Feeling sorry for myself....

[MINE!!]

I am sad and in a gumpy mood this morning and I feel like I am on my pity pot... and YES.. sometimes I am entiteled to be on my pity pot...!!!

I get up at 5:30.. make lunches,get th e girls up and ready for the bus by 6:45. leave the house by 7:30... (ha ha IF it was not this morning when I fell into a ball of boo hoos... Class by 8:00 break usually@ 10:00 calss @ 11:00 Lunch (maybe @ 12:00) Class @ 1:00.. Go pick up kids from school 2:30... TAKE THEM HOME... DO HOMEWORK (their homework with them) (WHICH TAKES FOR EVER!!) till 3:30. Ballet for one @ 4:00 Soccer for one @ 5:00... soccer for the other by 5:30... home by 7:00-7:30.. dinner (hopefully before ) 8:00.. showers for kids... nighttime kisses and loves... put them to bed by 9:00.. want to fall down exhausted by 9:30... but still have to do my homework till 10:30.. get to bed by 11:00 (hopefully) and pass out by 11:30... and then that friggin alarm goes off @ 5:30!!

NOw I know that everyone has a hard day... and I am not saying that mine is any harder than anyone else''s.. but I am feeling a bit burnt this morning...

I see a lot of you ladies working out!! I would LOVE to do that... I defintiely need the motivation.

I would like to lose 15.. and this morning I think that I came close to a mental breakdown.. okay fine.. I bawled my eyes out cause everything I tried on made me look like a Macy''s day balloon. I was late for class.. I did not eat breakfast.. no coffee... I had a ton to do before I got out the door. I left too late and got stuck in traffic... couldn''t find a parking space.... I looked like Hell warmed over and I am exhausted and meotional and I still haven''t completely finished this stupid paper and I can only do it at certain times during the day... HA HA HA WHERE??? WHERE DURING THE DAY!!!!

The problem is WHEN? WHEN do I find the time? WHEN?

I have been unmotivated, sad, weepy, exhausted and just plain miserable... and today it just REALLY sucks!!

I think sometimes people forget that the big stuff that comes along is sometimes easier than all the little stuff one after another....

Most days I am fine.. the past few I have just been in a real funk!

*sob* *sob* I want my baby doll.

 

[Angel7]

I''m sorry Mine. I really don''t have any words of wisdom. I don''t have the huge responsbility of children so suddenly my "busy" day, doesn''t seem as hectic as it could be!
Try to make time for yourself, even if it''s for 5 minutes. We all have our days when we''re just in a rut.
Good Luck!

 

[njc]

Im with Angel in that i dont have much advice to offer, but im glad to be a listener!

I agree that you need a little me time, even if it is just 5 mintues. And exercising can be as easy as parking a little further away from class and walking. Another idea is walking around the soccer field while your daughters play (you might look a little crazy, but who cares! I wouldnt), You would still be able to watch and be close by. Try and carry around healthy snacks and food to munch on so you dont have to run out to fast food places for meals. Any chance once a week DH could take the kids to their activites?

I know things are easier said than done, but i just wanted to through out a couple things that came to mind. Good luck and complain here all ya want!

 

[decodelighted]

Mine,
Yesterday''s Oprah was about the same topic. "Plot your own Comeback" and taking care of yourself 1st to be a better, more satisfied mom (not to mention - snazzier!)

Maybe check out her website & bulliten boards, cause I bet there are a lot of folks going through EXACTLY that online today signing up for her "Comeback" program.

Sounds like you''ve got a lot going on for the kids, YOU are JUST as important in your family. Kids join YOUR life. JMHO.

 

[Scintillating]

IS there anyone you could Delegate any of your tasks to?
Your SO, your Parents, his parents, Siblings, cousin, Aunts or uncles - or a trusted sitter?
If you could free up a couple hours of your time a couple days a week you might be able to fit it in.
Life's extra hard when you're an adult with children - and still a student.
Nows the time to ask for a little help - no one - not even supermom can do it all herself.

I have a quick workout recommendation.
Mari Winsors - Pilates DVDs - if you only have 20mins you can get in a workout - if you have 1hr you can get a better one. It's quick, a good workout, and you don't have to leave your house.
You have to do it a few times a week for it to be effective. (3 times a week min - 5 or 6 max)

The Beach body line of DVDs is also intriguing. Particularly the power 90 DVDs.

Scintillating...

 

[Tybee]

Oh MINE!

I don''t have kids...so I can''t relate on that end, but I am in Grad school full time, and I teach elementary school full time~ There were days when I''d be out of my house from 7 in the morning until 10:00 at night, and then homework to do!!!!
I just want to say
HANG IN THERE!!!
School is such a great thing that you do for yourself! Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? Do you have a break soon?
Can you work out a carpool situation for ballet etc?
Can your husband help out?
We all feel like we can do it all, but you need a break in there somewhere!
One day I just came home and the dishes weren''t done and I broke out in tears. My FI realized that he would have to put in an extra effort if he didn''t want to see me lose it.

Just know that my heart goes out to you.
Look for that light at the end of the tunnel!!!

 

[AmberGretchen]

Hey Mine - sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time. I agree that everyone is busy, but as others have pointed out, there is usually that 5 minutes that you can take in a day to do whatever makes you feel pampered - for me it can be anything from buying a new lipstick at the drugstore to try out to spending an extra few minutes in the shower and doing a scrub or something to reading a novel in bed before sleep.

However, if you are medically depressed, none of this will help. If these feelings have been going on for a while, you might want to seriously consider talking to your doctor about it. I know there is a lot of stigma attached to this, but its really a medical issue and nothing else - it doesn''t mean you''re a failure or abnormal even - all the statistics I''ve seen say 1/4 or more of the US population suffers from it. If you do have some kind of depression/anxiety issue, you will be so much happier and do so much better if you get treatment. Keep in mind that even if you don''t have "classical" symptoms, you may still need some help - sometimes even just talking to a trained profressional a few times can help. Anyway, I hope you won''t take this as an attack, it just sounds similar to what many people I know have gone through and those who got treatment were so much happier for it.

Good luck.

 

[flopkins]

aww Mine, I''m sorry about your schedule, it sounds incredibly busy!! wow! And here I am, wondering when I can fit a work out into my schedule!
Not sure what I can offer in the way of help though...
Is there any way that you can find carpools for your kids soccer/ballet classes? I know that would reduce the amount of running around... I remember my mom doing that when I was little. Even for two days a week that means you can have a few afternoons off for yourself! Do they ahve soccer/ballet every day of the week?! sheesh!

 

[MINE!!]

Thank you everyone for all of your encouragement.

I WISH there was some way to car pool to some of these things. Unfortuntely, most parents are just as hectic as I am. Many of them have to work.. and I always feel if I have to be out for one of my kids.. I might as well be out for both of them. It was a lot worse when I was single though. I have no family within 3 states and hubby works a bunch. He is going to be able to slow down a bit more (sent out his revised version to Oxford.. his book will be published in MAY.. YEAH!!) We talked tonight and he is going to try to help as much as possible.

Amber~ Thanks for the input.. not depressed.. tired and frustrated is more like it. When I go to bed at night I wake up in the morning feeling like I have never laid down.

njc~thanks!! Five minutes.... ahhh.. I admit sometimes, I take all my 5 minutes on PScope. So I do have some free time... Just would like more sometimes, I suppose.

Deco~ I checked out Oprah website today. I know that it is good for some people... but if I do not do it.. who will? thanks for the recommendation though. Found some interesting stuff there.

Scintillating~ Good Rec. I actually have one of her videos. When I can find 20 minutes I do it. But then I miss about a week cause I cannot find the 20 minutes.. then I give up for a while... but Iam going to find a way to do this.....

Tybee~ Almost finished. Finishing up my Honor''s thesis this semester... (is a pain in the A$$) and will grad in the spring.. YEAH!!! Hope my children will see how hard it is and not make the same mistakes as mommy.

Soccer is only on Monday''s and Wed. On Tuesday there is an after school program.. so I can go grocery shopping during that time. Thrusday and Wed. are dance and Tuesdays and Fri are violin. Sat.. are soccer games, soccer games and more soccer games. Sunday... I am not sure what happens on Sunday''s.. I feel too dazed from the week.. this is usually the day that we get ready for the next week, complete projects, clean.. etc.

I am not trying to complain about my life.. I do not want anyone to misunderstand. Heck I LOVE MY LIFE!! I love to see my girls grow and become wonderful little women. I love the time on the soccer field and the way I get to see them all the time. I love the fact that I get to cuddle them and read with them. I love the fact that I am there when they come home from school and I am the first person they tel about the exciting things that happen that day. I love knowing that when they make a goal at practice or a game, that I am the first person they look at from the field. I love to her my daughter tell her friends "Mom works hard, and she is going to school to make sure that she can be with us, but she always has time to listen to me talk about things that bother me.. she''s cool and she''s the bestest." (A conversation that I overheard her telling her friend on the telephone. I know parents love their children.. but I really like them as well... and I am grateful for every minute, every smile, every kiss, every I love you mommy.. and that makes these days worthwhile. But I still get down and I still get sad and I still get frustrated and I still sit on my pity pot.

And I am thankful for everyone for chiming in and letting me sulk. Thank you...thank you thankyou.

 

[flutterby]

MINE, you have a wonderful life with beautiful children and do you know what? you have the right to be overwhelmed for a day, or even to wish for a day to yourself! I find it hard to make it to the gym and make healthy choices and I dont have half the responsibility that you do. However, the fact that you do all that you do with your family and not pay or have other people do it, really makes you a GREAT mom. And honestly, that is so much more important than those extra 10 pounds, and you obiously know that. SO have your pity party, and then get back to your life, because as busy as you are, you really are lucky to have a life (and a family) that you love!

 

[selflove]

MINE--I''m totally empathizing with you, I know exactly how you feel, like there''s just not a free minute in the day, and when you do find some free time you''re just so exhausted that all you can do is melt into the couch but your head doesn''t slow down b/c you''ve got too much going on inside it! And then you get up the next morning and do it all over again! It totally takes its toll day after day, and you KNOW what you need to do to make it better, but it''s just so hard to find the time (and physical and mental energy) to do it. Keep your chin up--Thanksgiving holiday will give you a break from classes for a little while and then the long xmas break shortly thereafter. The family obligations/activities won''t stop but at least you''ll have a reprieve from school.

Hang in there--you''re not alone and we ALL need a pity party from time to time!

 

[icekid]

MINE- though I don''t have any kids, I feel for you... and I know my mom does too, with 4 children who are/were serious athletes. And my dad travels a LOT for work. It''s tough and I am sure she never had enough time for herself. When she and my dad worked at the same place,they always used to walk at lunch to get in some exercise. I bet you could fit in something like that if you really try.

Make sure to take care of yourself! Your girls need a happy and healthy mommy