FF getting educated

[bubbly1126]

So with about 5 months until the actual proposal is (supposed) to happen, I''ve looked at various different styles of traditional e-rings and eternity rings and have finally decided that I''ve given FF enough ideas to make a well educated decision on the ring on his very own. (He gets to choose whether it''s a band or a traditional ring) Now, that''s well educated as in about what kind of ring I would like and not necessarily about well educated when it comes to diamonds.

Which leads me to this:

I can''t tell you how many times I''ve asked him to please come here and get educated before purchasing and he keeps promising me that he will. But I am so nervous that he''ll just buy on impulse and not really look at the quality of the stone(s). When I say nervous, I am TERRIFIED! And it''s not really b/c I want this perfect ring but mainly, I don''t want him/us to get ripped of!

So ladies, how do I really get the point across that he needs to be educated before making such a HUGE decision? Or do you think I''m just being silly and that I should just trust him on this and leave it be?

Ahh. Please tell me to relax!

 

[neatfreak]

I think he needs to be educated, but at the same time I assume he''s a smart boy so if you''ve told him this is the place to go for information, he should know by now.

 

[ckrickett]

woo I understand that same thing with my SO.

does he ask you what you like, what styles, cut, how big... if he ever shows any glimmer of interest from your point you IMMEDIATLEY bring him here... or educate yourself enough to be able to tell him what you want (I tell mine cut color clarity and make him recite it back to me.... rofl).. I think when I first mentioned hearts and arrows to him he got really confused.

anyway super good luck with getting him on here, or any sort of education.

You want the perfect ring, he wants to get you the perfect ring and you deserve not to get ripped off/cheated.

 

[absolut_blonde]

I've sent SO pics/links to settings and diamonds. At first, I just sent him photos of settings. But then I grew to realize how important the diamond specs were (I was a total newbie) and that B&M stores often aren't the best way to go... so then I sent him links to some example H&A diamonds and settings from Whiteflash.

I am hoping that he'll look over what I've sent him, piece together the common denominators and choose wisely

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Oh and I did give him a vague guideline - that cut matters most, then clarity, I'm not very colour sensitive, quality over size within reason... but he did ask for that level of detail. That one might depend more on the guy.

 

[sammyj]

I think it depends on what kind of personality your BF has too. I mean, is he typically impulsive with his purchases and he depends on his gut feelings rather than his brain? Or does he like doing research and getting the most amount of info as possible, relevant or not? My guy is the latter and I sent him links from PS and suggested that he lurk a little as he wasn''t comfortable joining the forum. I also introduced him to the Cut Adviser which he loves (he''s an engineer and really values numbers!). Something that my BF tells me all the time is not to worry and that I will love my ring because of its sentimental value. I am also very concerned about him getting ripped off but I trust him to do his part.

Have faith in your guy but you can send subtle hints. If you know the parameters of your dream ring you can always send your BF threads that are similar to give him an idea of what he''s supposed to spend.

 

[katica]

Well if he''s like my boyfriend and prizes himself on being smart with his money, you can always appeal to that side of him and urge him not to get ripped off. Someone else gave me good advice on the same issue and told me to mention to him how hard he works for his money and not to throw it away. Once I brought this up my BF was more interested in learning about specs and asked me to save useful websites in our favourites folder. You can try this too. I hope you''ll get through to him!!

 

[trillionaire]

try making PS his home page, or one of the pages about the 4C''s. Pretty sure he will get the point

 

[lovelee]

I know exactly how you feel! For the longest time I tried to get him involved when I was actively trying to educate myself on diamonds. Every once in a while, he''d get mildly interested, but never thorough enough to satisfy me.

I set his homepage to the 4C''s page too!

He''d listen to everything I had to teach him but he never really took the initiative to educate himself.

I guess the point I''m trying to get to is this: I ended up picking out the diamond myself. We are both thrilled with it, and he has said several times already that he''s glad that I picked it out. He probably wouldn''t have had the patience to say no to so many diamonds until the right one came along.

So to really get to the point, my advice would be:... unless the two of you really need the element of surprise when it comes to what the diamond looks like, I''d recommend that you be VERY involved in the process .. or pick it out yourself.

 

[LostSapphire]

I think that even though pointing him to this website is a very clever idea, it is still very overwhelming! SO MUCH INFORMATION!!

One of the ladies here made a book for her sweetie: not only with pics of the style of ring she would love, but it also had pages on the 4 cs, gave links to internet vendors, etc. I thought that was brilliant (IMHO), because it got him the information he needed without giving so much as to make the guy run in the other direction!

LS

 

[bubbly1126]

Thanks, ladies!

I think I am going to set his homepage to pricescope! lol... Or make a book of the things I am interested in and such.

I know I''m worrying for nothing. I know he''ll make a wise decision... it''s just all so nerve-racking!

 

[mynewobsession]

One thing I''ve learned over the past several years with my BF is that I tend not to give him enough credit. Maybe this is what is happening with you? I think that if you have given him several helping hands in the way of picking out the styles you like and telling him about PS, he''ll do just fine without you. You wouldn''t want to get to the point where he feels like you''re nagging him or that you don''t trust him to pick out a nice stone. If he''s going to be spending several thousand dollars of his hard earned money on something, I''d bet that he''ll know better than spend it on the first bling he sees!

I totally know where you''re coming from, though. It''s so hard to sit back and let him make such a big decision on his own!

Good luck!