Having ring meltdown :(

[katomm]

I''ve literally been searching daily for a diamond wedding band to go with my knife edge e-ring. Nothing looks good with it. The band is not plain, it has some grooves in it. I wanted something different but anything that remotely looks decent with it is as plain as plain can be as far as diamond bands go. I don''t like channel or pave settings so this limits it as well. My fingers are large and of course every ring in every case is small so I can''t really see how it will look. The stone in my e-ring is a family heirloom but not he best quality diamond and that''s fine but anything too clear or perfect takes away from the e-ring.

FI and I picked up his band last night and it''s beautiful, a SK star of david palladium band. I was trying to show him diamond bands and asked if he liked them next to my e-ring and he just didn''t have a clue. He just kept saying to get what I want. I came home and lost it, crying over something as silly as wanting a diamond wedding band. There are much bigger things to worry about but this is really getting to me.

I feel awful for having fat fingers and not finding anything to go with my e-ring is now making me want a different setting even though I like the one I have. That makes me feel guilty for wanting something different now. FI just didn''t understand and at first was laughing at how I was upset over a ring, telling me eventually I''ll find one I like. When he realized I was serious and this was really bothering me we did talk it out and I felt better. But I''m still in the same dilemma. I really need to see rings in person and not order something online. I have a plain band I''m getting married in but I was hoping to have a diamond band no later than end of January.

Just needed to vent, knowing my PS ladies would understand.

 

[decodelighted]

Okay .. I hope you don''t mind me posting a picture of your ring here for reference. Its LOVELY btw! Listen, I totally relate. I had the SAME problem you''re having. Tricky size. Tricky e-ring. Hard to make a match. Also, it was just difficult to picture a ring next to my beloved e-ring without seeing it as "messing the whole thing up". (As ridiculous as it sounds). I loved the way my ring looked *alone* ... even tried to convince the fella that we should just use that ring again as my wedding ring & I''d wear it solo forever! Heh ... that didn''t go over so well. Anyway ...

I had the same problem trying rings on & found that kinda matching up the e-ring & wedding bands on a smaller finger helped me visualize the final look. Ultimately I found something I liked in person but was unable to order it at the jeweler (they couldn''t remember where they''d gotten it!) so I found the same band online & crossed my fingers. The company even "beefed up" the depth of my w-band because of its larger size & narrow width.

Have you looked at the super narrow bands at Estatediamondjewelry.com? That''s where my w-band came from. I went with the "link" band which is about 2mm wide & pairs nicely with my wider ering. But I bet some of the narrow bands could look lovely with your ring & not take away from it.

Another option would be a carved or engraved band with teensy tiny diamonds ... like a Van Craeynest band maybe?

You''ll find something you love! You will!!

 

[AustenNut]

Hey Katomm,

So sorry to hear about this!

For others, here's the link to Katomm's engaged thread. And for convenience, here's a picture

Have you thought about doing a band of baguettes set E-W? That might go along with the horizontal lines of your band, yet not be too flashy to overpower your center diamond. I don't have time to search for one right now (darn that pesky job!) but that's the first thing that came to mind. Also, how wide is the band on your e-ring? That might also affect people's opinions. Good luck with everything!

ETA: Deco, we were posting at the same time! So I'll change my picture to the distance shot so people can get two different perspectives on the ring.

 

[decodelighted]

Your e-ring has a sleek retro modern kind of look to it ... what about this band from Clay Pot? Or this one is more antiquey.

 

[AllieGator]

Have you seen the Danielle band from Whiteflash? It''s slender, and has bezel set little diamonds. It''s also available with rubies and sapphires, if you''d like some color. I''m personally a huge fan of colored stone accents, it really makes the diamond pop. I LOVE that setting, btw...very sleek.

wf band

 

[monkeyprincess]

I think your engagement ring looks lovely on your hand. Have you considered wearing your engagement ring on your right hand once you are married and picking out a stand alone wedding band for you left hand? Don''t be discouraged. You will find a ring.

 

[jewelz617]

Could you get a custom band made? Surely it''s not worth getting so upset over

 

[lilyfoot]

I''m sorry you''re going through this, and I hope you find something you love soon!

 

[AustenNut]

What about something like this or this?

 

[HopeDream]

hmm

I think the clay pot band would look pretty good.

Don''t worry, you''ll find something!

 

[katomm]

Thank you everyone!

HopeDream how did you do that????????? OMG, that would help so much if you could explain in detail so I could do that with a few bands to see how it would look. I love the WF band someone posted.

 

[4ever]

If it were me and I needed to see the ring in person, I would go to a jewlery store I liked, tell the SA your critera eg: less then $xxx, don''t like chanel or pave settings, want daimonds etc and just let them pull stuff for you to look at with your band. Try EVERYTHING because often the one that looks the best is not what you expected.

If no luck, repeat at next reputable jelwer.

 

[junebug17]

Date: 12/15/2009 8:40:56 AM
Author: AllieGator
Have you seen the Danielle band from Whiteflash? It''s slender, and has bezel set little diamonds. It''s also available with rubies and sapphires, if you''d like some color. I''m personally a huge fan of colored stone accents, it really makes the diamond pop. I LOVE that setting, btw...very sleek.

wf band

I really like this one too, katomm. I think it would look lovely with your ring! Hang in there, don''t get upset, you''ll find something!

 

[jcarlylew]

i have a similar problem, a knife edge with pave. I am going for a tiny tiny pave band, similar to what tiffany''s has right now. I believe their''s is called Metro.
My thing is to make sure it is "flat" enough that it doesnt cover the pave on the knife edge.

 

[E B]

Have you tried a simple shared prong band? It might look lovely with your e-ring, and it''s about as classic as it gets when it comes to diamond bands. Something thin, like this:

Facets Shared Prong Diamond Band, .53 ctw, 1.7mm wide

Since the band is thin and the diamonds small, it''ll be sparkly but will let your center stone shine. And they have a 30 day return policy (minus shipping) so you could easily return it if you didn''t like it.

 

[HopeDream]

Hi,

Here's how

I hope you can read it!

( I bet this would be much easier with photoshop)

 

[HopeDream]

Here''s the danielle band.

I think it looks great , but I worry about it outshining your heirloom stone.

 

[sunseeker101]

Just to second the Van Craeynest suggestion; how about something like the band here:

 

[sunseeker101]

...or here. Ring on left is 1st and 4th down, while the band on the right could be made a lot smaller and with a sharper rise in it to suit your e-ring. If you go custom you can have it any way you want, and the guys at VC would be able to tweak anything and put diamonds anywhere you''d like! Best of luck with the hunt

 

[sunseeker101]

Woeful Paint effort for you, but I think it looks good:

 

[AustenNut]

Thanks, HopeDream, for the tutorial. I'd try it now if I wasn't late for work! And I really like the Van Craeynest bands with this ring, Katomm.

 

[Clairitek]

Katomm- Just wanted to chime in and say that I''ve seen the Danielle in person and it shimmers so beautifully without overpowering the center stone. I ended up returning it because we decided to trim down the WB budget and get plain bands but I would buy it again in the future in a heartbeat. I love how the modern aspects of the Danielle ring compliment your modern knife-edge engagement ring and family stone.

Keep at it, it WILL happen! Especially with the likes of PSers around.

 

[Bella_mezzo]

I think the whiteflash Danielle would be gorgeous!!!! Its pretty subtle in real life so I think it would add some glitter but not overpower your beautiful stone. Plus, I think the elegant but modern bezel would be great with the strong lines of your engagement ring, which I love BTW.