Gifts for parents? Readers?

[julabean]

Hello girls - I''m really hoping you can answer my question, whether with some good ol'' fashion etiquette or some of your own experiences.

Beyond getting presents for your bridal party and your fiance, who else are the bride and groom traditionally supposed to get gifts for? Parents? Readers? I have no clue about this, but was just curious!

 

[somethingshiny]

I've participated in weddings (not the bridal party) and I have never been gifted. Just a really nice Thankyou. One that seemed to have been purchased specifically for me.

We gave gifts to the bridal party and a small monetary gift to the organist, videographer, etc.

I've heard of getting gifts for the parents, but that just seems weird.


ETA- the organist, videographer, etc. were church members who were not charging. So, I guess it was kind of like a tip..

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I think that anyone who is actively participating in your wedding should receive a small gift in some fashion or another.

I had two friends as the readers in my wedding...I purchased each girl a small token of appreciation from T&Co. My husbands aunt was a reader also, and I made sure she received a large floral arrangement upon returning home with a lovely note full of gratitude. I spent approximately $150.00 per reader, which I considered reasonable because, although they were not part of our formal bridal party, they bought dresses, had their hair professionally styled, manicures, pedicures, travel expenses including an extra day for the rehearsal (many of these things without even being asked--just out of the goodness of their heart)...they truthfully bent to accomidate our request, and we had genuine thanks to convey.

As far as gifts for our parents...a lot of couples will give "parent albums" after the wedding as a thank you. I, personally, love to craft...so, I created scrapbooks for our family which reflected the entire wedding weekend. They really loved them, and it put a fun and interesting twist on giving pictures of the event to the parents.

But, most importantly, do what you feel comfortable with. If you want to simply write a note, then I think they will appreciate that very much. Just acknowledge their involvement.

 

[Independent Gal]

Travelling Gal got her mom a honkin'' big diamond. I believe that is now the standard around here. So you better start saving.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Yes we gave gifts to the parents and my friend who did a reading. For the moms we have birthstone necklaces (from red envelope), his dad got a money clip from tiffany &co, my dad a gift card to his favorite wine place. My friend we gave a gift card to a spa.

 

[Pandora II]

I''m getting our mothers a victorian silver flower-holder brooch each to wear on the day with their flowers in (we do button holes rather than corsages here).

I''m still hunting them down as I want two different ones...

Then parents will get a photobook after the wedding.

Have no idea what to get FI''s group - I''ve done the BM''s - sterling silver heavyweight charm bracelets, their dresses and shoes and whatever jewellery they wear on the day.