FMIL and dress shopping

[soontowed]

I always see people on say yes to the dress bringing their FMILs. Are you supposed to invite them?

 

[Lauren8211]

Supposed to? I don''t know about that, but I know mine certainly was touched and appreciative that I invited her. She really wanted to be there.

 

[SapphireLover]

I''ll ask her to come to see when I''ve whittled it down to a couple or for a fitting. Nobody needs to see my mother and I bickering during the beginning feeler stages of shopping. I think fmil might run off scared and try get DF to call off the wedding when she sees what he is marrying into.

 

[trillionaire]

I would absolutely invite FMIL if it were feasible, but my mom, FMIL and I live in Three different states, east coast, west coast, and midwest, so....

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 7/31/2009 4:33:05 PM
Author: SapphireLover
I''ll ask her to come to see when I''ve whittled it down to a couple or for a fitting. Nobody needs to see my mother and I bickering during the beginning feeler stages of shopping. I think fmil might run off scared and try get DF to call off the wedding when she sees what he is marrying into.

LOL!!

My FMIL came, but I got my dress at a wedding show. FI''s 3 sisters (my BMs), FMIL, my mom and FI''s g-ma were all there.

 

[soontowed]

Date: 7/31/2009 4:33:05 PM
Author: SapphireLover
I''ll ask her to come to see when I''ve whittled it down to a couple or for a fitting. Nobody needs to see my mother and I bickering during the beginning feeler stages of shopping. I think fmil might run off scared and try get DF to call off the wedding when she sees what he is marrying into.

Good call! I can totally see dress shopping with my mother and sister as the battle of the century. Maybe for a fitting.

 

[sba771]

My FMIL really really wanted to come, but I won''t lie- for the first session I just wanted it to be me and my mother. We are SO close and I wanted to share that special moment with just her. I did go only with my mother and my FMIL did say something and I know she was hurt. I told her I would love for her to come to a fitting, but in the end, while I know she was disappointed, it was really important to me that I stuck to my guns because, as silly as it sounds, for me this was an important issue and I know that it was a little sign that I will do what I want and not just cave in all the time.

 

[Blair138]

I invited her to come look at the BM dresses but she couldn''t come...Only my mom, sister and I went to look at dresses. I didn''t want to bring too many people because it was hard enough with my mom and sister giving their opinions! I showed my MIL pictures and she was happy with that...

 

[Londongirl1]

There''s no law that says you''re ''supposed'' to. I would bring my FMIL because she''s cool and we get on well AND because she lives really close to an Alfred Angelo store where I''ve got my eye on a dress, but no-one should feel obliged to bring their FMIL.

 

[ficklefaye]

i didn''t even bring my mom when i tried on dresses, so i agree, there really isn''t any ''supposed to'' when it comes to who your bring, i went to many shops myself until i located THE one and then my cousin came and ok''d it

 

[Gypsy]

I took my FMIL once. But then I took everyone once. She was touched. If you have a good relationship, why not?

 

[NuggetBrain]

I didn''t but that''s because I wasn''t planning on buying a dress my first time out. Surprisingly enough however I did, so I''m kinda bummed that FMIL didn''t get to see it. I''m going to bring her with me when I go for a fitting though, because I do want her to see it on me before the wedding day.

We took her and FFIL to the reception hall though for their opinion, so there''s that I guess.

 

[Diva0413]

I didn''t invite my FMIL dress shopping, but since I have 3 fittings, I''m inviting my Mom to one, FMIL to the second, and Step-FMIL to the third. Since my Mom is my Mom, she''s also welcome to come to all 3.