Have any of you done this? or am I psycho?

[diamond12]

Hi everyone,
I fell in love with a ring that is beautiful on paper. sitting next to me is the brochure with the picture on it. Unfortunately when I was with my BF, we went into the jewelry store because i had wanted to see it, in person, rather than in the window. and it had just been transferred to their other store. They gave me a booklet with the designer and i have looked at it everyday since. I have called the store and asked if they brought the ring back, and she is having it sent over from the other store so that I can see it. Problem is this...am I being psycho by wanting to look at this ring in person, when my BF doesn''t have a clue i''m doing so?? I handed him the booklet yesterday and said "this is the ring that I would want". Needless to say he has obviously seen this booklet, and thinks I''m crrazy. Am i setting myself up for disappointment. Is there something wrong with wanting to look? Am I sending the jewelry store on a goose chase?? help!!!

 

[redfaerythinker]

You''re totally not crazy to want to see the ring in person... All my life I wanted a solitare but when I went to try one on it just looked really weird on my finger. So I ended up falling in love with the three stone rings because they looked the best on my finger. That lead me to my dream ring. So I guess what i''m rambling on about is that you should go and try it on, and if you don''t like it, then hey, you get to go ring shopping more, and that is never a bad thing!

 

[lsyama]

Date: 9/19/2007 5:11:21 PM
Author: redfaerythinker
You''re totally not crazy to want to see the ring in person... All my life I wanted a solitare but when I went to try one on it just looked really weird on my finger. So I ended up falling in love with the three stone rings because they looked the best on my finger. That lead me to my dream ring. So I guess what i''m rambling on about is that you should go and try it on, and if you don''t like it, then hey, you get to go ring shopping more, and that is never a bad thing!

I second that!

I don''t think you''re sending the jewelry store on a goose chase - if you think that might be your dream ring, you should try it on!

 

[Independent Gal]

Well, I don''t think you''re totally crazy. However, if your b/f has made very clear that there''s no way he could afford to get you that ring, then maybe it''s a leeeeettle unfair to have them go to all that trouble. That said, I do try on jewelry in stores, even if I don''t intend to buy. And I remember who gives me good service for when I do go and buy.

Are you about to be engaged? If so, trying on the style could be helpful in decided what sort of thing you want. You may end up choosing something else smaller or less intricate from that store. In that case, I think it''s ok.

Or if you''re not about to be engaged, maybe your b/f is reacting to that?

 

[DMBsGirl]

i don''t think it''s psycho. Do you think your boyfriend will be proposing soon?

 

[diamond12]

Thanks for your response ladies.
We have talked about it, but with a falling out we had in the past, I told him that I would leave him alone, and not mention it to him anymore. He has made it clear that we will get married and that he does want to be with me, but he does not want to feel pressured. He wants to do it on his own time and terms.Mind you we''ve been together for 3.5 years, bought a house, (its in my name), and have very very recently purchased a franchise together. So now not only are we BF and GF, but business partners as well. I guess I feel that we are doing everything backwards. It doesn''t help when I get franchise owners who ask "who''s doing the business with you, your husband?" "NO, MY BOYFRIEND!" UGH. I feel too old to be saying that! UGH!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Diamond: I bought a house with my boyfriend. It''s in both our names. It''s been a year and it seems like every person who wants to be a complete a$$ loves to draw attention to the fact that he hasn''t proposed yet. Thankfully the people who want to be mean are few and far between. It''s still bothersome to me though, especially around tax season where we''re sitting there trying to figure out the way to spilt the interest payments and having to write a silly letter to the IRS explaining why TWO people are claiming 50% of the mortgage payments instead of just one of us.

So, I''m right there with you!

 

[diamond12]

OH yeah, have had the tax talk as well, because I can only claim the house. He wants me to add him to title, once we''re engaged. I''m not sure about that. Funny how you say that because on my birthday, a friend I''ve known for years, (we talk every now and then) just had to call me around 9p.m. wish me a happy birthday and in that same breath tell me guess who''s engaged? My former best friend, whom I''d known since middle school. Mind you the guy she met, they live 2 hours away, had known each other for 5 months, dated for about 2 of those months, and got engaged with a 3 stone Tiffany ring!!!! How cruel was that. On my birthday. I hung up the phone, my BF and I were having a very nice dinner at a high end restaurant outside on the patio, when she called me. Ihung up , and just burst into tears. I don''t know if she did this on purpose or to truly wish me a happy birthday. My BF felt like crap and tried to comfort me to make me feel better. Hows that for people making you feel like crap!!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I am apologizing in advance for how long this reply is

Don’t even get me started about people who have dated for a minimal amount of time and then get engaged! LOL!!

SO and I were psyched to have our first Christmas in our new house this past year. We had closed on November 30th so having Christmas dinner with our families meant we had to hussle to get everything unpacked and set up in 3 weeks time with no time off from our full time jobs. By Christmas Day I was exhausted but really hoping SO was going to propose. All day I was watching for signs, nothing happened. That night all our friends came over to celebrate with each other. I had pretty much let go of the idea SO was going to pop the question and started indulging in all the bottles of champagne that were around

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I sat down with my friends and immediately something flashed real quick across the room

. At first I thought I was seeing things (exhaustion and alcohol can do this quite well) so I kept focusing on the area where I saw the flash. When my friend’s g/f moved her hand down, it happened again. I immediately knew I wasn’t seeing things and tried to focus on her and quickly saw a ring. Took a moment for me to realize it was on the LEFT ring finger. NOTHING was said.

A few moments later I decided to head outside for a smoke. Once everyone else had followed me out I walked up to her and grabbed her hand, saw the ring and said, “what’s this?”. Then they announced their engagement….the kicker: they were only seeing each other for 4 months. Needless to say, there was no more champagne left in the house that night…I saw to that pretty quickly

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I was deliriously jealous. Months later when I found out my SO had talked about proposing to me but had put his plans on hold due to their announcement, I was a little peeved. When I found out the happy couple KNEW my SO had talked of proposing and basically stole the spotlight from my SO I was deliriously angry

. I wouldn’t have cared if we both got engaged around the same time but my SO feels very differently about it.

So, almost a year later I am still a LIW and my biggest fear is that my SO is waiting until after their May 2008 wedding before he'll propose because he is so afraid to steal any attention from them. Sigh.

 

[diamond12]

OMG. Keeping the faith. I''m sorry that happened to you. I would have been livid!!! Here''s one. What about the stories where the guy is with the girl for a few if not many years, and they break up, and then he gets engaged to the next person he meets within months???? What about that? I don''t know what I would do if that happened to me!!!!!!!!! Well let''s hope it happens this Christmas. Besides who cares if they''re getting married in May! This is you and him you''re talking about. It"s not like you''de be getting married that same weekend. We''re talking engagement. Totally different. Well hopefully this Christmas. Do you know if he has purchased a ring?? Or have you to looked at some??