good week for me(maybe?)

[nytemist]

So I finally finished school. DONE WITH THE COURSE!!!! YEE-HAA! It was only a year but I never thought it would end. I know I have to take certification and license exams, but at least the school part is over. Plus, this Sat. is my b-day and BF said he may have something planned (who knows what). I''m thinking he''s freaking out trying to put something together now, thne my graduation ceremony is next week.He wants to make a big deal of my accomplishments. He''s been mentioning the endless topic again lately. Since he wanted to wait until I was done with school before really sitting and talking about what were going to do andd when. It hit him like a ton of bricks two weeks ago that I was finishing. (his words were ''oh crap... you really are almost done with school) The last few times I''ve seen him, he''s been little kid silly, with some mischievous Irish eyes glinting.

Part of me is really starting to expect something to happen this or next weekend. The rest of me is saying to calm down. BUT I CAN''T HELP IT!!!

I''m starting to lose it again. Trying to keep it together but I find myself smiling to myself lately, sure that we''re taking a turn for the positive. (Not to mention his mom has been asking him future-related questions.)

Am I setting myself?

 

[snuga]

Wow, Congratulations on finishing school. That is a major accomplishment.

It''s hard not to get excited when you think something could happen with your boyfriend. I don''t think getting excited is setting yourself up. As long as you are not EXPECTING it, then I think its fine. Warning, you may drive yourself crazy waiting...

Even if he doesn''t end up proposing this week or next, enjoy this time and congrats again on finishing school!!!

 

[stacyQ]

i have my fingers crossed for you!

 

[nytemist]

Thank you so much kalispera- it amazing how different it is when you are 18-20 and do both school and work full-time and then do both when you are 33. By April I was getting so exhausted I was forgetting everything. I''m so glad I''m done with that part of it and now I''m thinking ok, now we can start getting more serious about future plans.

I have to be dreamy and say that something sparkly on my bday would sure be nice...

 

[fatafelice]

First of all, a BIG congratulations on being finished with school! I can imagine that it is a huge relief to be done!

Secondly, it''s always good advice not to get your hopes too high....But my fingers are crossed for you anyway!

Good Luck!

 

[ello]

Congratulations on a great achievement...fingers crossed!

 

[squeaksluv]

Congratulations, you must feel so good to be graduating! I''ll keep my fingers crossed for you!

 

[ellewoods]

Congratulations on finishing school! Way to go!!

It sounds like your boyfriend may actually be realizing he needs to step up and take things to the next level, as you need to plan your future now that you''re done with school. And hopefully with his cute silly behavior that means he has a fun (SHINY!) trick up his sleeve and he''s planning to propose soon!

Definitely enjoy everything you''ve accomplished thus far, and I don''t see anything wrong with getting excited that something big may be coming from your boyfriend soon. Of course you don''t want to get too excited, but it''s natural to be excited about finishing school and moving on to all the great things in your future, so there''s no reason to try and block out the idea of getting engaged. Sounds like this week is your week!

 

[snuga]

i certainly hope it happens for you soon!! we''re all waiting for those pictures, whenever it does happen!!

 

[nytemist]

I''m so relieved that I''m done. It''s been a tough year. Car trouble, a death in the family and of course issues with BF, I didn''t think I could pull it off. I was in a year-long, intensive massage therapy program (usually it''s about 15-18 months) four nights a week while working full-time. I feels good to not carry a thousand pound backpack anymore!

It would feel nice to have that dream proposal soon. Since I did show him some ideas of what I like from WF, so it''s not like he has no idea what I would like. I''m feeling a bit more realistic today, but that little fairly tale part of me is going mental.

Should anything happen I will most definately inform you all!!

 

[MissAva]

Oh, Irish Eyes you say? Sounds like he is up to something, and in a good way. I would be doodling and day dreaming like mad. I think you sound pretty level headed all thingd considered. Congrats on finishing your program early. Wow! You must be really proud. Will they help place you in a job? Perhaps the job hunt could help you keep your mind off shiny objects.

(But who wants to think about things other then diamonds?

)

 

[nytemist]

Matatora- no, they don''t do job placement exactly, but the career services office does help new graduates with doing all the paperwork to register for taking the national certification exam and licensing questions. That''s a big help. I''m guessing, in this stressed-out world, I won''t have that difficult a time finding a job (crossing fingers). Lots of people suddeny would like to be my friend now

I have been pretty good lately, but what has me thinking about what may happen soon is his behavior. For a guy, he''s been really... attentive. More than usual. My daily phone call is longer, constantly wants to cuddle when we are together, starting to ask my input before he does anything in his new condo...

It''s weird.

 

[goldengirl]

nytemist, well hello there! I graduated UCMT in 2002. Do you believe I''m already out of the field? Ha ha...

..you sound like a sister grad, is why I''m asking. Where''d you attend?

 

[MissAva]

Date: 10/18/2005 3:47:47 PM
Author: nytemist
Matatora- no, they don''t do job placement exactly, but the career services office does help new graduates with doing all the paperwork to register for taking the national certification exam and licensing questions. That''s a big help. I''m guessing, in this stressed-out world, I won''t have that difficult a time finding a job (crossing fingers). Lots of people suddeny would like to be my friend now

I have been pretty good lately, but what has me thinking about what may happen soon is his behavior. For a guy, he''s been really... attentive. More than usual. My daily phone call is longer, constantly wants to cuddle when we are together, starting to ask my input before he does anything in his new condo...

It''s weird.

Oy! Paperwork! I am started to loathe the stuff. Who knew applying to grad school would mean killing the Talledage national forest?
Of all the signs you listed the input on decorating seems the most important, it sounds like he want to do things you will like as well so you dont redo everything after marriage. Is his condo in NYC? I remember you saying something about moving there but I cannot recall if he already has.

 

[cutes814]

Congrats on finishing school nytemist!

I''m keeping my fingers crossed for you.

 

[anchor31]

Congratulations on finishing school!!! This is great... I can''t wait to be finished!
Good luck with your boyfriend, I hope he''ll propose soon! Girl-soon, that is...

 

[nytemist]

GG- I went to school here in Boston. (can''t be too specific, BF may be trolling the site since he busted me on it) MT was a brand new program when I started last fall. There are mostly known for medical assisting. It''s not a top-of-line school, but I had a fabulous instructor.
Matatora- BF is here in MA. When his sister moved he had to find a new place, but he found a cute place in a Boston suburb. He isn''t ready to go anywhere. I''m the one with the need to move to NYC, but it will be a little while before I''m able to do so (money, licensing and such issues)

Since it''s essentially a trade school with a rolling admission, they have two graduation ceremonies a year, April and October. I got my cap and gown and get to wear an honors cord. Yes I''m kind of gloating, yes I know it isn''t Harvard (or not even like when I graduated college 11 years ago) but I''m feeling good for the first time in a while.

 

[MissAva]

You worked hard and earned the right to gloat! You should be proud of yourself.

 

[nytemist]

Hey all-

So, there was no proposal this weekend, or big celebration. We went out to dinner and some drinks. It was still a good weekend... I''m gald I didn''t work myself up to thinking he was planning something and being really really sneaky about it. He did give a me a birthday card that said "more beautiful than the most perfect rose would be life with you." he usually doesn''t give romantic cards (we both like silly/funny cards) so this was pretty good. He had lots to write in it as well. He made a few vague mentions about ''the future'' so who knows...

 

[MissAva]

Well the card was sweet, but I have to say I love you new tag line, too good!

 

[nytemist]

I have that saying on a pin that I keep on my bag. Everyone who reads it chuckles. My aunt says it too, since she''s now in her fifties and acting like a 20-year-old (bought a house, parties like a rock star, started a business, got her motorcycle license...)

It describes me perfectly!

 

[goldengirl]

Ny, I was re-reading the "boy soon" thread and I remembered how heart-wrenching it was for you back in March/April when you had some hard conversations with your bf.

Are things any better for you?

 

[nytemist]

Things are better for me, thank you for asking. It hasn''t been an easy year at times, but I made myself work through it. Between my BF and I things are better, since about mid-summer I have stopped being so fixated on what we are going to do. I woke up after a while, thinking- ''why am I going to keep driving myself nuts about our future plans? All I can do right now is concentrate on what I want to do.'' Since about July, I have focused on my own life and stopped trying to focus so much on trying to get him to talk and share with me what he wanted from his future. I realized that it''s stupid for me to ask him things he has no answer for since he doesn''t think about these things. I can''t make him think about how to plan a future together, so lately I''ve just been a bit selfish. Working on my own life.

It it interesting... I know others have said that if you stop putting so much focus on the BF, all of a sudden the BF will get his act together and actually treat you like he did in the ''honeymoon stage''. Mine has been treating me even better than he has before and going all out to show me affection (treating me to dinner often, telling me I don''t have to drive when we go out, he even wanted to just take me shopping for my birthday. I said no, I can''t handle people just randomly blowing money on me) He kind of fessed up to me that when he talked to his sister a few weeks ago, realizing that I was almost done with school and the future suddenly was a close reality, he said he was afraid of me leaving the relationship. Why? Becasue I have a plan, have had it for a while and plan trying like hell to make it happen. Since he isn''t ''sure'', he''s afraid things will be over. I can''t control that; he knows what I would like to do with my own life, has known that for a while and if he would like to be a part of it, this conversation needs to happen.
I guess basically things are better since I stopped putting myself on hold. I think it''s lighting a fire under him, but I''m not going to expect miracles.