Found THE ring...now what?

[amc80]

Hi all,

Well, we found THE ring. Wait, let me back up. I LOVE diamonds and LOVE rings. I have enjoyed looking at them my entire life. It''s almost a hobby or something. My bf and I recently found THE ring...to the point where he told me "that is the ring I will buy." So yeah, decision made. And yay, because it is awesome. It has the daintiness that I love without losing the detailing that he loves.

But what now? Am I supposed to just stop looking? Maybe browsing is a better word, because I''m not looking for "the one" (man or ring!) anymore, but of course I still like looking! My bf says I shouldn''t because it will just confuse me, and/or I''ll just compare every ring to the one we found. Which is true, because I went into a jewelry store today and was just looking for one similar to "mine."

But I feel like I''m giving up a hobby. While I''m stoked to have found the ring, I''m sort of bummed to not be looking anymore. Anyone else feel that way?

 

[Autumnovember]

Ohhhh....this will be THE perfect forum for you then

I still look even though my ring has been picked out for a while now (and even made)!

My heart is so in love with my ring that I couldn''t imagine even thinking about cheating on it with another ring

 

[amc80]

Date: 6/30/2010 7:23:25 PM
Author: Autumnovember


My heart is so in love with my ring that I couldn''t imagine even thinking about cheating on it with another ring

Ha, that''s cute. I also don''t want my bf thinking I''m not sure or unhappy or whatever, just because I still like to look.

Example: The local jeweler had their annual e-ring sale this past weekend (they don''t carry the designer I want). We had known about this for at least a month and were looking forward to it. Two weeks ago, we found the ring. So he asked if I still wanted to go, and I said yes. Then he said all the stuff about just comparing everything to the ring I love, etc. Being a car buff, I asked him if there were a car show, but he knew the exact car he wanted wouldn''t be there, wouldn''t he still want to go and look around? I thought this was a great analogy. But apparently not- he said no. Boys are weird.

 

[slg47]

can you post pictures of it (or something similar??)

msybe the reason he didn''t want to take you to the jewelry show is that he didn''t want you to fall in love with something else when you had already made your decision...also most guys just aren''t that into jewelry shopping...

but continue to browse online!!! have you seen the SMTB forum? lots of great pics

 

[amc80]

He actually loves shopping. It''s awesome.

I can''t show you the exact ring, but I can show you one close to it. Apparently the one I love isn''t too common, so to get the exact setting I have to take images from several different rings and combine them (but yes, the designer, JB Star, still can make it).

So the picture I attached is close- I want a round center rather than princess. The one I want also doesn''t have the scroll work in the basket like the picture shows.

 

[4ever]

Date: 6/30/2010 7:30:01 PM
Author: amc80

Date: 6/30/2010 7:23:25 PM
Author: Autumnovember


My heart is so in love with my ring that I couldn''t imagine even thinking about cheating on it with another ring

Ha, that''s cute. I also don''t want my bf thinking I''m not sure or unhappy or whatever, just because I still like to look.

Example: The local jeweler had their annual e-ring sale this past weekend (they don''t carry the designer I want). We had known about this for at least a month and were looking forward to it. Two weeks ago, we found the ring. So he asked if I still wanted to go, and I said yes. Then he said all the stuff about just comparing everything to the ring I love, etc. Being a car buff, I asked him if there were a car show, but he knew the exact car he wanted wouldn''t be there, wouldn''t he still want to go and look around? I thought this was a great analogy. But apparently not- he said no. Boys are weird.

Ah, but there is a difference between boy shopping and girl shopping

Men are the traditional hunter. They know what they want, they go to the shops, the find one, they buy it and then they have succeded.Victory!

Women are gatherers. They know what they want, the go to the shops and look at every shop which could possibly have what they want. They compare the quality and the price of each item and if they are lucky, they then select the one that fits their requirements best. They may continue the surch later after the purchase to further ensure they have selected the best item.

 

[Glitz]

There''s a part of my intro I left out, my SO had already bought a ring with matching band that I insisted was "the one". Well a month later I started second guessing it, I asked SO if I could bring it into another jeweler and ask what he thought of it, I was told it was a cute little set, but he said he would be worried about the tiny stones falling out in the cleaner! I already felt like I ruined my surprise when SO told me "I didn''t think that this is how it would be" when he was buying the ring with me right there.

Now we have found a great diamond and showed him 4 settings that would go great with it, this way he can still feel like he chose my ring. He''s now afraid that I will find something I like more if I keep looking and asked if I''ll ever stop looking. The settings were all practicle and have lifetime warrenties on the stones (Simon G) so I''m not worried anymore.

Jewellery is almost like a passion/hobby for me as well, so I told him that I''ll always be looking, but now I''m going to focus on building up my gem collection and look for necklaces not ring. Maybe you should just start looking at other types of jewellery, it''s not the same as diamonds, but some of those fancy coloured stones are stunning!

What type of settings were you looking at?

 

[Autumnovember]

Date: 6/30/2010 8:01:41 PM
Author: amc80
He actually loves shopping. It''s awesome.


I can''t show you the exact ring, but I can show you one close to it. Apparently the one I love isn''t too common, so to get the exact setting I have to take images from several different rings and combine them (but yes, the designer, JB Star, still can make it).


So the picture I attached is close- I want a round center rather than princess. The one I want also doesn''t have the scroll work in the basket like the picture shows.

 

[peach_tea_for_me]

I don''t HAVE the ring yet, but I have picked it out..and I love it! I was looking at a pic of it today and thinking, when I get it, will looking at other rings still be fun? And yes, I think it will be! You''re not cheating on your ring..it''s like thinking about dessert, just because you ordered chocolate cake, doesn''t mean you don''t think the fruit crumble will be delicious for someone else! Just appreciating diamonds- it''s fun to look and you''ll probably be so busy staring at the ring ON your finger for awhile you''ll forget to look elsewhere!
Congrats to you!

 

[Autumnovember]

Date: 6/30/2010 8:22:29 PM
Author: peach_tea_for_me
I don''t HAVE the ring yet, but I have picked it out..and I love it! I was looking at a pic of it today and thinking, when I get it, will looking at other rings still be fun? And yes, I think it will be! You''re not cheating on your ring..it''s like thinking about dessert, just because you ordered chocolate cake, doesn''t mean you don''t think the fruit crumble will be delicious for someone else! Just appreciating diamonds- it''s fun to look and you''ll probably be so busy staring at the ring ON your finger for awhile you''ll forget to look elsewhere!

Congrats to you!

Looking at other rings will never ever get old

...at least for me!

 

[lulu]

You can start planning your first upgrade!

 

[beezygal]

it''s ok to keep looking.... I was showing my bf some pretty e-ring on ps. he''s like " we bought the ring already.. why are you still looking?"

I was thinking... you have a car, why are you always looking at cars then. Same thing! he''s WEIRD!

 

[dawnabee]

I love looking.. I''ve been on here practically all day and we already have a diamond but I just love to look!

Boys just have different toys than we do LOL no pun intended

 

[4ever]

Date: 6/30/2010 8:40:51 PM
Author: lulu
You can start planning your first upgrade!

Hahaha, just don''t tell the BF your planning your upgrade before he even slides the ring on your finger

 

[amc80]

So I''m not the only one...whew...

 

[amc80]

Date: 6/30/2010 8:04:27 PM
Author: Autumnovember

Date: 6/30/2010 8:01:41 PM

Author:

Thanks. The ring looks kinda chunky in this picture, but it''s actually quite delicate in person....which is necessary for my ET-esque fingers.

 

[kateydid05]

I''m in a different boat but I''ll share anyway. I constantly browse and have narrowed it down to two that I really liked for when that day came. For my boyfriend I highly doubt I''ll be involved at all in the process, so I clued him into a folder on my computer that I have with ideas. Then it''s his decision. I keep looking because there are just SO many and I''m really uninformed about this stuff. I''m afraid I''ll miss "the one" somewhere...so I keep browsing. I still have yet to actually look at rings in person which may sway my decision. My personality is that when I am curious about something (i.e. what car I will buy, what computer, what e-ring etc) I will research the s*** out of it to the point where I could be a salesperson. When I bought my car, I did so much research, but took my Dad just in case and I ended up doing all the talking and making the deals, haha. I make sure that there is no way anything will be better and then I purchase and I''ll stop looking. I''m thinking that''s what will happen with the e-ring.

 

[amc80]

You sound like me. I research everything to death. I''m pretty sure I knew more than the sales guy at the jewelry store...although from what I''ve seen/read, that isn''t too hard.

My bf originally told me that he would have me pick out a few rings I really liked, and then he would make the final decision. I mean really I would be happy with anything, because it''s from him...but he figures that if he is going to spend tens of thousands of dollars on something I''m going to wear for the rest of my life, I should probably be the one to pick it. And I see his point. Plus, I''d imagine the whole proposing thing is stressful enough without the added fear of "will she like the ring."

I''m actually going to a really awesome local jeweler at lunch (the kind of place where they are actual jewelers, not just salespeople) to see if they could custom making something similar to the ring I found. I LOVE that ring, but not at $8.5k for the setting alone

. Once that''s done, the bf will have all of the info he needs and can do whatever he wants with it (um, like give it to me. Immediately...ha).

 

[amc80]

Date: 7/1/2010 11:16:00 AM
Author: amc80

I''m actually going to a really awesome local jeweler at lunch (the kind of place where they are actual jewelers, not just salespeople) to see if they could custom making something similar to the ring I found. I LOVE that ring, but not at $8.5k for the setting alone

. Once that''s done, the bf will have all of the info he needs and can do whatever he wants with it (um, like give it to me. Immediately...ha).

update: Just got back from the jeweler...she is going to send all of the info I gave her to the ring maker person (I am SO technical), but she''s estimating it will be somewhere between $3-4k. Woohoo!

 

[amc80]

Another update...

Just got a call, and the estimate should be ready any time now. She also ordered some diamonds for me to look at. Her prices are pretty awesome...so exciting.

Nothing like hearing "8.33mm" first thing in the morning to make a girl perk up

 

[Dreamer_D]

I have a ring and it will not be changing, but I still love looking at other styles and fantasizing!

 

[Clairitek]

Another update...

Just got a call, and the estimate should be ready any time now. She also ordered some diamonds for me to look at. Her prices are pretty awesome...so exciting.

Nothing like hearing "8.33mm" first thing in the morning to make a girl perk up

Awesome progress on finding your ring! Such an exciting time.

Just curious, is the $3-4k you mention in the previous post for the setting alone or for the stone too? I assume 8.3 mm is the stone size that the jeweler told you about. For that price, it would be pretty much impossible to get a round brilliant of a quality cut with a diameter of 8.3 mm. 8.3 mm is roughly equal to a 2 carat round brilliant diamond. I'm sure you will do your homework, since you're already on Pricescope and seem to be really interested in a great stone. I just would hate for a jeweler to take advantage of your giddy "we found the ring!" emotions and try to sell you something that isn't totally stunning.

Have fun stone shopping and with your ring project!

 

[amc80]

Just curious, is the $3-4k you mention in the previous post for the setting alone or for the stone too? I assume 8.3 mm is the stone size that the jeweler told you about. For that price, it would be pretty much impossible to get a round brilliant of a quality cut with a diameter of 8.3 mm. 8.3 mm is roughly equal to a 2 carat round brilliant diamond. I'm sure you will do your homework, since you're already on Pricescope and seem to be really interested in a great stone. I just would hate for a jeweler to take advantage of your giddy "we found the ring!" emotions and try to sell you something that isn't totally stunning.

Have fun stone shopping and with your ring project!

No no, that is just for the setting (which actually came in a bit higher than that anyway). The setting is white gold and has about 1.25ctw of diamonds. But oh how I wish that price included the main stone...because it would save us $13k.