bootsiekin
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havernell if you are out there I am so sorry! I just discovered the post below from January that I managed to never see! (I have been kind of off and on with PS lately - very busy with school) I am so sorry..the one time I could have really helped someone out! Please let me know if any of the below post is still applicable and you still have any questions...again, I''m so sorry!!
Hi bootsiekin,
I saw in your reply to another post that you and your FI had/are having a joint Presbyterian/Catholic wedding ceremony. My FI and I are attempting the exact same thing! My FI''s second cousin who is a priest and my minister from the church in which I grew up are conducting the ceremony together. We have yet to work out the logistics of the ceremony (i.e. which clergy member will conduct which part of the service) so I was wondering if you had your service worked out yet? If so, would you mind telling me how you are meshing your two faiths in the ceremony?
My FI originally wanted to have a full mass (with communion) for our ceremony but after talking to both his cousin priest and his local priest here, we decided not to do it as we didn''t see any way around the awkwardness of a majority of my side of the family not being able to partake in catholic communion. Are you having communion at your service? If so, how is it being handled?
I am also curious about your pre-Cana class and "pre-marital investigation" with the Catholic church (we still need to do both). Were you, as the Presbyterian half of the couple, asked or pressured at any time to say you would raise your children as Catholics (not Protestants)? My FI and I have talked *extensively* about how to raise our (future) children so they can be exposed to both faiths and we are both perfectly willing to state that to the priest during our pre-marital investigation if asked. We''re just a little unsure if that is going to cause any issues...
Okay, I suppose that''s enough questions for now. Sorry for the novel, but I just got excited to see that someone else is attempting the same ecumenical type service as we are!
Hi bootsiekin,
I saw in your reply to another post that you and your FI had/are having a joint Presbyterian/Catholic wedding ceremony. My FI and I are attempting the exact same thing! My FI''s second cousin who is a priest and my minister from the church in which I grew up are conducting the ceremony together. We have yet to work out the logistics of the ceremony (i.e. which clergy member will conduct which part of the service) so I was wondering if you had your service worked out yet? If so, would you mind telling me how you are meshing your two faiths in the ceremony?
My FI originally wanted to have a full mass (with communion) for our ceremony but after talking to both his cousin priest and his local priest here, we decided not to do it as we didn''t see any way around the awkwardness of a majority of my side of the family not being able to partake in catholic communion. Are you having communion at your service? If so, how is it being handled?
I am also curious about your pre-Cana class and "pre-marital investigation" with the Catholic church (we still need to do both). Were you, as the Presbyterian half of the couple, asked or pressured at any time to say you would raise your children as Catholics (not Protestants)? My FI and I have talked *extensively* about how to raise our (future) children so they can be exposed to both faiths and we are both perfectly willing to state that to the priest during our pre-marital investigation if asked. We''re just a little unsure if that is going to cause any issues...
Okay, I suppose that''s enough questions for now. Sorry for the novel, but I just got excited to see that someone else is attempting the same ecumenical type service as we are!
Our service turned out really well with the priest and minister jointly officiating (if I do say so myself)! We did the paperwork to make sure the marriage would be recognized by the Catholic church even though the ceremony wasn''t being held in a Catholic space, which was important to my fiance. The Presby church didn''t seem to need any paperwork, so we were good there. Overall, it took us a lot of time to really craft a ceremony that was a true blend, but I actually really liked that because so often in wedding planning, people plan all of the reception details but leave the ceremony details (aka what the day is really all about!!) up to the clergy. By crafting our own ceremony, we really felt that we were putting the act of marriage first above the party planning. 
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