He''s confusing me!

[bubbly1126]

So, I''m a little confused.

Every time I find a ring online that I like, I call FF over and he looks. He seems very interested and such.

Last night I find an antique ring that I absolutely have fallen in LOVE with... and yes, even though I have NOT seen it in person BUT it is so beautiful!! Anyway, I tell FF "come here and look... this ring is gorgeous, I would LOVE it!" And he just looks at me... doesn''t move from the couch and that was it. He showed no interest what-so-ever.

WHAT-THE-FUDGE?!?!

Is he really just not interested in seeing it b/c he doesn''t care? Or b/c maybe he''s already got his eye on one or having one made? Or already bought one? I don''t get it!!! He seems to have no interest!


GRRRRR!!!! I am so confused!

ETA: I honestly don''t think he''s even seriously looked yet... unless he''s amazingly awesome at doing all this behind my back so yeah, I DON''T think he''s bought one yet... or is even that close to it. (At least not as close as I''d like him to be!) So... yup. I don''t know.

 

[sammyj]

Is your BF typically the kind of guy that gets excited? Or does he normally have a laidback demeanor? I can imagine how hard it is for a guy to constantly get excited about looking at rings...regardless of how important it is to him. I mean, e-rings (and jewelry in general) are waaaay out of a guy''s typical day-to-day hobbies/interests, so maybe you''re expecting too much *emotion* from him?

Granted, I wouldn''t have appreciated NO reaction either, but if he''s generally been very interested and supportive, then I''d cut him some slack. Maybe instead of calling him over everytime you''ve found something you love, you can just save it all into a folder on his computer? That way it''s there for him to see and he can check it when he can.

btw, my BF often does the ''no reaction'' thing. I''ll make a comment or tell a story and he won''t say anything at all, so I''ve learned to say "right, D?" at the end of each sentence just so I know he''s listening and he''ll say "right" back.

 

[allycat0303]

Maybe he''s seen enough rings to know what he wants. Honestly, sometimes us girls notice every tiny detail about a ring, but to some guys it''s all variations on the same theme.

I wouldn''t worry too much about it.

 

[sklingem]

Could it be that he got another ring in the meantime ...?

 

[SailorsSweet<3]

How different have the rings been that you''ve showed him? MAYBE youre confusing HIM! You have to consider that guys dont usually see the details in a setting the way we do. Show him a tiffany style solitaire RB, a pave band also with RB and then maybe a Cushion in a simple solitaire band and thats it.. you''ve given 3 examples that look completely different to him. I dont know what your bf is into.. but sometimes I feel like showing my bf rings or diamond specs is the same as him showing me sports stats or guy humor youtube videos. I act the same way and its not that I dont love him or care. Dont underestimate him and his ability to care regardless of how excited he does or does not get.

 

[bubbly1126]

I guess I could be confusing him... or I''m giving him so much information that it''s overwhelming him. Who knows.

I think, honestly, that I''m taking things to heart b/c well, it''s that time of the month! So things that I would normally shrug off are getting to me. Haha!

Anyway... no big deal. I''m going to stop showing him rings and just leave it all to him from here on out. I told him to make sure to come to me if he has any questions about anything but other than that, I''m sure he''ll pick out something I will love! (I''ll love anything though, as long as it''s from him!)

And thanks everyone! I really needed you to bring me down to a sane level! haha.

Oh, and Rob, nope. I''m about 99.9% positive he hasn''t bought anything yet.

 

[The Future Mrs.]

Hello !

I am newly registered to this site, though I read posts all the time.

I can relate to your situation. My boyfriend was the same way yours is last year. Last Decemeber I would show him rings and he would comment, but it wasn''t all that excited.

Now this year he is talking about how much he wants to get married, and how he''s planning on us looking at rings next year (''09). We''ve talked about cost , and he is really excited about getting engaged next year.

So your boyfriend just may not be ready to look at rings and talk about marriage now. Every person is different, but give him
some time to come around. If my very uninterested ( in looking at rings) boyfriend came around, yours could too.

Hope that helped.

 

[MissDimity]

I was starting to get the same kinda response from my bf when I point out different rings I like.

You might have pointed out a lot of rings, so your bf is unsure of what you want (and might also think your unsure of what you want).
If you want to get his attention to ensure you get the ring you want, maybe write a list specifying the diamond and ring details that you want and include some pics. Then I think either suggest that he considers those points when buying a ring/diamond or he could offer to take you ring shopping.

If you send him the list and he doesn''t suggest ring shopping.. just back off him a bit ( let the info digest), you would have given him a fair amount of insight into what you are wanting so he shouldn''t go wrong.
I did this to my bf as I know an e-ring purchase is on his cards ( we had bought a ring previously but the diamond had faults and the jeweler was dodgy, so we got a refund).

This is part of an email I sent him, with details about what I would like:
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My handsome, I am hoping very much that when you do pick out a diamond and a ring you pick out something nice.

Here are my general recommendations in order of prefernce:
-Shape: Round Brilliant
-Cut: very good to excellent: More info: depth=60-62.4%, table= 54-57%, crown angle= 34-35 degrees, pavilion angle= 40.6-41 degrees, girdle= thin to slightly thick, thin to medium, polish and symmetry= very good and above
-Colour: best possible, nothing below J
-Clarity: not below an ‘eye clean’ SI2, make sure there is no visible inclusions near the centre.
-Florescence: I like the idea that a diamond might shine blue in UV light, with colours H-J a blue fluorescence can make a diamond appear whiter. Florescence has been seen as an unfavorable quality, so you might bargain for a lower price if it is present. Make sure it doesn’t look ‘milky’ though-but this is rare.
-Carat: I’ve had my heart set on a 1ct, however if the cut is awesome a lower carat 0.85-0.9 will look just as big as a 1 carat.

Tips:
-look at diamond under ‘loupe’ (10 x magnification)
-check certification (ANY OF THE FOLLOWING: GSL, EGL,GIA, DCLA, IGI, AGS)

RING SETTING
-simple, make sure the diamond sits above the band
-either set in a bezel (circle of white gold) or in a prong (that doesn’t look like it will catch)
-band with diamonds in a flushed or channel or paved or bead set ( make sure again that if you run your finger across the band it won’t catch)
-the thinner the band the bigger the stone will look- so remember that when deciding
-I like the look of seeing the heart shape underneath the diamond, however couldn’t find pics –but this is not necessary (it might look complicated)

I have enclosed some pictures (eye candy) for inspiration.
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[CNOS128]

It''s possible that he''s already purchased a ring or has decided on a ring to buy.

It''s also possible that he''s just not interested in looking at the ring. Not every man enjoys looking at jewelry, especially with the pressure of proposing linked to it. He might need a break from being called over to see every ring you find that you like.