Family dog died

[zhuzhu]

My mother has a sweetest dog named Honey. She has received Honey as a comfort-gift after the passing of my father 7 years ago. Sweet honey has brought so much love and comfort into her life and I can not even begin to imagine how heartbroken she is right now with Honey''s sudden MI (heart attack), which leads to her death in 2 days.

I sent her flowers (she lives in Asia) and called her, but feel hopeless that there is not much more I can do for her right now. How do you comfort your loved one when they lost such a precious best friend so suddenly?

What''s even more strange is that Honey died on the anniversary date of my father''s death. Is there a much bigger force in the universe that we simply can''t comprehend?

 

[Erin]

Things work in mysterious ways.
I''ve found that people like to talk about it initially. Maybe you could mail her pictures she doesn''t have or retell a favorite memory. To know that she will not be forgotten and that her memory lives on is a comforting way to say goodbye.

I''m sorry for her loss. That IS interesting about them sharing the same day...

 

[bee*]

Wow I can''t believe honey died on your father''s anniversary. That''s strange! I''m so sorry to hear of her passing. Just be there for your mom if she wants to talk and I think that it''s lovely that you sent her flowers.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 4/23/2008 2:41:15 PM
Author:zhuzhu
My mother has a sweetest dog named Honey. She has received Honey as a comfort-gift after the passing of my father 7 years ago. Sweet honey has brought so much love and comfort into her life and I can not even begin to imagine how heartbroken she is right now with Honey''s sudden MI (heart attack), which leads to her death in 2 days.

I sent her flowers (she lives in Asia) and called her, but feel hopeless that there is not much more I can do for her right now. How do you comfort your loved one when they lost such a precious best friend so suddenly?

What''s even more strange is that Honey died on the anniversary date of my father''s death. Is there a much bigger force in the universe that we simply can''t comprehend?

Personally, I believe there is and as time goes on, I am even more convinced. I am sure Honey is now with your Father, and I hope your Mother can find some comfort in these sad days. If your Mom has email, keep in contact with her that way if you can, or send her letters and cards whenever you get the chance. I am so sorry.

 

[Skippy123]

Zhuzhu, sweetie I am sorry; huge hugs and prayers outgoing to you and your family.

 

[scarleta]

Zhuzhu: I am so very sorry.Perhaps you can get her some books that deal with that topic.Or recommend some reading material.there are lots of them I am not sure what language your Mom would read in, but I''am sure you can find some in any language.
Its very difficult to loose a beloved pet, it will take lots of time to accept it.Whatever you do don''t ever tell her to get over it because it was only a pet.
( you most likely won''t but just in case ,as it does happen( speaking from personal experience here) and it really hurts.)
I hope she find peace in the memories of the loved one soon..

 

[FireGoddess]

That stinks.

I think the best thing you can do is just be there for her. She may want to talk about it or she may want distraction from it, either way, just checking up on her and letting her talk will help a lot, I''m sure.

 

[Dee*Jay]

zhuzhu, I''m very sorry to hear of Honey''s passing. Biggest hugs outgoing to your mom.

 

[LegacyGirl]

This brought tears to my eyes. Your poor Mom. I''ll keep her in my thoughts.

 

[Blair138]

Date: 4/23/2008 2:41:15 PM
Author:zhuzhu
What''s even more strange is that Honey died on the anniversary date of my father''s death. Is there a much bigger force in the universe that we simply can''t comprehend?

Sorry to hear about your mom''s dog zhuzhu-4 years ago our family dog died on the anniversary of my grandfather''s death. My grandpa died from cancer and the family dog had to be put to sleep because of rapidly spreading cancer. I believe that my dog knew he was going to die that day because he stayed outside and would not come by anyone in my family (he was NOT an outside dog). Once my parents came home, he had a seizure and we rushed him to the vet. I know he waited for everyone to be home and I think there''s a reason it was on the same day as my grandfather.

You probably know of this poem but just in case Rainbow Bridge

careful though-it makes me cry all the time

 

[zhuzhu]

Thanks everyone for your kind words. All along I thought I was sad for my mother, it just hits me that actually I love Honey too and am so sorry that she left us.

I love her for always greeting me with affection and kisses when I visit every once in a very long while, I love her for having kept my mom from missing my dad too much staying at an empty apartment by "taking mom for a walk" everyday. I love her for being so forgiving of my idiot brother when he forgets to feed her during the time mom is out of town. I love her for wanting to visit my father''s grave yard religious with my mom multiple times a year, even when the trip makes her sick (they have to drive up a very steep mountain to get to the place). She is such a small dog with a huge heart, and I wish so much that she is in a better place with no pain and discomfort. It will take a long time for my mom to heal, and I hope Honey''s spirit will protect my mom from excess sorrow in the meantime.