had any of you girls ever rejected a guy's proposal?

[Dancing Fire]

do girls aways say "yes" ..

 

[Enerchi]

I said yes, but subsequently broke off the engagement (3 times, no less!) I was too young, he was not the right person, there were issues... and yet it still takes a lot of guts to decide that no, this relationship is NOT the right one for me and call it off - or not proceed any further.

It was DEFINITELY the right choice for me, to not marry that person.

 

[Sun-Shine]

My friend said yes to her public restaurant proposal, but once in the car, told him in the answer was no... awkward!!

 

[Amys Bling]

My friend said yes to her public restaurant proposal, but once in the car, told him in the answer was no... awkward!!

Yikes!

 

[Dancing Fire]

My friend said yes to her public restaurant proposal, but once in the car, told him in the answer was no... awkward!!

so did she have to take a taxi home?..

 

[ycenvy]

Wow! What made her say no?

 

[MrsDrP]

I said yes to a very romantic and very public proposal, but later broke it off. I knew I didn't want to say yes while it was happening, but I didn't want to ruin our vacation. I fought off my true feelings and thought maybe I could make it work, but I ended up breaking up with him 6 months later. It was such a huge relief!! I was 18, had just graduated from high school, and hadn't even started college yet.....I'm not sure what he was thinking. To this day I still have nightmares that I'm engaged to him and I don't know how to get out of it. And then I wake up and say, "whew! Thank God it was only a dream!"

I think guys should definitely talk things over with their SO or at least drop some major hints before proposing! No body wants to be in the position, it was horrific for me for sure!!!

 

[madelise]

I don't know if it "counts" as a proposal, but..

my exboyfriend and i were together for a good 3 years, and i spent my "golden" younger years with him (18-21). i was always "older" for my age, and he was just, well, older. after the 3 years passed, and all his circle was getting serious with engagements and weddings, i asked him if he ever thought about us being married. he said he didn't want to get married for a longggggggg time. i knew we had a problem. so, jumbled with all our other problems, i decided to break it off. i wasn't trying to get married there and then, but i knew I wanted to be married before I started grad school, and from that point, it wasn't a "longggggggg time" away. he was thinking mid 30' - early 40'ss. I was thinking mid 20's.

after about half a year after our break up, and going on and off, plus dating other guys.. he started to realize i was getting closer to one of the guys i was dating (my current SO) rather than just casually dating. he came over, and cried, and asked me to marry him.

i remembered from a conversation i had with an older lady at work that if i man proposes without a ring, he doesn't mean it (in my area, there are a lot of people who call each other "fiancés" because they "are" going to get married.. someday, lol). i laughed at him, not like HAHA you're an idiot, but like HAH i can't believe you're stooping to this point.

so does that count?

really, though, i feel that there aren't so many rejections in the real life situation because men don't propose until THEY feel the relationship is ready for the plunge.. and since men don't feel ready before women do (most of the time), rejections just don't really happen. For those situations that the women say no, I really feel horrible. If the woman doesn't feel like the relationship was going anywhere, why bother stringing him along for a relationship? It goes the other way around, too, with men. Maybe I don't get the "modern dating" thing, where you date people and enter long term relationships without the goal of spending your life with that person..

 

[Sun-Shine]

Wow! What made her say no?

There was no one "good" reason, she just wasn't ready for it. They had been together about 8 months and in that time it hadn't been seriously brought up. They weren't living together, they hadn't met each-others families, or discussed the future in depth. We were about 25-26, and in year one of med school. In fact they didn't break up right away, they talked it out and stayed together another couple of months before pulling the metaphorical plug. She felt sick over it, but realistically they weren't on the same page. He was already successful in his career and wanted marriage and babies, she did not. He is happily married now, and she is happily unmarried, so it all worked out.

.... No she didn't take a taxi home LOL he was a gentleman... She said it was the tensest moment of her life, and he broke the silence by sobbing uncontrollably for 2 minutes, looking back she said she wouldn't turn down a proposal again in a moving car.

 

[gem_anemone]

This may not count, but I had an ex ask if I wanted to get married (with no ring) while he was struggling to get over the fact that I had just broke up with him. I told him he was being ridiculous and that he would say anything to get me back.

I was feeling insecure a couple months later and asked him if he had meant what he said about getting married. He admitted at the time he was hurting and that's why he asked. Dodged a bullet for sure. Phew!

 

[Amys Bling]

I feel like the public proposals elicit a lot of yes responses because of. Pt wanting to embarrass the SO in public or make an awkward moment...

 

[partgypsy]

My sister turned down her boyfriend who proposed. Ironically it wasn't when they were head over heels with each other but when their relationship was on the rocks for a number of reasons, including her finding out he had cheated on her. Somehow he thought proposing to her would smooth over everything? No.

I do have to admit the only time I got wild protestations of love (but no marriage proposals) were in similar situations where I was in process of breaking up with someone

My mother when she was in college, a fellow college student who was from another country (egypt) without her knowledge traveled all the way to her house (found out where she lived somehow) and asked her father for her hand in marriage. They weren't even dating! My grandfather had to explain that's not how we do things here, and that he had to ask her. Awkward!

 

[Silvia]

Ex: I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you and can't imagine it without you.
Me: You decide this whilst I'm trying to break up with you, after 18 months of no intimacy, after years of promise with no change and then my friends catching you 'hooking up' with another girl...

 

[inflorescence]

In my young stupid days I had an older boss obsessed with me, I was not into him at all, and was not dating him.. we were friends. When I told him I was moving to another city he said he wanted to marry me ... He was 17 years older than me.... I almost pissed myself laughing... I don't count it.

 

[amc80]

Mine is similar to some of the other stories on here-it came from an ex. We had been together for almost 3 years when he broke up with me. He said he didn't know when/if he ever wanted go get married, and that he really just wanted to be single. He had just gotten out of the military and had another year or so to finish is college degree, after which he'd be moving across the country to go to med school. I knew (and told him) he just wanted to experience college as a free man, and that he'd want me back when it was time for him to move. He ended up immediately in another long term, serious relationship. She even moved with him when the time came, over a year later. He IMed (yes, IMed) me one day saying breaking up with me was a huge mistake and he wanted me back, he would buy me a ring and we could get married. All this while living with his gf who had moved from the west coast to the east coast for him. He told me he had no intentions of marrying her. I told him no way, that I had moved on and was so much happier without him. He continued to be with his gf for another 6 months or so before ending it with her. Yeah, quality guy.

 

[NOYFB]

When I broke up with my first real boyfriend (for cheating on me with multiple girls) he presented me with mall jewelry store ads with all kinds of engagement rings and told me I could have any one I wanted. I didn't want any of them, and I didn't want him. Not sure if that counts as a proposal, but yea. I also was "pre-engaged" in high school (tiny .10 ct. diamond) and broke it off (thankfully) before the real ring became a reality.