Family/Guest list help

[Diva0413]

So I''m faced with a small awkward moment and I need some advice. I''ll try to make it short, but sorry in advance if it gets long...

FI and I sent out our wedding invites about 2 weeks ago. I have a large extended family because my Mom''s parents got divorced, her father remarried and "adopted" 5 step-children. Not only have they all been invited to the wedding, but their children have been invited as well. Here comes the awkward moment. One of my step-uncles, also has step-children and I''m perfectly fine with inviting them to the wedding. Except I just found out that one of his step-children got married (a big surprise to the rest of the family) and he wants to bring his wife to the wedding. And normally, I would oblige, but there some things that are bothering me. First, when they got married, how come no one in the family was invited to their wedding or at least told of them getting married? Second, since no one has met my step-uncle''s, step-child''s wife, is it wrong for me to feel weird for having my wedding as the event for their big introduction?

I just want to make sure I''m not having a bridezilla moment...

 

[mrowmrowsmom]

I understand the frustration that your wedding will turn into a family reunion/meet-and-greet, instead of being focused on you and your hubby. However, you should invite the spouse of anyone that''s invited. That''s just the way it is.

 

[Diva0413]

Date: 8/4/2009 10:17:04 AM
Author: mrowmrowsmom
I understand the frustration that your wedding will turn into a family reunion/meet-and-greet, instead of being focused on you and your hubby. However, you should invite the spouse of anyone that''s invited. That''s just the way it is.

Oh absolutely. I''m not thinking about not inviting her, but I can''t help but feel a little slighted because they''re so eager to come to my wedding, but didn''t invite any of us to theirs. I just wanted to make sure I wasn''t having a case of "stinking thinking".

 

[mrowmrowsmom]

Lol, ok. Totally understandable. Not at all bridezilla.

 

[LilyKat]

Was it an elopement or really small wedding? If so, it''s understandable that they didn''t invite all their extended family. I would only feel weird if it was a 200-guest wedding and you still didn''t make the guest list.

I do understand your feeling that your wedding might be a bit overshadowed by their introduction to the family, but to be honest, I don''t think you need to worry too much. You''ll be the one in the big dress with all the attention

You''re not being a bridezilla at all, but I wouldn''t let it bother you.

 

[Diva0413]

Date: 8/4/2009 10:36:58 AM
Author: LilyKat
Was it an elopement or really small wedding? If so, it''s understandable that they didn''t invite all their extended family. I would only feel weird if it was a 200-guest wedding and you still didn''t make the guest list.

I do understand your feeling that your wedding might be a bit overshadowed by their introduction to the family, but to be honest, I don''t think you need to worry too much. You''ll be the one in the big dress with all the attention

You''re not being a bridezilla at all, but I wouldn''t let it bother you.

Thanks Lilykat! I feel better now; I think I needed some sound advice from my PS ladies! But to answer your question, we''re having some difficulty getting some information about their wedding. The funny thing is no one seems to have any details. As a matter of fact, when my FI and I announced our upcoming wedding to that side of the family, and my grandparents were going on about how I''m the first grandchild to get married, my step-uncle took that opportunity to stand up and announce that his stepson had already gotten married. No more information other than that, not even when they got married. So maybe I''ll assume they eloped? Dunno.