He''''s so cryptic!

[Blenheim]

Bits of conversations from the last few days:

Me: Oh, **** just IMed me.
Him: What did she say?
Me: Just, hey babe.
Him: She never IMs me.
Me: Well, we like sparklies and we talk about things like that.
Him: Well, I like sparklies. For all you know, I could have already gotten you one.
Me: I don''t believe you.
Him: Why not?
Me: Well, I personally wouldn''t have the patience to wait from Christmas to now*.
Him: Maybe I''m waiting for the perfect spring weather, to drive you into the mountains and propose as the sun sets.
Me: Like today?
Him: Just think, I could have proposed today. It could have been the day. You could have a ring on your finger right now.


While he''s complaining about someone taking a video game from his (always unlocked) room and not returning it:
Me: See, that''s why I don''t believe that you could have already bought it. Where would you put it? Someone would come into your room and borrow it, and you''d never be able to find it.
Him: I leave my video games out in the open, but I have special hiding places for things like that.


Later, when he''s mentioning that he''s going to be pretty tight on money (He''s spending next week in Europe, lucky dog):
Me: So, when you say that you don''t have much money in your bank account, does it mean that you already bought a ring, or that you have money set aside for buying a ring that you''re not touching, or that you have to save up more?
Him: I don''t have to answer that.

And if I ask him, "So does this mean you already have it?" all he''ll say is "I never said that."

This is driving me NUTS!!


* His dad loves jewelry, particularly diamonds, and wants to go shopping with him for the ring. (I love the jewelry that his dad''s bought for his mom, so that''s fine.) This means that he''s going to go shopping when he''s visiting his parents, instead of buying one in town or online. He spent Christmas break with them, is sleeping there tonight before flying to Europe (I asked if he was going to go shopping then and he said no), and could possibly visit them sometime between now and his May deadline. I mentioned that I''d get very suspicious if he suddenly decides to go home for a weekend though...

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Ha ha, sounds like he''s playing a game with you. Dropping hints all over the place, it looks like to me. I don''t think he''d be saying that stuff if he wasn''t plotting a surprise for you... But then again, guys are really hard to understand. I''d take this as a positive thing and maybe have a little fun with it, but that''s just me.

 

[anchor31]

Heh, he''s having a lot of fun at your expense!! I can''t honestly guess if he has it or not, but he''s one sneaky guy!

 

[monarch64]

A big *BOO* to your man for torturing you Blenheim!

Then again, it will make the actual proposal that much sweeter! Hang in there!

 

[Blenheim]

I have no idea whether he has it or not! I started to throw a pretend temper tantrum over the comment about how he could have proposed yesterday, and he said, "Oh, save it for the LIWs." Heehee.

So, when you''re saying I should have a little fun with it, do you have any specific ideas?

 

[monarch64]

Sure, my specific idea would be to back off completely and let him wonder why you''ve stopped questioning anything, lol!

I''m sure that will be tough, it would drive him just as nuts as he''s been driving you!

 

[anchor31]

Hee, that''s a good one, Monarch! I bet he''ll be dying for you to ask questions!!

 

[Blenheim]

Today I mentioned an X-prong, and he asked what that is.

I''ve only told him like fifty times that that''s probably my favorite setting for a solitaire. I started listing every name I could think of: trellis, lucida-style, etc. He said "Oh, I think I get it," and started describing a bezel-setting. Nooooo...

I got out my computer, and started showing him all these pictures. I asked him how he could have forgotten that I like them so much, and he kept saying that he can have a bad memory at times. Him: "If I''ve already gone ring shopping, I probably just asked the salesman what he''d recommend. I have no idea what things are called or what''s good."

And then he started laughing. Me: "Why are you laughing? Why is this funny? Have you just been playing dumb? YOU''VE BEEN PLAYING DUMB! I hate you!!"

He practically gave me a heart attack.

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Ha ha, you''re so cute!

 

[Mannequin]

My boyfriend does stuff like this too.

He is a law student and he knows I don''t expect anything before he gets done with school in May and the bar in July. He''s been hinting at a proposal anytime between now and Christmas for a while, but now he is saying he is thinking about before July! He does this thing where he starts smirking and says, "Maybe I''ll ask on your birthday, but maybe I won''t... Maybe I''ll ask you in Florida over Easter, but maybe I won''t... Maybe I''ll wait until our anniversary, but maybe I won''t..." It makes me beyond happy that he is thinking about it, but it also drives me positively crazy!

 

[Blenheim]

equestrienne,

I love your new picture. That doesn''t happen to be one of your horses, does it?

 

[Mannequin]

Nope, not one of mine, my grey horse is NEVER that clean.

That is an icon I made from a photograph taken by Robert Vavra. He does fantastic equine photography and I have about four of his coffee table books now. This photo came from a set in Unicorns I Have Known. His photography became more well known when he did the movie posters for The Horse Whisperer a few years ago. Here is a link to his webpage for more gorgeous and breath-taking photos. http://www.robertvavra.com/

 

[anchor31]

Date: 3/20/2006 9:03:09 PM
Author: Blenheim
Today I mentioned an X-prong, and he asked what that is.

I''ve only told him like fifty times that that''s probably my favorite setting for a solitaire. I started listing every name I could think of: trellis, lucida-style, etc. He said ''Oh, I think I get it,'' and started describing a bezel-setting. Nooooo...

I got out my computer, and started showing him all these pictures. I asked him how he could have forgotten that I like them so much, and he kept saying that he can have a bad memory at times. Him: ''If I''ve already gone ring shopping, I probably just asked the salesman what he''d recommend. I have no idea what things are called or what''s good.''

And then he started laughing. Me: ''Why are you laughing? Why is this funny? Have you just been playing dumb? YOU''VE BEEN PLAYING DUMB! I hate you!!''

He practically gave me a heart attack.

Oh my, this really cracked me up... Your bofriend is one funny guy! You may be going a little crazy because he''s keeping you on your toes, but I''m sure looking back, you and your boyfriend will have quite a few laughs!!

 

[JenStone]

Blenheim, you took my topic!!! I was going to start a thread about how my boyfriend''s really starting to confuse me...good thing I read yours first!

My boyfriend I really think alike so whenever he''s going for a surprise, he goes out of his way to try to confuse me.

For example, last anniversary, he drove around in circles and took huge detours before arriving at our surprise anniversary dinner location, just so I wouldn''t guess on the way.

Last month, we had to do some emergency car repairs. I was really upset because both of us were pretty broke afterwards. He then said to me,

"It''s ok. I can move some funds around."
"What do you mean? Do you have a secret savings account I don''t know about?"
"I don''t know what you''re talking about."

On several occasions, he starts complaining about how broke he is and I jokingly ask him,

"How do you ever expect to get a ring for me if you''re so broke all the time?"
"Oh, I have my ways."

Then just yesterday, I mentioned how I want a rectangular cut, not round, and he said,

"Who says I''m buying you a ring?"

 

[Mannequin]

Jenstone, I know exactly how you feel. Boyfriends just love to be obnoxious about this stuff, don''t they? I think that they think it''s required, like it''s in their boyfriend manual under the courting and engagement chapter or something.

I got home from aerobics last night and I thought I was really pooped. I got into the shower and immediately woke up, though (CRAP!) so I started checking my email and puttering around and my sweetie was online so I talked to him. He was teasing me about how proud he was that I haven''t said anything about rings for a while! We did those browsing trips and he knows what I want, so I''ve let the ball stay in his court and just let the subject lay low right now - too many other things to think about!

I teased him back about how I changed my mind and said I wanted one tomorrow (Tuesday) and he said he couldn''t because he had class to go to instead. Hahaha, funny... He did say though that he is happy that I want a sparklie from him and that I just need to be patient because something very nice is on the way before July.

insert SQUEE here

He didn''t say much after that but even after he signed off I was still excited and did not get to sleep until really late. Way to go, messing up my sleep patterns with sparklies... I was soooo tired today trying to teach.

 

[Blenheim]

Equestrienne, that''s so exciting!

JenStone, are you sure we''re not dating the same guy?

Most of the LIWs have been dating their boyfriends and talking some about marriage and rings for a while. While this is great -- it allows us to get to know them extremely well before getting engaged and allows us to know that we''re on the same page about the future -- they might think that it makes it more difficult to really surprise us. So, I guess that this is their method... A tad bit frustrating, but he keeps me laughing.

 

[JenStone]

Blenheim - so that''s where he''s been sneaking off to every night...

Equestrienne - I can only imagine! Poor you...that''s just mean to say something like that before bedtime. I remember I could hardly go to sleep after the first time we discussed rings.

They just love to torture us, don''t they?

 

[Mannequin]

Yes, Jen - Unbelievably wicked of him.

He''s been dropping hints once in a while and talking marriage a lot, but never before bed like that before. Maybe I need to institute a "SPARKLIE FREE HOUR" right before beddy bye to help me unwind! PS is certainly NOT helping this obsession.

 

[JenStone]

Arghh! This morning, he was telling me about a cute internet cartoon where a geeky guy proposes to his gf. He does this by playing a video game non-stop so that he gets all the high scores. But he plans it out so that the initials reserved for the high score list spells out the proposal.

Both my boyfriend and I are huge computer geeks and we love video games. When he told me about this cartoon, I couldn''t help but smile and comment on how cute the proposal was.

Then my boyfriend exclaimed, "Dammit! I shouldn''t have told you that! Another proposal idea out the window!"

"So you have proposal ideas, huh?"

"Oh yeah. A bunch of them. I just need to decide which one."

This is really, really, driving me crazy.

 

[anchor31]

Date: 3/22/2006 12:41:15 PM
Author: JenStone
Arghh! This morning, he was telling me about a cute internet cartoon where a geeky guy proposes to his gf. He does this by playing a video game non-stop so that he gets all the high scores. But he plans it out so that the initials reserved for the high score list spells out the proposal.

Both my boyfriend and I are huge computer geeks and we love video games. When he told me about this cartoon, I couldn''t help but smile and comment on how cute the proposal was.

Then my boyfriend exclaimed, ''Dammit! I shouldn''t have told you that! Another proposal idea out the window!''

''So you have proposal ideas, huh?''

''Oh yeah. A bunch of them. I just need to decide which one.''

This is really, really, driving me crazy.

This is so funny!! Men are so strange sometimes... Yours are going out of their way to be sneaky, but sometimes I have to put my fingers in my ears and start singing so he doesn''t tell me his whole plan!!

Before he had a plan (he told me he has one now) he said he''d have to find a place where I could wear my blue dress I wore at his friend''s wedding three years ago... That''ll be a dead giveaway!! Boys...

 

[fisherofmengirly]

This is an older thread now, but yeah, aren''t boys great at saying one thing, doing another, and still being cute about it?

I know my boy has a plan, but I can''t seem to get out of him *just* what it is. And he''ll go into sappy mode sometimes and say a little *too* much, then try to back track.

When I ask about how he''s thinking of doing it, he just sort of gets this weird look on his face, like he''s trying to show no emotion or anything. Then he''ll say, "what you''re supposed to do it special? That''s the crap you see on TV. A *real* man doesn''t need to do all that. His woman would swoon and drop to her feet in thankfulness that he allowed her to marry him. No need to do planning." Then he''ll bust out laughing because he knows those sort of *macho man* comments drive me mad.

There was a time when I was convinced it''d be at Tybee Island, but he''s since said he won''t do that, since that''s what I''m hoping for, and I''d know. The thing is, I''m *so* directionally challenged, I wouldn''t have a clue where were going, and I''ve only been there once, and I wasn''t paying much attention anyway. I like to nap on long drives.

Whenever a friend gets engaged *there have been several since we started talking about it ourselves,* I''ll tell him the story, and get all swoony. He''ll say something like, "that''s a lot of work when you know she''ll say yes anyway, isn''t it?" Again, just to mess with me.

Then there are times when he''ll be so sweet and we''ll just be somewhere that''s secluded and pretty, at the park with the puppy, or sitting in his backyard looking at the clouds float by and he''ll say something about how if he already had my ring, he''d have asked me, right then. That also breaks my heart and makes me squeal at the same time. If only his car would act right!

Sigh... boys like mixed signals. They know they hold the cards, and they take full advantage of the situation. Truthfully, if I were in their position, I''d have some gentle fun, too!