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Brilliant_Rock
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I can''t be the only LIW who hangs on these, and since it''s my first real "hint" (despite long conversations about marriage and being together, those conversations that always hovered in the hypothetical range and dipped every so often into probability) I''m all a flutter.
I told BF that a high school pal of mine wants to propose to his girlfriend and was asking me all sorts of ring questions. I wasn''t bating him, I was just sharing how happy I was for my pal. I had sent my pal to this site because, as I don''t know the girl and know very little about the process, I figured, hey...I can be helpful more in helping you if you show me (and everyone here!) some pictures.
BF gets all "I SO know about this" (granted he does, because he was engaged about 7 years ago, didn''t get married) and was trying to educate me about rings. I listened patiently as he went on, my heart sort of dropping because I felt I had inadvertently brought him into a thought pattern about his ex. I was startled when he said, "Tell your friend to try for a quality diamond of at least 1.5 carats."
I reiterated that I don''t know his price range and I certainly don''t know his girlfriend''s taste in that sort of thing.
He went on, "Well, for you, I think you''d want 1.5 carats, classic, elegant, not gaudy, but with an interesting band."
And he paused. And my mind started racing because that''s certainly not narrowing it down, but it is pinning him down, you know?
I said, "Yeah, that sounds like me." (Trying not to laugh b/c I''d earlier tonight posted in another thread about whether erings should be a surprise or should it be a joint effort). And I''d always thought BF would really want to totally exclude me from the process. I continued, "But I''m a newbie about these things."
"I guess you weren''t looking that closely at the rings on my computer." Ok, ouch, but funny (we''re joking about it now.)
Didn''t phase Mr. Only Last Weekend I Told You I''d Want To Surprise You and I Told You I Do These Things In Phases and I''m Only Browsing At Rings and I''m Only Telling You Because You Snooped on My Computer and Saw some Sites I was Perusing.
No, he goes on, "So did you discuss how he should propose?"
"No," but darn it, I wish I had, because that would have been one heck of a way to find out what he was thinking.
"Well," says BF oh-so-off-the-cuff, "tell him to put it in some jello. Oooh, honey, why is my jello sparkling?" We cracked up and started joking about really bad ways/places my friend could propose. It ranged from an enema spa to a clown car. Silly. We weren''t knocking the jello idea, I don''t want to offend anyone who had a jello-themed proposal. It was his silly voice that started us on the sillier ideas.
Then he gets all serious, "A beach is a good place. Or the top of a building."
"Hmm, you mean places with a view? Yeah, that''d be so beautiful." That''s me. Cool as a cucumber. *btw, he proposed to his ex at someone''s party so this was new territory that I think was aimed at us*
And then he totally changed the conversation to Grey''s Anatomy.
I''m so giddy because BF is a careful speaker, never talking about things flippantly, especially relationship things. Looking back, he built up to telling me he loved me for the first time with similar loaded conversations that I think were intended to feel me out for my reactions. Then it was a go!
It was, as Oprah would say, an a-ha moment for me, a girl who is hesitant to read into anything but knows her guy pretty well.
Or maybe it''s because I was looking at pretty pretty rings tonight for my pal and I started putting out positive vibes to the Universe and the Proposal Fairy.
Good night, all!
I told BF that a high school pal of mine wants to propose to his girlfriend and was asking me all sorts of ring questions. I wasn''t bating him, I was just sharing how happy I was for my pal. I had sent my pal to this site because, as I don''t know the girl and know very little about the process, I figured, hey...I can be helpful more in helping you if you show me (and everyone here!) some pictures.
BF gets all "I SO know about this" (granted he does, because he was engaged about 7 years ago, didn''t get married) and was trying to educate me about rings. I listened patiently as he went on, my heart sort of dropping because I felt I had inadvertently brought him into a thought pattern about his ex. I was startled when he said, "Tell your friend to try for a quality diamond of at least 1.5 carats."
I reiterated that I don''t know his price range and I certainly don''t know his girlfriend''s taste in that sort of thing.
He went on, "Well, for you, I think you''d want 1.5 carats, classic, elegant, not gaudy, but with an interesting band."
And he paused. And my mind started racing because that''s certainly not narrowing it down, but it is pinning him down, you know?
I said, "Yeah, that sounds like me." (Trying not to laugh b/c I''d earlier tonight posted in another thread about whether erings should be a surprise or should it be a joint effort). And I''d always thought BF would really want to totally exclude me from the process. I continued, "But I''m a newbie about these things."
"I guess you weren''t looking that closely at the rings on my computer." Ok, ouch, but funny (we''re joking about it now.)
Didn''t phase Mr. Only Last Weekend I Told You I''d Want To Surprise You and I Told You I Do These Things In Phases and I''m Only Browsing At Rings and I''m Only Telling You Because You Snooped on My Computer and Saw some Sites I was Perusing.
No, he goes on, "So did you discuss how he should propose?"
"No," but darn it, I wish I had, because that would have been one heck of a way to find out what he was thinking.
"Well," says BF oh-so-off-the-cuff, "tell him to put it in some jello. Oooh, honey, why is my jello sparkling?" We cracked up and started joking about really bad ways/places my friend could propose. It ranged from an enema spa to a clown car. Silly. We weren''t knocking the jello idea, I don''t want to offend anyone who had a jello-themed proposal. It was his silly voice that started us on the sillier ideas.
Then he gets all serious, "A beach is a good place. Or the top of a building."
"Hmm, you mean places with a view? Yeah, that''d be so beautiful." That''s me. Cool as a cucumber. *btw, he proposed to his ex at someone''s party so this was new territory that I think was aimed at us*
And then he totally changed the conversation to Grey''s Anatomy.
I''m so giddy because BF is a careful speaker, never talking about things flippantly, especially relationship things. Looking back, he built up to telling me he loved me for the first time with similar loaded conversations that I think were intended to feel me out for my reactions. Then it was a go!
It was, as Oprah would say, an a-ha moment for me, a girl who is hesitant to read into anything but knows her guy pretty well.
Or maybe it''s because I was looking at pretty pretty rings tonight for my pal and I started putting out positive vibes to the Universe and the Proposal Fairy.
Good night, all!
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