feeling down

[ficklefaye]

this isn''t really wedding related, but i''ve been having some terrible days at work lately, i''m slowly starting to realize that i only stayed at this job because i needed money to pay off my wedding, with less than two weeks to go, i don''t know what to do with myself, i''m lucky to even have a job right now

i guess first thing after the honeymoon, i can start jobhunting, i''m just afraid to test the water because i''ve felt so secure in this job i''ve had for years

any words of encouragement or advice would be really helpful

 

[rhbgirl24]

I''m not sure I have words of encouragement, but I am in the same position! I hate my job now. It pays OK and I''m just staying there because number 1) its a job and i''m lucky to have a job and 2) I really needed extra money to pay for the wedding. But behind a desk for the government isn''t my idea of fun..........

 

[cocolaw]

hey girls! i''m sorry to hear that both of you are down on your jobs! it sucks to be in a job you don''t love. i was like that before i was laid off...i remember being kind of relieved when it finally happened.....now about 7 months later i am having a horrible time finding a good job. i interviewed (second round interview) for my dream position last wednesday and now i am going out of my mind waiting to find out if they invite me back for the last round. if i can give you any advice at all, please do not leave your job until you have a backup. you are a much more desirable candidate being employed, than you would be if you were unemployed. i have no idea when i will be working again and i would do about anything at this point.

ficklefaye: just grit your teeth through the next 2 weeks!! you should be getting really excited about your wedding!! i forgot-do you have honeymoon plans? maybe what you need more than anything is for the stress of the wedding to go away, and for a nice break from work.

 

[MonkeyPants]

ficklefaye, I''m also in the same boat. I don''t *hate* my job but I feel like it''s not challenging anymore. There have been many days where I have to force myself to get up and tell myself, "I love work!" just to be able to drag my feet in the office. But coco is right, you are a much more desirable candidate if you have a job when you''re interviewing, so hang in there!

maybe start sending out resumes after your honeymoon?

 

[ficklefaye]

rhbgirl, strangely enough, i have been looking for a government job, i have been working in the private sector for almost 7 years and i was looking for something different

cocolaw, thank you for your advice, maybe you are right, maybe the vacation will do me good, don''t get my wrong, i am looking forward to my wedding

we are going to new zealand the week after, we bought tickets when qantas was having that 2 for 1 deal

monkeypants, sorry you have to force yourself to go to work, i guess we all have to find something different at some point, good luck!

 

[lulu66]

ficklefaye, i''m sorry you''re not loving your job right now. i think most of us have been there at some point! i hate to encourage to stay in a job that''s making you unhappy but it is really hard to get a new job unless you have a job--as cocolaw pointed out! personally i have quit a job which was making me miserable before without a backup (ended up going back to grad school); for me it was the right choice at the time, but i don''t think i''d make the same choice if i was in the situation now.
my advice (if you want it), is to set your sights on your wedding, maybe a countdown calendar at work?, ENJOY your honeymoon, and start looking for a new job you would love after you get back!! good luck!!!