He is SUCH a sweetheart!

[Amanda.Rx]

Ladies- I''m struggling with this long distance relationship! It''s so much harder than I thought it would be. In general, I just feel a sense of unhappiness when he''s not around. I had a long talk with my SO about it- and he even thought of trying to get out of his committment and come home a semester early. I told him NOT to, if he thinks it''s best for him to stay. I support him 100%, and I''m patiently waiting on him to return in August, although the stress, sadness, and lonliness is chipping away at me. I mean- he''s coming to visit every few months, and I''m going to visit him once or twice during the course, but it''s rough... it really is.

Anyways, he knows I''ve been having a tough time with it, so he bought me a gift certificate to my favorite spa to get a massage, since he can''t be here to do it!

A few weeks ago, he sent me roses... just because!

And he''s flying back in November to come to my fall formal, because he didn''t want me to go without a date! (he chose that weekend over thanksgiving)

He''s totally a keeper... and I''ll keep waiting... and now I can at least escape for an hour! *sigh*

 

[cbs102]

Long Distance relationships ARE so hard but i also think that they are really important, My now fiance and i did the long distance thing and it was extremely difficult but we really learned how to communicate with one another-because that was all we had. we also made sure that we did special things for one another - and it sounds to me like your FF is doing just that! it does sound like you have a keeper!!!

hang in there. it sucks, but it is worth it all!!

 

[Vintage_Glamour]

What a sweetheart! He''s definitely a keeper!

I''m so sorry that you''re struggling. I know what you''re going through though. I, too, am in a long distance relationship and it''s one of the hardest things I''ve had to deal with. I live in Los Angeles and my SO lives in London, so even talking is hard due to the large time difference. Not to mention he''s currently working 6 days a week so it''s impossible for him to come visit me until January, at least. I have been able to do a week or two in London and then a week or two back here in LA but it''s so hard. I do know how very fortunate I am to be able to go and see him but when we''re apart I just miss him so much. 10-12 hour flights, extreme jet lag and way too much money being spent... but... seeing and being held by him... it''s priceless!! The things we do for love.

 

[TheNextMrsB]

FF and I were long distance for 2 years, and in May we''ll be starting another 2 years. I try not to think about it because I get really upset. I totally remember how miserable being in a relationship like that can be. Just stay focused on the fact that it''s not forever, and he''s totally worth it. I''m so proud of us for getting through it together, and you will be, too. I''m almost glad we went through that time, because now no matter what challenges we face, we always say, "well, if we can get through being long distance, we can get through this." Just don''t be afraid to talk to him about how you''re feeling, and PS is always here, too!

 

[BabyBrown]

Hello Amanda,

You are in love, and your FF sounds like a wonderful man! I know what you mean about missing your FF...

They don''t call me BABYBrown for nothing, I love to be spoiled like a baby (cuddling and being given attention)

and I miss him terribly when we''re not together...

You seem like such a strong woman, and I bet that this will make you stronger!

 

[Thomperchik]

Amanda.RX. - I am in the same boat as you. I didn''t think it would be that hard until it finally happened. I will have to agree with everyone and say that communication is the most important thing. I write emails and texts and whatever I can do to make sure he knows how I feel and he does likewise. One thing that has really helped is to plan a date night. We do it every saturday and we cook dinner and have long 4-5 hour conversations over cam with a glass of wine. It helps to catch up on the previous week, but it also keeps the communication going.

Trust me, he''s a keeper & if you can get through this, you can get through anything after this! Good luck!

 

[Amanda.Rx]

Thanks for the encouragement, ladies...

I love the date night idea, Thomper! It gets a little tricky since we''re about 6 hours time difference, but I can do happy hour and he can do a late dinner, I suppose. I''ll have to suggest that to him!

LDRs are crappy! lol... but at least we''re communicating well!

 

[Dannielle]

Your SO sounds like a real sweetheart

I also think that date night sounds like a good idea.. when my FI and I were long distance keeping the lines of communication open was really important. Emailing and web cam really helped..

Good luck!