Feeling SO MUCH better!!!

[Blair138]

Well-I took all the advice given to me by all the other LIW in my other post about how I was unhappy and I talked with the BF last night. It started out REALLY BAD because I couldn''t contain all of the feelings I was keeping inside for so long. I was not very nice, to say the least, but I got out all of my frustrations and told him all of the things that I was feeling. I told him that I didn''t understand why it was taking so long, that when his deadline (March 31) that he told me about passed, I really got angry and resentful, that I feel like the secrecy that goes along with planning a proposal is ridiculous and I feel like it''s the one part of our relationship that really SUCKS because I feel like I am being lied to and strung along. I was crying, but I got it all out and I made him listen to me. He told me A LOT of things that I didn''t know, and that the main reason is money (which I didn''t understand) but he put it into perspective. He really opened up to me about his plans without divulging too much info and made me feel a lot better.

Basically-he has been saving, but he wants to be able to buy me a ring and have money left for our future, to buy a house when we get married. He has been investing like crazy and has a "goal" in mind. He said he needs 2-3 more months. We did agree that we want to get married next year and he even gave me a hint about carat size and budget and all I can say is

!!!!

So anyways-thanks for all your help and support-things are SO MUCH better now that I talked to him. I''m probably need to continue to vent and be crazy

on here because now it feels like it''s SO CLOSE but I feel a LOT better now

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/20/2008 10:15:33 PM
Author:Blair138
Well-I took all the advice given to me by all the other LIW in my other post about how I was unhappy and I talked with the BF last night. It started out REALLY BAD because I couldn''t contain all of the feelings I was keeping inside for so long. I was not very nice, to say the least, but I got out all of my frustrations and told him all of the things that I was feeling. I told him that I didn''t understand why it was taking so long, that when his deadline (March 31) that he told me about passed, I really got angry and resentful, that I feel like the secrecy that goes along with planning a proposal is ridiculous and I feel like it''s the one part of our relationship that really SUCKS because I feel like I am being lied to and strung along. I was crying, but I got it all out and I made him listen to me. He told me A LOT of things that I didn''t know, and that the main reason is money (which I didn''t understand) but he put it into perspective. He really opened up to me about his plans without divulging too much info and made me feel a lot better.

Basically-he has been saving, but he wants to be able to buy me a ring and have money left for our future, to buy a house when we get married. He has been investing like crazy and has a ''goal'' in mind. He said he needs 2-3 more months. We did agree that we want to get married next year and he even gave me a hint about carat size and budget and all I can say is

!!!!

So anyways-thanks for all your help and support-things are SO MUCH better now that I talked to him. I''m probably need to continue to vent and be crazy

on here because now it feels like it''s SO CLOSE but I feel a LOT better now

Im glad to hear that you are feeling better and that altho it didnt start OUT the way you wanted it to...the convo did indeed go very well!

 

[gwendolyn]

Good, I''m glad you feel better after talking! Surprises are no fun if they mean you have awful doubts and terrible worries the whole time. I''m glad things are going well!

 

[Just_Me]

That is great that you are feeling better!