FMIL Dress Color

[JerseyGrl81]

With my wedding less than a month away my FMIL still hasn''t purchased her dress. She called me yesterday and told me that she wants to get a champagne colored dress. She doesn''t have one in mind, but that is the color she thinks would look nice. When we got off the phone I started to think that I would prefer if she didn''t wear the color since it would be close to mine (ivory) and the colored suit my fiance is wearing (light khaki). Do you think I should let her know I would prefer if she got a different color? My mom is wearing a brownish color called mink btw. Thanks gals!

 

[Blair138]

If she hasn't looked, finding a dress in one specific color might be harder than it seems. My mom went in looking for a style she liked and ended up with the color.

If she asked you what she should wear, I would tell her, and if you have that relationship with her. Otherwise, can you go shopping with her? Steer her towards other colors?

ETA: Champagne can be many different shades, she might end up with something that is a little darker that is nowhere near your colors

 

[VRBeauty]

There are many shades of champagne that do not look much like bridal ivory, and FMIL''s dress will likely have some sheen to it that will keep it from resembling light khaki. So-- I wouldn''t worry too much about the color. (Unless you think she might be trying to steal your thunder or something -- that''s a whole other can of worms!)

I would worry about the fact that FMIL hasn''t purchased a dress yet! I''m sure you''re up to your eyebrows in last minute details, but is there any way you can free up an afternoon or evening to go shopping with her? Or could you suggest an excursion with your mother, or someone else (preferably someone with great fashion sense!) who can help her make a decision?

 

[mrscushion]

Why is it that so many mothers-of-the-groom pick bridal colors (ivory, champagne) for their dresses?

It seems like every other bride I talk to has or has had that issue.

I think that unless it's a very dark champagne, she should get another color -- what color is your mom wearing? ETA: I saw you mentioned your mom is wearing a brown color. Sorry. I would go shopping with FMIL or send your mom with instructions to go shopping with her and get something coordinated and non-bridal.

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 7/3/2009 4:05:05 PM
Author: VRBeauty
There are many shades of champagne that do not look much like bridal ivory, and FMIL''s dress will likely have some sheen to it that will keep it from resembling light khaki. So-- I wouldn''t worry too much about the color. (Unless you think she might be trying to steal your thunder or something -- that''s a whole other can of worms!)

I would worry about the fact that FMIL hasn''t purchased a dress yet! I''m sure you''re up to your eyebrows in last minute details, but is there any way you can free up an afternoon or evening to go shopping with her? Or could you suggest an excursion with your mother, or someone else (preferably someone with great fashion sense!) who can help her make a decision?

I agree - I wouldn''t panic just because she mentions the word ''champagne'' - with so little time before your big day I wouldn''t even let it bother me. I''m sure you''ll have more important things to concern yourself with

 

[honey22]

Just be honest with her, that you are nervous of her wearing a light colour dress that would be similar to yours. It may be a darker champagne that you are ok with. Maybe you can go shopping with her and have a look? I am sure she would be happy to work with you.

Although many of us here know it''s not on to wear a light colour dress to a wedding, some people honestly don''t think about it. She could be very well mortified if she finds out later that she hadn''t thought of it, and you never mentioned it. Better to be safe than sorry.

 

[KimberlyH]

Take this with a grain of salt, my mom wore white, but I''d let her wear whatever makes her feel beautiful. No one will be comparing your dress color on your wedding day, and certainly no one will be confused about who the bride is. Champagne is also a complimentary color to brown, so the family pictures will look nice.

 

[Clairitek]

I wore an ivory dress and MIL wore a champagne dress and I didn''t feel like it was too close to my gown at all! Plus, you''re the bride... no one will really notice what she is wearing except for those few seconds she is escorted down the aisle before you get to make your entrance.

 

[wapila1]

Nobody is going to confuse the FMIL with the bride, no matter what she wears. Frankly, most people won''t even notice what she''s wearing at all. I also agree the champagne sounds like it will complement everyone else''s attire nicely. So, I don''t think it''s worth potentially stirring up trouble. Telling another adult what they can or cannot wear is always a dicey proposition, nevermind when it''s your FMIL! Unless she specifically asks you if you''re ok with it, I''d say let it go.

 

[JerseyGrl81]

Thanks girls. I made plans to go shopping with her on Tuesday to look at dresses. I talked to her today and told her that my fiance''s suit is a light khaki color and that I am going to bring it over tomorrow to show her. The more I think about it, it''s not a concern that her dress will be close in color to mine, but close in color to her son''s suit. That may look weird in pictures if they are the wearing the same color, but there are bigger things to worry about then that!

 

[DMBFiredancer]

Date: 7/3/2009 9:15:57 PM
Author: wapila1
Nobody is going to confuse the FMIL with the bride, no matter what she wears. Frankly, most people won''t even notice what she''s wearing at all. I also agree the champagne sounds like it will complement everyone else''s attire nicely. S

I agree....Its not close enough to worry, so dont stress it

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 7/3/2009 10:58:00 PM
Author: JerseyGrl81
Thanks girls. I made plans to go shopping with her on Tuesday to look at dresses. I talked to her today and told her that my fiance''s suit is a light khaki color and that I am going to bring it over tomorrow to show her. The more I think about it, it''s not a concern that her dress will be close in color to mine, but close in color to her son''s suit. That may look weird in pictures if they are the wearing the same color, but there are bigger things to worry about then that!

I know I''ve already put my $0.02 in but I really don''t see a problem. I actually think it might look nice if your FMIL''s dress compliaments the color of her son''s suit. As long as she doesn''t turn up in a flowing white/ivory dress then you have absolutely nothing to worry about