First Major Catastrophe!!!----VENT!!!!!

[Class n Sass]

The minister that is marrying my fiance and I called me this afternoon to inform me that he has an 11am ceremony on the same day as my wedding....my ceremony begins at 10:30am. The second ceremony is on Long Island and I live in Staten Island....anyone that is familiar with NYC will know that those two places are not close together. I was soooo upset and am still very upset. I just don''t understand how this happened. He said the other couple told his secretary that their wedding was 5/25 but that they really meant 5/24. That just doesnt make any sense to me. How could one give the wrong wedding date when scheduling the minister??? It just doesn''t sound like a very likely story. I think his secretary screwed up and just now realized it.

He asked me if I could move my ceremony up a little earlier. I told him that it''s absolutely impossible. 10:30 am is early enough considering myself and my 5 bridesmaids have to get hair and make-up done. He then said that he really needs for my ceremony to start on time and then he will be fine. Even if my ceremony starts exactly on time there is still no way in this world that he will make it to LI on time...it''s just totally impossible!! So I really feel like he needs to choose one ceremony. I don''t want to feel like my ceremony is being rushed because he has somewhere else to go. Even if I move my ceremony to 10am he will still not make it to LI on time. After the ceremony I was hoping to get some pictures with him with the photographer. I don''t want him to just pronounce us man and wife and flee the building...UUUGGHHH!!!! I am so annoyed!!! So my fiance and I are now in the middle of trying to decide what to do. He is going to call him tomorrow and discuss it with him some more and express our concerns.

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 1/23/2008 7:27:24 PM
Author:Class n Sass
The minister that is marrying my fiance and I called me this afternoon to inform me that he has an 11am ceremony on the same day as my wedding....my ceremony begins at 10:30am. The second ceremony is on Long Island and I live in Staten Island....anyone that is familiar with NYC will know that those two places are not close together. I was soooo upset and am still very upset. I just don''t understand how this happened. He said the other couple told his secretary that their wedding was 5/25 but that they really meant 5/24. That just doesnt make any sense to me. How could one give the wrong wedding date when scheduling the minister??? It just doesn''t sound like a very likely story. I think his secretary screwed up and just now realized it.

He asked me if I could move my ceremony up a little earlier. I told him that it''s absolutely impossible. 10:30 am is early enough considering myself and my 5 bridesmaids have to get hair and make-up done. He then said that he really needs for my ceremony to start on time and then he will be fine. Even if my ceremony starts exactly on time there is still no way in this world that he will make it to LI on time...it''s just totally impossible!! So I really feel like he needs to choose one ceremony. I don''t want to feel like my ceremony is being rushed because he has somewhere else to go. Even if I move my ceremony to 10am he will still not make it to LI on time. After the ceremony I was hoping to get some pictures with him with the photographer. I don''t want him to just pronounce us man and wife and flee the building...UUUGGHHH!!!! I am so annoyed!!! So my fiance and I are now in the middle of trying to decide what to do. He is going to call him tomorrow and discuss it with him some more and express our concerns.

Ooof. No suggestions except, are you completely set on THIS minister? I''d just change ministers if I could.

 

[cara]

I don''t think your minister is being reasonable, and hopefully he will realize the impossibility of it all soon. He probably was just trying to fix it quick without thinking it through.

So... your job is to calm down, and have your FI calmly talk to him. Just reiterate that you cannot adjust your timeline up at this point and it is unfair to both couples to have their weddings scheduled within half an hour on different islands...

Hopefully reason will set in. If not, is there someone else at your church who could perform the service? Is there any reason in particular for this minister and not another?

 

[enbcfsobe]

all I can think of is the prince in the princess bride yelling at the doddering priest -- MAN AND WIFE, say MAN AND WIFE. it seems like that''s about the length of ceremony you''d get. based on my experiences, it is physically impossible to get to his next wedding on time if he does more than a 1 minute ceremony. i''ve driven thru staten island to get to LI many times. i second gypsy and cara -- i would cut my losses and try to find another minister. this does suck, and i am really sorry that it happened. at least he called and didn''t just try to ''make it work'' without mentioning it. good luck!!

 

[Class n Sass]

My fiance is alot calmer than I am (lol) so I know he will reiterate our feelings to him tomorrow in a calm manner. I was just starting to think that maybe he just told us 11am for the second ceremony to see if we would push our ceremony up a little earlier because he wanted to give himself some extra time. I just can''t imagine him thinking he is going to make the second ceremony on time. I would be livid if I were the other couple knowing that he is going to be late to my wedding.

We really wanted him because we attend his church every week and have been for the past couple of years. My fiance''s grandmother has been a member of the church for many many years and he knows a couple of my FSILs very well. I mean if it comes down to us getting someone new then so be it but I really hope this can be worked out somehow and that I don''t have to go that route.

 

[Kaleigh]

Gosh that stinks, I hope it all works out. Part of me wants to know who scheduled first?? I know there was a mistake on the date with the other couple, but sheesh. I don''t think he''s being realistic on the time frame, that''s a long distance between the two sites, and traffic, etc...

 

[enbcfsobe]

plus, isn''t that memorial day weekend??? i''m pissed off enough i have to go to LI that weekend and fight the beach traffic for my cousin''s bar mitzvah. i can''t imagine how he could think that would work.
part of me agrees with kaleigh -- if those people gave the wrong date, it is their fault, not yours, and you shouldn''t be the ones having to scramble. Why can''t they make their ceremony LATER since it was theoretically their mistake.