Have you ever had the urge to propose?

[sunnyd]

I had this really weird feeling on Monday while we were at a concert. We were watching a rock/metal group (Flyleaf) so it wasn''t the most romantic thing

but the song was pretty. And I just wanted to turn around and ask Chis to marry me!!!

It was weird. Anyone else ever feel that?

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Yeah I have...many times

 

[alli_esq]

Yes, yes, yes. I would have proposed like two years ago if I knew he wouldn''t have been offended by it. I actually looked into getting rings for him a loooong time ago, but then I mentioned something in passing and he balked at the idea of me proposing to him. He says that that''s his job

well, get to work, man!

 

[anchor31]

Yes, I did. But I''m glad I let him do it in the end.

 

[sunnyd]

I totally would...if I didn''t want him to do it.

I blame society for placing me in this damn traditional role... hehehe.

 

[jitterymo]

Date: 4/17/2008 5:35:52 PM
Author: alli_esq
Yes, yes, yes. I would have proposed like two years ago if I knew he wouldn''t have been offended by it. I actually looked into getting rings for him a loooong time ago, but then I mentioned something in passing and he balked at the idea of me proposing to him. He says that that''s his job

well, get to work, man!

Ditto!

 

[cutiegirl84]

Yes I have! But I definitely want him to do it. I think it will be more special that way, because I know he had gone through a lot of secrecy and planning to do it, which I definitely want!!

 

[FrekeChild]

Yes. Right before Christmas while watching the Bellagio fountains in Vegas. To Luciano Pavarotti''s "O Holy Night". I have a video on Myspace of it actually...But this couple had just gotten married and were standing near us in their full wedding regalia and it was so incredibly romantic...

 

[stryeyes102]

Ive definitely thought about it. It was even more on my mind this year as my uncles girlfriend proposed to him!

I mentioned it to bf who said that he would feel bad if i did that because he wouldnt have anything for me(and the tradition of it all).. Then commented "well, we will just have to see who proposes to who first!" i guess that means war lmao!

I was debating getting him a ring and doing it right when he gets off the ship(hes deployed right now).. Change the roles big time. Although,thinking about it, the guys would probably never let him live it down!

 

[absolut_blonde]

Personally, no. I don''t see anything wrong with it-- it''s just not for me. I''ve honestly never felt the urge to ask him. There have been times where I''ve been swept away in the moment and knowing he was the one, but at the same time it''s more of a ''I can''t wait til he proposes'' feeling.

I''m a bit old-fashioned, I suppose. SO is as well, so we''re a good match that way!

 

[zilaras]

Oh my gosh. With the e-ring having now migrated to be on top of the nightstand ( insert screaming hair pulling and psychosis) I am ready to maybe just propose to him...or myself for that matter. lol

But on a serious note yeah...one night on the cruise- everything was so romantic...I just wanted to say ''hey let''s just get engaged"

 

[CNOS128]

I have felt the urge; I''ve even been telling him lately that we should just elope; but I don''t think he takes me seriously.

It''s important to him to do the proposing, though, for a number of reasons - so I will let him have his moment.

 

[gwendolyn]

Sort of. For a while, I thought about getting J a proposal ring (a poesy ring with some love saying in Latin, like this one: http://www.sapphirelane.com/Latin_I_am_my_beloveds_ring.htm) and I still think about doing it sometimes, but I think he wants his wedding band to be *the* ring he wears in his life. He''d probably wear it anyway if I gave it to him--he''s cute like that.

But yeah, I guess to answer the question, sort of yes and sort of no. He''s asked me to marry him a few times and has since said he''d be happy to be married to me already, so I think if I just asked him, he''d say, "Sure, let''s do it now!"

 

[Rhea]

Yes, and I did. New Year's Eve 2003-2004. I wanted to give him something after I asked and didn't have anything on me to give him so I gave him the ring I was wearing at the time. I told him I was "seriously serious". He wore the ring on a necklace until we got married almost 2.5 years later.

The proposal that everyone wants to hear about (the "real" one according to some people

) was by both of us. I planned the proposal I thought he'd like and gave him a ring. Less than 5 hours later, he did his planned proposal and gave me a ring. We were just lucky that for some reason we both thought that day was the perfect engagement day!

So yes, I got the urge twice and actually proposed twice. In fact, most of his friends didn't realise that he'd also asked me on the same day and that I had a ring as well. He showed his friends his ring over a pint and they all oohhed and aahhed over it. Only when I pointed out that it was a joint effort did they get the second part of the story and to see my new ring.

 

[sunnyd]

You proposed to each other on the same day?!?! Wow, Addy, it really is meant to be!

That''s a cute story, love it.

 

[Rhea]

Thanks! I think it''s funny.

I tease DH that the reason I proposed the 2nd time was because I had a ring that fit him that time and wanted the my ring back that he''d been wearing around his neck from my off the cuff New Years Eve proposal.

Definately an urge to propose with me! Too bad I also had an urge to give away the only piece of jewellery I was wearing at the time and didn''t get it back for a couple of years.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 4/18/2008 5:17:58 PM
Author: Addy
Thanks! I think it''s funny.

I tease DH that the reason I proposed the 2nd time was because I had a ring that fit him that time and wanted the my ring back that he''d been wearing around his neck from my off the cuff New Years Eve proposal.

Definately an urge to propose with me! Too bad I also had an urge to give away the only piece of jewellery I was wearing at the time and didn''t get it back for a couple of years.

Yeah, well, it was worth it, right?

 

[star sparkle]

I thought about what it would be like, but never actually felt the urge to do it myself.

 

[RadiantMe]

I know that my BF purchased my E ring in January. So when Valentines day rolled around I jokingly proposed to him because I know he would be embarassed. It was so funny, he was totally suprised. He wants to do the traditional thing and I like it that way.

 

[noelwr]

I planned to propose him for several years and finally this year I did it (it being a leap year). and he was so glad I did! he actually wanted to propose to me but had no idea what type of ring to get me and didn''t want to ask me so that the surprise would be ruined. so he lucked out because I got him an engagement watch, proposed to him, and then he told me he wanted to get me a ring so we went out and picked one together. good thing we did because he said had he chosen it himself, he would have gotten something really different.

and he was so proud going around showing everyone his watch and telling them how his girlfriend proposed to HIM. and all the other guys were jealous because they had had to go out and buy expensive rings and they didn''t get a nice watch out of it. and everyone said "Your woman knows what she wants." which is very true! I want him.

 

[Elmorton]

Usually I don't post here, but I thought this was a really interesting thread There's a really good chapter in "I Do But I Don't" about this topic - after I read it (which was a few months before the wedding), I realized that the author had explained my feelings about the proposal perfectly.

For every major decision in my life, I've been the one who had the triumph of saying "I WANT TO _____". And then, for what I saw to be the biggest decision I'd made in life so far, I had to sit and wait for him to proclaim it instead. The feeling was so frustrating, and prior to reading about the author's experience, I couldn't explain why I felt so scrambled inside in the weeks leading up to the proposal. I think it makes absolute sense that women would have feelings of wanting to propose.

On the day DH proposed, I had a gut feeling...I went to my campus bookstore and bought him a card, and in it, I wrote how much I loved him and how much our relationship meant to me. In that way, I feel like I was able to sortof "propose back" and regain some partnership in the proposal.

ETA: SunnyD, I never noticed this, but our kitties are twins! Your black kitty looks like just like Morty and the tiger one is like Elmo (but yours has a little bit of a prettier mug with all that white!).

 

[jennypoo]

Yes! Many, many times. In fact, I''ve done it. Jokingly, of course, but I almost kind of wished he would''ve been like, "No, this isn''t right..." and got down on one knee and pulled out a ring! LOL

But yeah, there have been so many perfect-in-my-mind-moments that I think heck, if he''s not going to take advantage, then maybe I should!