatsoever and saving the money that would be spent on a "temp" setting and putting that towards your fab Leon ring instead.

I''m excited for you ... please do keep us updated.

 

[Quinnie]

Hey guys, thanks again for all of the reassurance!!! I was pretty sure I wanted to go with the temp setting but you all made it so much easier to make a final decision.

AND... BF (that amazing wonderful guy I''m totally head over heels for!) told me today that he ordered the white gold solitaire setting on Saturday, so it should be here any day now. I hope this means I''ll be engaged soon! I''m so excited I can''t even find words. I would be so thrilled with a Christmas/Holiday time proposal. YAY!!

-Quinnie

 

[mirre]

Well, it seems like the decision has been made and I know you said that "upgrading" wouldn''t be an issue due to sentimental reasons but I was going to suggest doing what YOU and HE want to do... which you are... and then after you get your dream ering and have the stone reset you could take the "temp setting" and have a pretty sapphire or something set into it for a RHR so that the "temp setting" isn''t "wasted" and you can still put it to use.

 

[Quinnie]

Hehe, great suggestion, Mirre. Maybe a green amethyst? I''ve seen a lot lately and I think they''re gorgeous.

 

[mirre]

Sounds pretty!

Good luck hopefully you won''t have to wait long!

 

[Quinnie]

UPDATE: He has the ring!!

He picked it up yesterday! He can''t even look at me he''s so excited. He told me to keep my nails up to date (lol) and that I would be engaged by 2008. YAY!

Anyone else dying of suspense out there? Good luck to all of the lovely LIW!

-Quinnie

 

[FrekeChild]

I''m dying of suspense! That''s awesome! And I''m excited for you! I can''t wait to hear the story and see the pics!!!

Good luck!!!