NuggetBrain
Shiny_Rock
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- Mar 20, 2009
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Since we are paying for the wedding ourselves and had a pretty set idea on our non-negotiables concerning the reception (open bar, apps during cocktail hour, wanting a venue that hosted one wedding at a time) we were very limited in our venue choice. But we found a great one, and decided to do our wedding on a Friday. We''ve already put down the deposit on the venue (which has an in-house caterer), photog, DJ and ceremony site. And we checked with the major players (our wedding party and immediate family) to make sure Friday was okay. They all said it was totally cool, they''d just take the day off of work. We have few people coming in from OOT (maybe 10 tops) and 2 of those are in the wedding party. The ceremony will start at 5, cocktail hour at 6, dinner at 7.
Well, now we''re running into problems. His cousin found out the wedding was on a Friday and completely flipped - she said she didn''t have time to get the kids from school, change and make it to the wedding. And my bridesmaid and best friend found out she might be graduating on that Friday from college, but she said that she would just skip walking because she''d much rather be at the wedding. Now I feel bad - even though she doesn''t care (and I know she doesn''t) I still feel horrible that she might miss her graduation ceremony because of my wedding. And I don''t want to make his cousin upset either as her kids are really looking forward to coming to the wedding.
I spoke to all the places we booked and they all said that I can switch the deposits to the next day without a penalty. The only problem is it will cost us $4,500 more at the venue (no minimum on Friday vs. $6,500 food and drink minimum on Saturday), plus we would lose some discounts at places we''re still talking to for decorations, photo booth, etc (mostly 10-15% off for a Friday wedding). We might even push it back 30 minutes (ceremony at 4:30, cocktail hour 5:30, dinner still at 7) due to photography timing, but now we''re extra worried that will mean more people won''t come. I don''t want to inconvience people, but since our budget is only 15,000 that extra 5 grand minimum is a LOT of money to us.
So I guess the point to this long winded explaination is that FI and I are now wobbling on the idea of a Friday wedding. The atmosphere is going to be not very formal, so people could come straight from work and that would be totally okay with us (ie khakis and a polo, no problem). Should we reconsider doing a Friday wedding? If we don''t, how can we make it clear in the invitations that people don''t have to go home and get all dolled up for the wedding?
Well, now we''re running into problems. His cousin found out the wedding was on a Friday and completely flipped - she said she didn''t have time to get the kids from school, change and make it to the wedding. And my bridesmaid and best friend found out she might be graduating on that Friday from college, but she said that she would just skip walking because she''d much rather be at the wedding. Now I feel bad - even though she doesn''t care (and I know she doesn''t) I still feel horrible that she might miss her graduation ceremony because of my wedding. And I don''t want to make his cousin upset either as her kids are really looking forward to coming to the wedding.
I spoke to all the places we booked and they all said that I can switch the deposits to the next day without a penalty. The only problem is it will cost us $4,500 more at the venue (no minimum on Friday vs. $6,500 food and drink minimum on Saturday), plus we would lose some discounts at places we''re still talking to for decorations, photo booth, etc (mostly 10-15% off for a Friday wedding). We might even push it back 30 minutes (ceremony at 4:30, cocktail hour 5:30, dinner still at 7) due to photography timing, but now we''re extra worried that will mean more people won''t come. I don''t want to inconvience people, but since our budget is only 15,000 that extra 5 grand minimum is a LOT of money to us.
So I guess the point to this long winded explaination is that FI and I are now wobbling on the idea of a Friday wedding. The atmosphere is going to be not very formal, so people could come straight from work and that would be totally okay with us (ie khakis and a polo, no problem). Should we reconsider doing a Friday wedding? If we don''t, how can we make it clear in the invitations that people don''t have to go home and get all dolled up for the wedding?