He's Saying the classic, "my friend knows a guy"

[beesha77]

oh I'm so frustrated! He had somebody supposedly making him a ring. Turns out he just ordered a ring and it still hadn't come and the guy was giving him the run around. Thank goodness he got his deposit back! Now today he met his new chiropractor and starts talking about how he's trying to buy a ring and now his new chiropractor "knows a guy". Ugh!! He promised me that he was calling engagement rings direct this morning and didn't. Instead now he's gonna go with his new chiropractor?! I'm so annoyed! I know the main thing is us getting married, and he will probably say that I don't know the people at ERD either but sheesh! I don't know what else to say to him.

 

[madelise]

ahhh! there's so many posts all over PS about people who got screwed over by "my friend of a friend that's a jeweler"! he's breaking rule #1 of PS: NEVER buy from a friend! please please please tell him to not purchase anything until coming to PS first. if he really insists, sure, go visit that friend of his chiropractor. but leave his $ and his credit card at home! write down exactly what he's quoted-- the exact stone, color, clarity, size, which certificate it has (make sure he only uses GIA or AGS!), and all the seemingly "little information" like the table and depth %, and crown and pavilion angles! are you guys planning to look for a round? if so, have him bookmark the HCA tool on his phone, and get him an idealscope. that $30 saves you a hell of trouble.

then come on here, in RockyTalky, and post everything he thinks he is getting a deal on. I guarantee you that those veteran PS-ers will find 190820198210928 matches that are not only cheaper, but better quality!

if he wants to surprise you, and doesn't want you knowing, then tell him to make his own PS account, and post ambiguously enough that you won't figure out it's him! there are plenty of these such posters!

 

[Silvia]

Oh no!
My SO originally wanted to get a ring from a jeweller friend who have known each other for over 20 years.

I managed to get him off the idea by:

• Sent him my white gold ring 5-stone which needed to be rhodium plated and prongs re-tipped, then when it came back acted impressed about the rhodium plate, but then complained about the prongs getting caught in everything in my pocket, said how the ring doesn't look as good anymore because of the huge prongs, and if their engagement jewellery was this bad I wouldn't want to wear it for the rest of my life...
• Told the jeweller friend the exact specs I wanted (he came back with a couple he could get but it wasn't exact, so BF said don't bother if it's not exactly what I want)
• We also went into a shoddy chain maul store for crazy crazy quotes, looked at some ridiculously included stones, and showed him the stone I want online for a 1/3 of the price & better setting.
• Then I went crazy and showed him 50 different solitaires and how they were all different and showed him the one I like.

He won't buy without my approval now, actually he now knows the exact stone and ring I want, so it's just time and $... He did have a whinge about taking the surprise/fun out of everything, but he knows how OCD I get about things...

I don't know if acting like a lunatic would work for you though, good luck!

 

[Amys Bling]

id show him the great quality and pricing of an online vendor and have him compare apples to apples in term of certificate- grading, and ASET/Idealscope

he may think the "I know a guy" is a better deal, but 9 times out of 10 it isnt.

 

[audball]

id show him the great quality and pricing of an online vendor and have him compare apples to apples in term of certificate- grading, and ASET/Idealscope

he may think the "I know a guy" is a better deal, but 9 times out of 10 it isnt.

Agreed. As the PP have said, if you show him cold hard facts and compare apples to apples, most guys will come around. Let us know how it's going!

 

[Amys Bling]

please come back and update!

 

[beesha77]

I quit asking questions. He did see aset images so??? I am done nagging him about it. I know a diamond was purchased. From whom I don't exactly know. Sigh.

 

[Fredana]

I'd say... relax.

You know there is a diamond... That's more reassurance than a lot of other people on this board. Myself included. Be happy and take a deep breath, it'll all work out.

 

[beesha77]

Fredana--that's what I'm saying. At the end of the day, I just want to marry the love of my life. Where he got the diamond doesn't matter. Hell, all I've stressed is that it sparkle. I know there's a diamond, he's designing the ring, I'm sure it will be beautiful. And if it isn't, well, I can probably get an upgrade in a few years.

 

[Amys Bling]

He's Saying the classic, "my friend knows a guy"

Fredana--that's what I'm saying. At the end of the day, I just want to marry the love of my life. Where he got the diamond doesn't matter. Hell, all I've stressed is that it sparkle. I know there's a diamond, he's designing the ring, I'm sure it will be beautiful. And if it isn't, well, I can probably get an upgrade in a few years.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Hmmm. I dunno. I would be annoyed if my bf overpaid for lesser quality, which is the case 99% of the time when people buy rings/diamonds. Of course you just want to be married/engaged, but its also a really important piece of jewelery and its ok to have an opinion.

 

[beesha77]

The setting was custom made. He gets to see the final piece tomorrow. So I guess it won't be long now!

 

[audball]

YAY! I hope you LOVE it.

 

[audball]

Do you know if he was able to pick it up last Friday? I hope there are some VERY special plans for you this weekend!!