Giving my BF a Deserving Break!

[christina_ken]

Ok, Ok, every woman wants a ring they love. Every woman wants the engagement to be a surprise, but then again we want to know when...LOL but after being on this great website after my boyfriend and I started talking "Marriage" and "getting engaged", I realized that we as woman are capable of driving men crazy, as well as ourselves. As soon as a hint of getting an engagement ring comes, we start going crazy with the "I like this, I like that", then "no, I changed my mind", "Solitaire", "No solitaire", to "Halo" or not to "Halo", "1 carat" and slowly we graduate "1.5 carats", no "Quality Matters"...back to "1 carat"....we end up eating, sleeping and dreaming of diamonds, "VS1" "VS2" and the whole time our poor poor boyfriends have to be subject to this. So now, still ringless, and crazy, ok, crazier than ever, and full of anxiety and after having sent my boyfriend at least 20 pages from different vendors of "wish-lists" and "Diamond Details"....I have decided that I will try to give my boyfriend a break and let him do things the way he wants to, and even if it kills me, when he wants to......even if it kills me. I can feel the pain already...LOL He won''''t even give hints...OK PS I said I would TRY!!! After all, I am just happy and proud to be by his side and to be loved!! Sooo, To all you men out there, sorry for all the madness that is caused by the talk of marriage and of coarse the talk of the ever so cherished Diamond E-RING!!!! If it''''s not one thing for us women, it''''s another, I mean, after all, after the E-ring comes the dress, and then the planning, then the honey-moon...ok ok....HAVE a wonderful day PS''''ers!!

 

[cinnabar]

We don''t have any of this to worry about in Britain. He proposes without a ring, and then you look for a ring together as a couple. The ringless proposal can be as much of a surprise, in terms of timing and location, as any other; the only thing that isn''t a surprise is the ring itself because the girl usually has a big part in choosing one she likes. But she could say "surprise me", if that mattered to either of them.

You do make it hard for yourselves

 

[appletini]

Good Luck trying to give your BF a break! Sounds to me like you need to venture over to the "Are we there yet?" forum.

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Aww, such a WONDERFUL girlfriend.

I agree with you 100% and it makes me so happy that one poor sweetie gets a break from the engagement bug. A lot of girls don''t realize that when you give them a break, it could speed up the waiting time. I know it did for me. I waited for months, bugging him every day, multiple times a day. I''m sure he was so annoyed. Well, one day I had an "epiphany" and decided to give him a break. I realized that annoying him about the whole thing was probably delaying it. Why? Maybe to spite me, maybe because it makes him think "Would I want to put up with this all time about every little thing?" I don''t know, but I had a feeling it wasn''t helping. So, I didn''t mention it at all and just enjoyed my time with him, knowing that I was loved whether or not I had a big expensive rock on my hand. I don''t really need something like that to prove to me that he loves me.

So anyway, a short while after I stopped mentioning the whole engagement thing, he proposed!

It was totally worth the wait because I''ve never seen a more beautiful ring for me and I''m having a blast planning the wedding.

Unfortunately, now I''m sure he''s annoyed that I talk about the wedding every day, multiple time a day. *sigh* The poor thing can''t get a long enough moment''s peace.

lol.

 

[christina_ken]

OK, Ok, I am now here. You see, after getting a virus on my pc here at work ( i thought it might be from this site)...LOL, I couldn''t take it any longer and decided that if I did get another virus, I will just run symantec...I can''t stay off of this site. Well Appletini, I think that you are right, but I also think that "aphis" is right on target with what I am hoping to accomplish. I mean, after all it was his idea that we look at rings! Well, today is day one, and I haven''t mentioned it....yet!! I won''t mention it this weekend either. His brother is coming into town for an audition so we will be having company!! anywho, hope you all are having a wonderful day, a wonderful friday that is. "Aphis" have you posted pics of your ring?

 

[aphisiglovessae]

If you're asking me, I sure have! It's right here:

My ring thread