For the first time I got a weird reaction due (I think) to the size of my ring

[innerkitten]

My engagement ring is a .65 old european cut which is very me. I helped pick it out and I love it. The other night I went out with my fiance and two of the guys from his soccer team, and their partners( ones a fiance, ones a newley wed) They both have what I consider to be large stones ( 2 carats plus ) Anyway we were looking at each others rings and when it came time to look at mine everything went silent. I almost felt like they were disapointed in what they saw. I''ve never had a reaction like that from my friends and these women are just acquaintances but still, it felt weird.

 

[goldengirl]

Wow, how utterly tactless.

I think most diamonds are beautiful (frozen spit excluded, of course) and I would absolutely be able to come up with at least SOMETHING nice to say about somebody's ring instead of just being quiet. Even if I had to use the word "interesting".

They've probably got a big case of diamond shrinkage, and didn't know what to say. As long as you love it, no worries!

 

[reena]

EW! what a yucky feeling. i'm sorry that happened to you. i believe i've seen your ring on a prior post and i think it's beautiful.

 

[Maryam]

Wow, what a bummer. I wouldn't feel very good if that happened to me either. But the important thing is that you love your ring and that you got what you want. So while I can totally understand your reaction, I would just let it go. When in doubt, shop...........! I am searching on ebay right now for Donna Karan........I'm hopeless!

 

[Hest88]

How rude. I've gushed over frozen pieces of spit, and yours, as we well know, is gorgeous. You would think these women would be polite enough to pretend they liked your stone!

 

[Jennifer5973]

It is rude--plain and simple. I always compliment people's rings and 99.9% of the time I really mean it, regardless. This is someone's engagement ring--women should be happy for each other and appreciate the beauty in everyone's ring and the spirit in which it was given.

In your case, this reaction is especially unwarranted because your ring is beautiful... Maybe they had never seen that cut before? (extreme benefit of the doubt here)...?

I know it's hard but forget about them.

 

[fancyrock]

rude, rude, rude... Very unfortunate that there are women out there like that. From their LACK OF reaction to your beautiful engagement ring, now YOU have learned something new about them. (not very good)

 

[Todd07]

You probably read them right. They are size queens and you didn't put up a good competition.




Now you have an insight into their character, and whether they should stay as soccer mates or become close friends

Thank God we get to choose our friends.




I think you will always love your ring but they will not remain happy with theirs.

 

[LuvthatSparkle]

That's disgusting extremely materialistic and don't let me forget catty! Remember they are just acquaintences and let it go. They don't sound like the kind of women you want to be friends with anyway. My mom always says "Opinions are like a$$holes everybody's got one!". It's my favorite saying and so very true! lol

 

[innerkitten]

Go figure

Youre right, I'm just gonna have to let this one go.

 

[A recent diamond convert]

I just read this and am absolutely horrified that some women would be so utterly devoid of tact. I am recently engaged. My fiancé doesn't have much and he gave me a 0.16 round brilliant gold ring. I must admit, it was a little small for me, but I still love it and still love having it on my finger.

Your ring is beautiful, and I am so sorry you had to go through that. F&%k them! (Apologies for the word - but it got me really angry!)

 

[stephinextremis]

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On 9/30/2004 11:51:30 PM A recent diamond convert wrote:

I just read this and am absolutely horrified that some women would be so utterly devoid of tact. I am recently engaged. My fiancé doesn't have much and he gave me a 0.16 round brilliant gold ring. I must admit, it was a little small for me, but I still love it and still love having it on my finger.

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I couldn't agree more! My ring is "only" a .60, but to me it is the perfect size- and I've never seen another like it, since it is a Diamonds by Lauren creation

So what if he couldn't afford a huge rock- that's not what's really important, in the end. I wouldn't want someone to go into debt on my behalf for something like this. Besides, I've knocked the thing around so much that I'm terrified of getting a bigger ring until I'm a bit more graceful

An acquaintance at the coffee shop has perhaps a .15 round brilliant set in white gold with a few very tiny accent diamonds in the band. Her fiance doesn't have much money either, but the ring is still amazingly pretty, and it's perfect for her. She's a singer/songwriter who plays a lot of guitar- and she is glad her ring doesn't get in the way, because she doesn't want to even take it off for the length of a performance.

Anyone who would poo-poo your ring just because it isn't of a certain size will probably never be happy with what they have, and will probably never understand the sentiment of a gift given with love, either.

Just my two cents...

 

[ame]

I get crap like that pretty often too. That sucks. Im impressed at how you handled it then as Id have left a nice gaping hole in their heads for a reaction like that. Its kind of like that old crackrock lady here. heh

Anyway...I don't get what the big deal is. Why does everyone have to have the biggest? Why is it bad to not have a huge diamond? What business is it of anyones?

I hate people so bad!

 

[AGBF]

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On 9/30/2004 11:51:30 PM A recent diamond convert wrote:

I am recently engaged. My fiancé doesn't have much and he gave me a 0.16 round brilliant gold ring. I must admit, it was a little small for me, but I still love it and still love having it on my finger.

I have told my story here before, but many people now reading Pricescope have not heard it. My engagement ring, bought in Italy, was an 18K gold band with a knife edge and an oval of gold (like a tiny nest) on top. Inside were (and are) two 1-point diamonds. That made me happy and I cannot imagine caring what anyone thought of it. I didn't buy my first diamond of more than a few points (my husband did give in to nagging and bought me an anniversary band set with several diamonds of under 10 points after a few years of marriage), until more than 20 years of marriage. I was not interested in diamonds until then .

Deborah

 

[bar01]

You said the most important thing about your E-ring ---- it "is very me...I love it.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

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On 10/1/2004 10:03:28 AM ame wrote:

I get crap like that pretty often too. That sucks. Im impressed at how you handled it then as Id have left a nice gaping hole in their heads for a reaction like that. Its kind of like that old crackrock lady here. heh

Anyway...I don't get what the big deal is. Why does everyone have to have the biggest? Why is it bad to not have a huge diamond? What business is it of anyones?

I hate people so bad!----------------

Hahaha I hate people too! lol

Ame - Is your ring .86? This seems huge to me. I'm looking at diamonds of this size and wonder if I'll even feel comfortable wearing such a *huge* stone on my 4.5 size finger.

When other ladies wear larger stones, generally, they look great, but for me, any size over a carat would make me self conscious (and if I won the lottery, I'd buy a HUGE stone, of course, what kind of diamond fanatic would i be if I didn't (?) - lol - but wouldn't wear it except in specific situations). I've decided the .80ish-90s size is perfect for my age and lifestyle (raising two boys) and then a BIGGER stone later when I can carry it off and my kids are less monsters (hopefully, they grow out of the scary stage they're both in now). It's a ten year plan that left my husband a bit perplexed, "what upgrading an upgrade???"

FWIW, my current .42 has never caused negative responses from people. It's a neutral size that isn't likely to offend anyone. . .and I've never gone out with a bunch of gals all sporting 2 carat rings but would in your shoes be glad these gals you spoke of are just acquaintances and not true friends who I would imagine would ooh, ahh any size ring, especially an OEC!

Michelle

 

[Dancing Fire]

i always say here on p.s. and i'll say it again

a beautiful diamond is a beautiful diamond no matter the SIZE !!!

 

[cflutist]

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On 10/1/2004 11:52:20 PM vtigger86 wrote:

i always say here on p.s. and i'll say it again

a beautiful diamond is a beautiful diamond no matter the SIZE !!!----------------

V, spoken like a true gentleman whose 3+ ct diamond cost most than his truck. Hey, I agree with you, but just had to tease you about your diamond vs truck thread.

 

[quaeritur]

Well, all I can say is that I feel sorry for those women and envious of innerkitten. The first are headed for a life full of dissatisfaction, while the latter has her priorities straight.

Seriously, that's just so pathetic of them. Don't even waste your time or energy being upset -you're by far the luckier one in that group, innerkitten!

 

[Judi W]

I'm sure your ring is lovely....as for the "ladies" and their rudeness... Women who are that shallow will likely be the ones that end up as part of the divorce statistics and you will wear your beautiful diamond for years after they have taken theirs off


!

 

[ringbling17]

Something very similar to this happened to me a few months ago at work. I was wearing my other wedding set and one of my co- workers asked if she could look at my ring. She wears a 2+ carat round diamond. She took one look at it and actually had the nerve to say to me, " Oh, so what did you say when your husband gave it to you? It's so small."


Then she burst out laughing. I didn't say anything and just smiled at her.


I happen to love my other set and wear it very proudly! I am uncertain about the specs, but the center stone is an OMC and I believe it is .75 carats or so. It looks very nice on me and I loved picking out that set, because they were the first real pieces of jewelry my husband purchased for me.


And, it doesn't look small to me at all. And if it does, who cares!!!

Don't worry about what other people think. All that truly matters is that you are happy and you are satisfied.


By the way, here is a picture of the set.

 

[fancyrock]

kayla,




I think your wedding set is very beautiful. I love the princess cut to compliment the round center stone. VERY NICE!!

 

[reena]

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On 10/3/2004 11:05:26 PM kayla17 wrote:









Something very similar to this happened to me a few months ago at work. I was wearing my other wedding set and one of my co- workers asked if she could look at my ring. She wears a 2+ carat round diamond. She took one look at it and actually had the nerve to say to me, ' Oh, so what did you say when your husband gave it to you? It's so small.'


Then she burst out laughing. I didn't say anything and just smiled at her.


I happen to love my other set and wear it very proudly! I am uncertain about the specs, but the center stone is an OMC and I believe it is .75 carats or so. It looks very nice on me and I loved picking out that set, because they were the first real pieces of jewelry my husband purchased for me.


And, it doesn't look small to me at all. And if it does, who cares!!!

Don't worry about what other people think. All that truly matters is that you are happy and you are satisfied.


By the way, here is a picture of the set.

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OMG, that's terrible!!

people are just so ridiculous. it makes me want to moce to mars. kayla, your rings are beautiful.

 

[canuk-gal]

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On 10/4/2004 7:55:15 PM reena wrote:

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On 10/3/2004 11:05:26 PM kayla17 wrote:

Something very similar to this happened to me a few months ago at work. I was wearing my other wedding set and one of my co- workers asked if she could look at my ring. She wears a 2+ carat round diamond. She took one look at it and actually had the nerve to say to me, ' Oh, so what did you say when your husband gave it to you? It's so small.'

Then she burst out laughing. I didn't say anything and just smiled at her.


Hi:

Such unkind and insensitive remarks I could not have thought possible about highly personal posessions; and in my opinion, shows a complete lack of decorum and insufferable conceit. Such trifles (coming from ninnies and nitwits

) are most assuredly not worth your consideration.

cheers

Sharon

 

[researcher]

I don't understand why they would go silent just because your diamond is smaller. Although I have a 3+ ct princess stone I would NEVER think a stone your size is inconsequential! People choose what they like. There will always be the people who have to have the biggest, but as my nail lady says, "Those rings are not exciting. They don't sparkle, and some have big black spots". Not to say that everyone who buys a big stone has a crap diamond, but there are 4 C's and people can choose any combination of them to suit their desires. And, as several people have stated, as long as you're happy with your stone that's all that should matter

 

[Kamuelamom]

Innerkitten, coming from a different angle here, I actually feel sorry for them. These are women so full of themselves that they cannot see past their own insecurities. That they have to be so rude and insulting only shows how shallow they are. Thank God they are merely acquaintances. True friends wouldn't do that to you. Truth be known, all diamonds are rare, no matter what the size, but OECs and OMCs are getting harder and harder to come by. I wish I were there to tell them how rare your stone is and then they may have wished they had a little some of yours.

Wear it with pride. An OMC or an OEC is on my list of dream stones to own someday.