feeling like i could do without my ering, anyone else?

[cali]

as a girl i used to admire my moms ring (she has a 2ct. tiffany solitare my grandparents purchased when my parents decided to get married, what a sparkler) and when i got older i knew i wanted a pretty ering too.

i ended up getting enganged (and then married) to a wonderful man who grew up in another culture (one without such a big ering obsession), and after we decided to get married there was a bit of a discussion about the ring. in the end i got a simply beautiful ering and a wedding band with a bit of sparkel.

fast forward to now, ive owned the ring for about 2 years, and now i feel like if someone came to me and said "ok, you have to give it back now" i would, and i would almost be happier just to wear the wedding ring and nothing else. but now that we spent the $6000 on the ring, it seems really stupid not to wear it.

any suggestions for what i could do? or just similar experiences? or perhaps i just have to learn my lesson that in the end i''m not so into material things and keep that in mind for the future?

thanks!

 

[sistagrl2004]

I can understand your delimma. You can solve your problem by mailing it to me.. I will take good care of it...


Seriously, though for some people getting "the ring" was more about the gesture and less about the material object, while others (like me!). will love to wear bling in all its forms for EVER.. There is no right or wrong.. some people have 10''s of thousands of dollars worth of jewerly locked up in a safety deposit box, rarely seeing the light of day.

I think this is also a lesson for the future.. To really think about the practicality of material possessions for YOU. Unless your husband will be completely offended..it''s normal for many to only wear their ring on special occaisions!

 

[lmurden]

Date: 3/28/2006 7:49:20 AM
Author: sistagrl2004
I can understand your delimma. You can solve your problem by mailing it to me.. I will take good care of it...


Seriously, though for some people getting ''the ring'' was more about the gesture and less about the material object, while others (like me!). will love to wear bling in all its forms for EVER.. There is no right or wrong.. some people have 10''s of thousands of dollars worth of jewerly locked up in a safety deposit box, rarely seeing the light of day.

I think this is also a lesson for the future.. To really think about the practicality of material possessions for YOU. Unless your husband will be completely offended..it''s normal for many to only wear their ring on special occaisions!

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!

 

[eks6426]

A lot of my friends don''t wear their e-rings all the time. They tend to wear their wedding bands for every day and only pull their e-rings out for things like dinner out with hubby or dinner parties with friends and other special occasions. However, it does seem to bug their husbands. More than one have commented about how "they put so much time and money into a ring she rarely wears."

 

[cali]

You can solve your problem by mailing it to me..

thats very generous of you .

I guess I will call it my lesson for the future. My husband won''t care one way or the other, since the whole thing was pretty forigen to him anyone he isnt very attached to it (although I guess I might get an "i told you so").

Perhaps my feelings will change also if/when we move back to the US, where I live now its more rare for people to have erings with "big" diamond (and by big i mean more than like .25 ct) so it stands out as being strange. And I hope one day I will have a son or daughter I can pass it on to.

Thanks for the thoughts.

 

[february2003bride]

Yes, I see your point!

My DH is Indian (I''m American) however he''s lived here since 1982, became a US Citizen in 2000 and is "Americanized." If fact, he says he''s more American than Indian (his parents hate that). DH was even married before to an American so he "got" the whole engagement ring thing but in the Indian culture, e-rings aren''t really done. I''m not even sure his mom has a wedding band now that I think about it.

Anyway, I do sometimes wish we had spent the $6K on a gorgeous diamond eternity wedding band and then put the rest into savings or into furniture (I do wish we hadn''t spent so much on our wedding, specifically my wedding gown) for our home.

BUT- what''s done is done and who''s to say if we had done that I wouldn''t be sitting here wishing I had an e-ring? Can you see how my DH sometimes can''t win?

I''m not sure I could just give back my e-ring (to answer your question) because it does mean a lot to me, and I love it.

But yes, I get what you are saying!

 

[cali]

february2003bride, i really agree that if i hadn''t gotten it in the first place, then i would still be wishing i had one, i guess i cant win! too bad you cant borrow one for a few years to get the need to wear one out of your system

 

[squarediamondlove]

Just food for thought...

Have you though that maybe there is something about the ring that makes you not care for it. It may be just that you don't really care for jewelry or diamonds, but it may also be that there is something about it that you don't like and can't admit to or just don't realize that that is what it is. Have you though about resetting it? Halo setting maybe?

When I was engaged the first time, I picked out a 1ct marquis (H/I color) with baggets and I really never cared for it or looked at it closely. I can't even remember ever cleaning it.

When I broke off the engagement I really didn't care one way or the other that I had to give up the ring. However, now I am absolutely obsessed with my current E-ring, given by my soon to be. It is a far better cut and sparkles like mad man and its a 1.97 D VVS2. For me, I think it was the cut that made the difference!

Why not try and go into a store that carries nice quality diamonds like Fortuneoff and try them on to see if you would think differently if you had a different ring.

 

[FireGoddess]

Date: 3/28/2006 9:42:08 AM
Author: cali
And I hope one day I will have a son or daughter I can pass it on to.

This is kinda what I was thinking - a wonderful heirloom for one of your children. And every so often you can pull it out and wear it. (FYI my sister has laid pre-emptive claim to my mom's ering...!!!...and my mom ain't goin' anywhere soon)

 

[moon river]

Date: 3/28/2006 7:49:20 AM
Author: sistagrl2004
I can understand your delimma. You can solve your problem by mailing it to me.. I will take good care of it...


Seriously, though for some people getting ''the ring'' was more about the gesture and less about the material object, while others (like me!). will love to wear bling in all its forms for EVER.. There is no right or wrong.. some people have 10''s of thousands of dollars worth of jewerly locked up in a safety deposit box, rarely seeing the light of day.

I think this is also a lesson for the future.. To really think about the practicality of material possessions for YOU. Unless your husband will be completely offended..it''s normal for many to only wear their ring on special occaisions!

You are a riot Sistagrl.