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[ktkakes]

my wedding is less than 2 months a way and i feel like im on edge with everything. i found out recently that my family had mentioned to my aunts about my bachlorette party. dont get me wrong i love my family but i really just wanted it to be my bridesmaids and some friends. now when i addressed it nicely i was made to feel guilty about them inviting my aunts..

everytime i express something i want, i just get made to feel guilty about it.. does anyone else feel like this.

on a brighter note. we went for our wedding bands today, the jeweler is molding my engagment ring to make the perfect fit, so i have to be without my E-ring for a week, my hand feels naked!

 

[gtn]

Kate, don''t feel guilty about not inviting your aunts to the bachelorette party. In all honesty, would you want your aunts to be subjected to the hijinks of your friends? Do you want them to see you or your friends drunk? If the answer is no, that don''t feel sorry. It''s so funny how so many people think they deserve to have a say in your wedding. Most annoying is when people second guess you. I am trying really hard to not get offended by people interjecting "advice." Do what you want, it is your day.

 

[Anastasia]

Katie - When I got married, the bm''s, my sisters in law and the mob and mog all went out to dinner. Then myself and my bm''s went out to a bar afterward. It worked out well - everyone got to participate, but in events appropriate for them.

How old are your aunts? Would they really want to go out with the wedding party? I am 44, and have nieces who are old enough to marry. I can tell you that I would not want to go to the bachelorette party, mostly because I think my nieces would not feel comfortable with me there.

 

[Independent Gal]

Hahaha. If someone invited my crazy aunt to my bachelorette party, I would kill that person. But Aunt F is special.

I hear you, Date Twin! It is tough to be assertive about the things we want without feeling like we are being pushy or selfish. It will be OK. None of it is the end of the world. That''s what I keep telling myself, anyway.

How about suggesting a separate event with the aunties? Would that fly?

 

[ktkakes]

i think part of me is over reacting.. i mean my aunts arent uptight or anything. i think im just on edge and feeling the stress.. i just want the day to be here already. i dont know if anyone( especially you date twin) have been f eeling like this.. i feel like if i make another decisionmy brain is going to pop!