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Brilliant_Rock
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Am I the only person who has...um...a way with words? I spent most of my childhood reading books, and although I wouldn''t change that, I feel a little socially retarded sometimes. Add to that a healthy dose of cynicism, and well, I don''t always end up saying the right thing.
There''s been a lot of wedding talk between my bf and I lately. One of our friends just got married, another is getting married in September (dating 3 months, another 3 months to launch time. Yikes!), another of his friends got married earlier this month, another one is getting married early August, and we''re attending my cousin''s wedding in late August. Nothing like a crazy mass of weddings to get marriage on the mind, right?
So he mentions that this is the first wedding we''re attending together, and what if it makes me want to get married, right away? That''s what girls are like, right? I very firmly told him that I was not that kind of girl. So then he asks, well, what if it makes him want to get married right away? I said something stupid which I''ve forthwith banished from my memory, laughed, and told him that he was a guy, and guys don''t think like that. Could I have been any more insensitive? I just wanted to bury my head in my book and hide.
That hasn''t been the only incident. There was the time we were at a bar, a girl asked us if we were married, and I said, "No!" very emphatically...which she picked up on and mentioned to my boyfriend. He was very nice about it - joked that he had been planning on proposing that night. I''m apparently very good at changing the subject or making light of things. And the really stupid thing is that I do want to marry him, I''m just horrible at talking about it. I don''t want him to think I''m the kind of girl who would pressure him into marriage just a year into the relationship (I know a lot of you ladies have been waiting a LONG time!). So now I find myself pushing my actions to the opposite end of the spectrum.
I think I had a bit of a breakthrough yesterday. We were cuddling, and touched on our hypothetical marriage. He said, "You would marry me?" and I told him yes, of course, and that he was the best.
Maybe it''s the pressure. We''ve had so many people asking us lately if we were married or when we were going to get married (people who don''t even know us, mind you!), that it''s been a little overwhelming. I suppose once you reach a certain age, and have dated a certain length of time, everyone thinks "go get married!" When it comes to the subject of marriage, it seems like it''s really easy to get that foot-in-mouth feeling!
There''s been a lot of wedding talk between my bf and I lately. One of our friends just got married, another is getting married in September (dating 3 months, another 3 months to launch time. Yikes!), another of his friends got married earlier this month, another one is getting married early August, and we''re attending my cousin''s wedding in late August. Nothing like a crazy mass of weddings to get marriage on the mind, right?
So he mentions that this is the first wedding we''re attending together, and what if it makes me want to get married, right away? That''s what girls are like, right? I very firmly told him that I was not that kind of girl. So then he asks, well, what if it makes him want to get married right away? I said something stupid which I''ve forthwith banished from my memory, laughed, and told him that he was a guy, and guys don''t think like that. Could I have been any more insensitive? I just wanted to bury my head in my book and hide.
That hasn''t been the only incident. There was the time we were at a bar, a girl asked us if we were married, and I said, "No!" very emphatically...which she picked up on and mentioned to my boyfriend. He was very nice about it - joked that he had been planning on proposing that night. I''m apparently very good at changing the subject or making light of things. And the really stupid thing is that I do want to marry him, I''m just horrible at talking about it. I don''t want him to think I''m the kind of girl who would pressure him into marriage just a year into the relationship (I know a lot of you ladies have been waiting a LONG time!). So now I find myself pushing my actions to the opposite end of the spectrum.
I think I had a bit of a breakthrough yesterday. We were cuddling, and touched on our hypothetical marriage. He said, "You would marry me?" and I told him yes, of course, and that he was the best.
Maybe it''s the pressure. We''ve had so many people asking us lately if we were married or when we were going to get married (people who don''t even know us, mind you!), that it''s been a little overwhelming. I suppose once you reach a certain age, and have dated a certain length of time, everyone thinks "go get married!" When it comes to the subject of marriage, it seems like it''s really easy to get that foot-in-mouth feeling!
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