Extending the expecting wait time... (sigh)....

[Junkenpo]

So BF and I are in an LDR, with him projected to move back to my area in April. We both started new jobs about 4mo back which are stressful and time-consuming.... we have to "sneak" moments to talk, like the 15min or so he has on his drive to work in the AM...and just before I go to bed around 8-830pm. It sucks.

The one thing we are both holding onto at this point is that at least in April, we''ll finally be together & moved in. I have told him that I want to be engaged before we move in together... because at the beginning of this year, we had our "talk" and he made it clear that he saw US as a forever thing...


I had been looking forward to an engagement sometime this year, simply because he did mention he had a ring to trade-in (he was engaged to his high-school sweetie but that didn''t work out) and I just figured he''d be working toward that....

Anyway...the stress from our jobs is ridiculous to both of us, and we both are feeling the strain and our conversations at this point are repititions of "I love you, I miss you, you are the ONLY good/stable/positive thing in my llfe" and how we''re both looking forward to him moving back so at the very least, we''ll have the opportunity for daily hugs and kisses and other physical support...

Last night, after he asked if I was sticking around "forever" and I said yes.... I took a deep breath and asked what timeline I was looking at to be able to make an "official" announcement. We''ve been talking about being married and having kids and sharing a mortgage and looking for furniture and paying bills for MONTHs now.... and I kind of want to be able to talk to my parents about it....

So... I asked... am I looking at....by the end of this year? Or before he moves back?

And he said he was still working on the finances and by before he moves back.

So.... unless he''s trying to lead me off some sneak proposal (which i doubt) then I have to push my engagement expections back... so instead of another month and a half... possibly another 4months beyond that.

But hey! I guess on the positive note, at least I know for sure that one is coming up!!

 

[~*Alexis*~]

well its better to know that you are both on the same page rather than to find out later that its just not going to work.

Do you have any idea what he''s looking at in a ring or no?

 

[Junkenpo]

LOL... BF & I have been "together" for almost 4 years now...though I was on friendly terms with him way before that. I don''t think I would''ve attempted a long distance relationship if I didn''t know him as well as I did.


As far as rings go... lol... I found PS right around the time he mentioned he had a ring to trade in....so he''s got the info on cut/color/clarity, setting that I want.. , along with the address to this site... so he might be peeking in to read my posts, but I doubt it, since he''s so busy with work.

Since it''s his $$, I''m leaving the carat size up to him. But, considering he showed me the paperwork for the "other" ring, I''m fairly certain that I''m looking at something that''s at least a half carat, which is great bc I''ve tiny hands. Anything that size or bigger will look huge.


I think I was mostly hoping to start off the new year with a nice positive change, not to mention being able to start planning for a wedding without too much rush.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

you can always start planning even though you dont have the ring yet.... lots of people do it.