PhillyMcGee
Rough_Rock
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- Jun 12, 2012
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Hello ladies,
Well I have recently discovered PS and decided to join the LIW list! I have been with my other half for 10 years
and not engaged yet!! Which sounds worse than it is, we have been together since the age of 15, now only 25 so for the majority of that time we didn't feel ready to be getting married. We have always talked about getting married, our future children etc etc so there is no doubt about commitment or anything, just age, other priorities and money! We have owned our home together for over 4 years now as well, and have two doggies
Anyway the past year or so I began to think a little more about making it official and getting engaged. Then about 5 months ago my OH (after a few drinks!) told me that he was planning to propose to me
I thought he was proposing then and there and was a bit confused as it was not how I had imagined it lol (think in the bathroom at a house party, OH sitting on the toilet - seat down, not actually using it!) so may have acted a bit strange....anyway since then we have talked about it a bit so hopefully it will be coming one day soon!
I do have a bit of a dilemma though! Since that conversation I have become a little obsessed with the ring part of the process, discovered pricesope and learnt all about diamonds and settings, have been looking online to find prices, and have basically chosen what diamond specs I would want and the setting I want it in and last weekend reached a new level of crazy when I saw almost exactly what I would want in the window of a jeweller and went in to try it on! The sales assistant kept saying 'congratulations on your engagement' haha! FYI my dream ring would be a cushion cut (not exactly sure what type of cushion yet, I haven't gotten that far in my crazy research) with a halo, bright cut pave on the shank, milgrain detail, flush fit cathedral type profile 
ANYWAY I try to sneak this into conversation as often as possible without seeming pushy. The other day we were discussing a friend's engagement ring and how the guy (a friend of my OH) got a bit ripped off with it (disclaimer here: we live in Perth, Australia - he paid normal Perth prices which is a huge rip off compared to just about anywhere else!!) and I started telling OH that I would want to buy a loose diamond from the US blah blah blah.....and then he tells me he is 'supposed' to propose with his late grandmother's ring.
I am not sure how I feel about this....apparently it is worth a fair amount of money. I love the sentiment and tradition behind it, and love that the stone has histroy and would love to wear it. His grandparents lived a long and happy life together. BUT apparently it can't be reset, as they don't want to change it. I do not like this. There is a big risk I won't like it, of course. But even if I did like it, I would prefer to have it reset (replicated possibly if it was alovely setting) because I feel that it will always be 'her' ring, never mine, like a loan. I want my ring to be truly mine and representative of mine and my partner's relationship and I feel that by resetting the heirloom stone would be the perfect balance. I don't think this is going to be an option
My OH has very strong family values, this would mean a lot to him so I don't know if I could say no! I haven't really told him how I felt about it other than ask if it would be an option to reset. How to tackle this? I don't want my ring to not be truly mine, and have this unspoken sore spot about it forever!! He doesn't even remember what it looks like as it has been in a safety deposit box for many years, and he is a man who pays no attention, so I can't even gauge whether I will like it. I am secretly hoping that the setting is damaged from being so old and worn often so there is no choice but to reset it when the time comes
Anyway it may be a way off yet....we are hoping to go away the the US at the end of the year so I suspect that may be the time!
Well I have recently discovered PS and decided to join the LIW list! I have been with my other half for 10 years
and not engaged yet!! Which sounds worse than it is, we have been together since the age of 15, now only 25 so for the majority of that time we didn't feel ready to be getting married. We have always talked about getting married, our future children etc etc so there is no doubt about commitment or anything, just age, other priorities and money! We have owned our home together for over 4 years now as well, and have two doggies Anyway the past year or so I began to think a little more about making it official and getting engaged. Then about 5 months ago my OH (after a few drinks!) told me that he was planning to propose to me
I thought he was proposing then and there and was a bit confused as it was not how I had imagined it lol (think in the bathroom at a house party, OH sitting on the toilet - seat down, not actually using it!) so may have acted a bit strange....anyway since then we have talked about it a bit so hopefully it will be coming one day soon!I do have a bit of a dilemma though! Since that conversation I have become a little obsessed with the ring part of the process, discovered pricesope and learnt all about diamonds and settings, have been looking online to find prices, and have basically chosen what diamond specs I would want and the setting I want it in
and last weekend reached a new level of crazy when I saw almost exactly what I would want in the window of a jeweller and went in to try it on! The sales assistant kept saying 'congratulations on your engagement' haha! FYI my dream ring would be a cushion cut (not exactly sure what type of cushion yet, I haven't gotten that far in my crazy research) with a halo, bright cut pave on the shank, milgrain detail, flush fit cathedral type profile ANYWAY I try to sneak this into conversation as often as possible without seeming pushy. The other day we were discussing a friend's engagement ring and how the guy (a friend of my OH) got a bit ripped off with it (disclaimer here: we live in Perth, Australia - he paid normal Perth prices which is a huge rip off compared to just about anywhere else!!) and I started telling OH that I would want to buy a loose diamond from the US blah blah blah.....and then he tells me he is 'supposed' to propose with his late grandmother's ring.
I am not sure how I feel about this....apparently it is worth a fair amount of money. I love the sentiment and tradition behind it, and love that the stone has histroy and would love to wear it. His grandparents lived a long and happy life together. BUT apparently it can't be reset, as they don't want to change it. I do not like this. There is a big risk I won't like it, of course. But even if I did like it, I would prefer to have it reset (replicated possibly if it was alovely setting) because I feel that it will always be 'her' ring, never mine, like a loan. I want my ring to be truly mine and representative of mine and my partner's relationship and I feel that by resetting the heirloom stone would be the perfect balance. I don't think this is going to be an option
My OH has very strong family values, this would mean a lot to him so I don't know if I could say no! I haven't really told him how I felt about it other than ask if it would be an option to reset. How to tackle this? I don't want my ring to not be truly mine, and have this unspoken sore spot about it forever!! He doesn't even remember what it looks like as it has been in a safety deposit box for many years, and he is a man who pays no attention, so I can't even gauge whether I will like it. I am secretly hoping that the setting is damaged from being so old and worn often so there is no choice but to reset it when the time comes
Anyway it may be a way off yet....we are hoping to go away the the US at the end of the year so I suspect that may be the time!
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