Have you ever gotten in the mood of I don''t care about being surprised

[cantwait4life]

I feel like I have waited so long that I don''t even care about being surprised anymore...I just want him to tell me I''m purchasing the ring on so and so date an proposing on such and such date. That way I know for sure that he''s serious about it.

 

[Lauren8211]

I guess I haven''t been waiting long enough because I definitely don''t feel that way.

But I also have the reassurance that I trust my BF 100% and know he will propose the minute he is ready to do so. I trust his word -- so even though it can be frustrating, I will wait it out for that beautiful, perfect (even if its not PERFECT) surprise. I''ve been waiting my whole life for that! I''m not giving in!

 

[gwendolyn]

Oh, I started out not wanting a surprise. I''m going to choose the diamond (with J''s input), choose the setting (with J''s input)--probably do most of the phone calls and contribute some money towards it. It''s my ring, I want to pick it out, and J is relieved to not have to much pressure on him to do it all on his own. He''s still part of the process--poor guy has been inundated with all kinds of settings and now knows the styles he prefers. The whole ''surprise'' thing does nothing for me. Now, the proposal is another thing--he can surprise me or not--just pop the ring out of the box when it arrives and ask me then. I really don''t care. But surprise with the ring itself, when I know exactly what I want and I''ve been (window) shopping since I was 16?! No chance!

 

[cantwait4life]

I just feel like this whole ring thing is consuming my life. I spend my days looking at rings, searching for diamonds, going to jewelry stores. I just want to get it over with so that I can move on with my life and focus on other things LOL

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

Cantwait4life........... gees I feel the same way, it''s almost stressing me out.. wow that sounds totally crazy. I''m just so excited/nervous/scared/anxious!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[absolut_blonde]

You know, sometimes I have my moments where I feel that way too.

BUT I know that waiting for the surprise will be ultimately worth it. SO''s told me that he wants to plan something really special. I''m kind of eager to see what he comes up with someday. It should make for a good story!

And it''s really important to him that it is a surprise. I don''t want to take that away from him. I know it''s coming and it''s still early enough on (just under 1 year) in our relationship that I can stand to wait for awhile.

 

[Kayakqueen83]

Date: 6/4/2008 4:34:40 PM
Author: cantwait4life
I just feel like this whole ring thing is consuming my life. I spend my days looking at rings, searching for diamonds, going to jewelry stores. I just want to get it over with so that I can move on with my life and focus on other things LOL

Aww, I''m sorry that you feel that way. Maybe it would be good for you to take a break from the whole diamond/ring thing? I''m just saying that if you feel like it is consuming your life, why don''t you take up a hobbie? It might help those feelings of "oh-my-god-just-get-it-over-with!" if you focus on something else. Honestly, the only thing you can do is take a deep breath and realize WHY you are so excited to get married... then spend some time with the fella.

Whatever you do, don''t let this anxiousness ruin a very special time in your life. Sometimes I get anxious as well, but in all actuality i want to savor every moment of this time of my life. These beginning years will soon fade into other (also wonderful and important) times. It''s important to bask in the excitement of it all.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

Sort of. It wasn''t a time issue, I am just not terribly partial to suprises and I was VERY picky in what I wanted for a ring. I loved my proposal, but it was not a suprise and I wasn''t any less thrilled because of that. I knew my FI was waiting until we were in Europe, so I didn''t mind waiting since I had a good timeline of when it was going to happen. I wish more guys would realize that for a lot of us, the suprise is really not worth the waiting when a lovely but expected proposal can be just as special or more o, since it wasn''t agonized over.

 

[HollyS]

Did I ever get in a mood and didn''t care about a proposal? You betcha! I probably waited longer than anyone on PS for my guy to be wedding ready; and how I was going to ''get a ring'' was the least of my worries. I just wanted a verbal understanding. Once I had that, we looked at rings together; chose my ring together; and he ''proposed'' with the finished ring 8 weeks later. (Notice how I didn''t exactly let him rest easy after that ''verbal promise'', but made him get busy!)

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Date: 6/4/2008 4:22:10 PM
Author:cantwait4life
I feel like I have waited so long that I don''t even care about being surprised anymore...I just want him to tell me I''m purchasing the ring on so and so date an proposing on such and such date. That way I know for sure that he''s serious about it.

I don''t think I questioned if he was serious about it, but I definitely worried a little initially about the difference between boy soon and girl soon. We set a date pretty early (which was set for sentimental and practical purposes since I still have a good deal of schooling left) but I definitely wanted at least a year engagement and I was worried he''d make it so short I wouldn''t be able to do anything at all in that period of time!

The surprise thing: I think I had a good spell of this when I first joined the forum. I just thought: my goodness this whole process is ridiculous!! He had already asked me for all the details, talked with me about a budget, gone to jewelry stores and looked at likes and dislikes. I just felt like: there''s nothing left to be surprised about, what''s the fuss???!!!

But then I realized, it was important to him too that it be a special moment and that he would do his best. So then I just let the whole thing go for a while. And it''s been pretty happy ever since. just having faith does go a long way.

Oh that and it really helps if you have other things to worry about. Step 1 is tomorrow for USMLE so... teehee... I haven''t thought about a ring or an engagement or ... done anything fun until today since... I don''t know... March?!