Help.....I think I need therapy.

[sugarjo]

Hello new friends. I think I have a problem, and I need someone''s help to snap out of it. It is my day off from school and work, and here I am, in my pj''s, watching 27 dresses, reading PS and flipping through Bride''s mag.
I''m not even engaged. This sick, twisted secret obsession has taken over all rational parts of my brain ( I should be studying) It started simply enough with reading about diamonds. But since then my FF and I have gone shopping a handful of time, and I have since told him he is now on his own. He says our engagement will happen "sooner than later", that being said, we moved in together two years ago, and I''ve been waiting for a proposal since. SO, I haven''t a clue when it will happen.
But in the mean time, I''ve pretty much planned my whole wedding. (We''ve pretty much set a date, Jan. 2010). It is sick and twisted and I need therapy.

 

[jcarlylew]

welcome to the club! I dont know if i can help with your obbession (becuase its mine too!) but know that you are NOT alone!!

 

[dreaming of the day]

I think I need therapy too! I haven''t planned out my wedding but I am definetley doing a lot of ''research''

 

[ams0124]

There should be a Psychologist that specialized in LIW syndrome!!! There would be lots of money to be made in that field

 

[AprilD]

To the OP, I seriously could have written what you said WORD FOR WORD. 2 years living together, "sooner than later"... etc.

This is the hard part... I keep on telling myself not to miss the great things about this time, and try not to rush things.. but I am SOOOOO beyond ready (AND WANTING) to be engaged!!

So I feel your pain and youre not alone

 

[Izzy03]

I could make a lot of money it I became a LIW therapist. The best part is, I could tell my clients "I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!"

 

[JSM]

If you need therapy then I need anti-therapy - I have been engaged over a year and a half and still haven''t planned a thing! I couldn''t care less about a wedding!

On the plus side, if he''s got the ring you''re not really too far ahead of the game.

Less work to do later!

 

[vita*dolce]

lol, listen sister, if you want to get talked out of it, you''ve come to the wrong place!! we''re enablers!!

my new favorite wedding **** site -- martha stewart weddings!! it''s glorious in the all the right ways!!

 

[sugarjo]

oh yes, martha is my favorite. she is absolutely perfect. well, I guess if I can''t beat this, I mind as well join the cult.

 

[ahappygirl]

I need therapy because I just spent an entire hour looking at wedding dresses online FOR MY SISTER. Who''s not engaged. But I have a feeling will be with a few short months.

 

[cbs102]

Listen Sugar, I feel your pain.. i have lived through it. here i am on the other side... i got engaged a little over a month ago. While waiting for the engagement iw as on PS all day long, i was reading bridal magazines, looking up destination wedding venues and rings like a total loony toon. I actually had to have a little talk with myself. it was taking over my life. it was all i thought about. I tell you, now that i am engaged i really wish that i had not spent all my energy on the ring and proposal ideas ect... it ALMOST took away from the moment a little.

There was a post maybe a week ago that said something like, when you find your soulmate you want to fast forward to everything.... i cannot stress enough how real this is... if it is at all possible just kind of sit back and relax... i had to sign off of PS for while because it was too much. you are going to get engaged.. it will happen!!!! just enjoy your time with you FF and soon enough you patience will pay off!!!!

 

[Blackpaw]

Sugarjo you''ve come to the wrong place to be talked out of your madness!! I say embrace it

It doesnt hurt anyone to be excited about the future so dont feel guilty, and as long as its not making you unhappy its ok i think. But i second cbs102 - if it is becoming too much for you then try to take a break from pricescope etc! though thats a tall order

 

[tessari]

Lately I have been thinking about it the same way I used to think about my birthday when I was little: the excitement the day before or at the very beginning of the birthday felt way better than than the wind-down---after the presents were open and the cake was eaten. So I am trying to enjoy this excitement now...not that I don''t think that being married will be great but I know myself and I know that no matter what I should feel about being married the day I get back from my honeymoon will be kind of...like the end of a birthday. So yeah, I am trying to enjoy each moment and not rush things.

 

[Amzizzle]

I guess we all need to go to group therapy then! I love wedding smut! I look at rings,dresses,and let''s not forget all the shows!

 

[sugarjo]

Thank you all for your advise!!! You are totally right. I need to back off and just enjoy this time. Lucky for me it is campaign season (I''m very involved in my state''s democratic party.)and the DNC is next week, I have a full school schedule and a little bit of work. Now I just need to check myself to get the important stuff done and stop trying to find an Amsale trunk show close to me. Yikes.

But this place is so much fun!!!!!

 

[radiantquest]

yes you are and yes you do, no. im just kidding you. that is what we are all here for. all of us do it. i think sometimes it makes you want it more badly, but at least you can pre-plan and stare at everyone elses diamonds on here. you are fine.