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largirl

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I have two sisters and two best friends who I would like in my BP. FI has four very, very close friends that he would like to use; they are all in each other''s weddings and it''s like a tradition now. The problem is that I have a brother and FI has a sister (both in high school) who, using that formula, aren''t in the BP. My brother can be an usher, which is a fairly significant role as he gets to have a tux, but FI''s sister wouldn''t have a role. She''s very into theatre and drama, so I would definitely have her do a reading, but....that doesn''t seem special enough. I would love to have her in the BP, but a) FI would rather not use my brother, not because they don''t like each other but because they don''t know each other very well, and if I included his sister than my brother would be the only non-BP sibling and b) I''m already a little iffy on an 8-person BP and would rather not expand it to 10 - we''re only having 100 people and that would make the BP 1/10th of the invited guests. And his sister, being only 16, wouldn''t have $$ to buy a dress and it would be a struggle for us to get it for her since we''re already stretching ourselves thin.

Any ideas? Should I just suck it up and have a ridiculously large BP? Or is there another role you can think of besides just "reader"? I could not use one of my best friends (or drop them both), but I love them both dearly and was in both their weddings and that would break my heart.
 
Honestly, I think having his sis do a reading and your brother help usher is just fine. If you would like his sis to feel more included in the bridal party, you could have her wear the same color as your bridesmaids. She can still get ready with you and your other girls and be involved in any other ways you think she would enjoy. Don''t stress about it!
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Date: 3/5/2008 2:46:14 PM
Author: ladyciel
Honestly, I think having his sis do a reading and your brother help usher is just fine. If you would like his sis to feel more included in the bridal party, you could have her wear the same color as your bridesmaids. She can still get ready with you and your other girls and be involved in any other ways you think she would enjoy. Don''t stress about it!
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i agree that the reading would probably be fine for the sister. you could also make sure to get her a flower thingy and invite her to get ready with you and the girls and make sure to get her a little something giftwise along with the rest of the bridal party.

this might be scoffed at by a lot of people, but in my circle a lot of people have a ''personal attendant'', which is just someone that you ask to be with you on the day, and to help prepare and help with little things. if you think his sister wouldn''t be put off by that, you could always ask her to do that as well
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Mimzy, I was thinking about that and totally got blasted for even daring to think about asking someone to be "my slave" for the day! But that was the original plant - personal attendant and reader.
 
Date: 3/5/2008 4:04:51 PM
Author: largirl
Mimzy, I was thinking about that and totally got blasted for even daring to think about asking someone to be 'my slave' for the day! But that was the original plant - personal attendant and reader.


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as if you are really going to treat ANYBODY like a slave? it's just a arbitrary title to give someone that you want to make sure is with you and involved with things on wedding day?

you could also make her a greeter or program passerouter or something?
 
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