Hi, Im new, and need some advice:)

[missbunnie66]

Hello everyone. my name is morgan, Im 23 years old. Its so good to see there are other ladies out there like me, hoping that thier SO will soon pop the question. I was just wondering, If im just going nuts or if this is something I should be giving more thought to. so here it goes. The other day, my BF and I were sitting down watching a movie, and he turns to me all of a sudden and was like "im going to tell you something, but i dont want you to tell anyone, cause I dont want anyone to get the wrong idea". so im like, um ok. lol. and then he says "today while I was at work, I was looking at engagement rings, to get an idea of what I might buy you, and I think I have a pretty good idea." I dont know if this actually means he is planning a proposal in the near future, or what, but it kind of took me off gaurd, cause he really isnt the type of guy to necessarily rush into things. We have been together for about 6 months, and I love him dearly. He was good friends with my twin and her boyfriend, and now we are dating and I couldnt be happier. Honestly if he asked me to marry him tomorrow I would. I guess sometimes you just know these things, and I like to think of myself as a good judge of character. But if anyone has any kind of advice, please let me know. Maybe im just reading into this too much. Thanks everyone!!

 

[~*Alexis*~]

If he is looking at rings then I think he is probably getting an idea about how much money will be spent and how much he really needs to save in order to get you the ring that you want. So all the signs are promising!! I would think within the next year or so he may be making the purchase!

 

[vita*dolce]

i think that you should probably just take him at his word. if he said he didn''t want you to tell anyone because he didn''t want anyone to get the "wrong idea" that probably means he''s not too serious about it yet. it''s good that he''s thinking about it, but at this point it sounds like it''s still a while off.

in the meantime, PS is a pretty good place to be!

 

[missbunnie66]

Thanks for your reply, i have been going crazy over this. I guess I am a little weird about it, because my twin is now working on her second marriage, my younger sister who is 20 is engaged and has a baby. not that i want to have a baby, or get married because you know, oh thier doing it, but its like gosh when will someone love me that much? or more importantly, I really want to spend the rest of my life with My BF. and I just cant wait to see whats going to happen in the coming months. we are talking about buying his grandmothers house together also, so thats a big step, and I did relay to him, that If we are going to do that, I do really want to get married. Our plan is to buy the house in the coming spring, around april or may, so we will see what happens I guess.

 

[debzy103]

Take a deep breath. Relax.

You''re 23 and you''ve only been with you bf for 6 months. There''s no need to rush through life. It will happen when it''s meant to be! It''s great to be excited and talking about the future. Just enjoy where you are now - in a new relationship with someone you truly love. That''s exciting and special in and of itself!

 

[AdiS]

I was 20 when DH proposed. We''d been together for less than a year at the time and had been talking about marriage for months before that. My point is, sometimes it doesn''t take forever to realize you want to spend your life with someone. And when a man starts looking at e-rings... well, IMHO it doesn''t leave too much room for interpretation.

Just try not to get too impatient and don''t focus only on this ''cause you really might get yourself crazy. Enjoy your time together instead of constantly wondering when it will happen!

 

[missbunnie66]

thanks for your sweet reply. I didnt want anyone to think i was some young, dumb, hopelessly romantic idiot, that doesnt realize oh hey i have only been with my bf for six month. Im aware of the fact that it has been a short time, but something is different this time. not only that, but i have lived on my own and supported myself since i was 17 years old and still in highschool. I know what its like to live an independent life, and stay at home on friday night and not feel like im missing out. I guess im just ready for the dating game to be over, but Im not going to pressure my bf to propsose either. just a thought.

 

[Dreamgirl]

It seems like if he is looking, then he is thinking about it. That is a plus! You didn't even make him look! He wants to spend his life with you. But that doesn't mean he will buy a ring right now. Maybe he is just looking into it. (Which is a HUGE and exciting step indeed!) Obviously though, if he is talking about it and looking into it...it will happen sometime in the near future!

By the way, welcome to PS!!!!!!!

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

Welcome, welcome!!!

I was young when FF and I started dating, too, so I''ve heard the "you''re just young and in love" bit... But as your relationship endures and endures and you fall deeper for each other, those comments slow down

It''s always GREAT news that they''re looking at and talking about e-rings!!! Exciting! Unfortunately, though, sometimes it takes months. and months. and months. and months. and sometimes more than a year. But the wait will, of course, be worthwhile. Glad you''re joining the rest of us LsIW!

 

[mariewest]

My SO looked at rings in June and so far none are on my finger just yet. Supposedly it''s going to happen by spring, but we''ll see. Our financial situation isn''t the greatest at the current time. This could mean he''s thinking about it for the near future, but he could just be thinking about it in general (which is awesome too). I''m not saying this to disappoint, just not to get carried away... not that I''m to talk because I''m going crazy. We all on this site just need to chill out because we''re all going crazy!

 

[AdiS]

Date: 10/14/2008 4:03:31 PM
Author: missbunnie66
thanks for your sweet reply. I didnt want anyone to think i was some young, dumb, hopelessly romantic idiot, that doesnt realize oh hey i have only been with my bf for six month. Im aware of the fact that it has been a short time, but something is different this time. not only that, but i have lived on my own and supported myself since i was 17 years old and still in highschool. I know what its like to live an independent life, and stay at home on friday night and not feel like im missing out. I guess im just ready for the dating game to be over, but Im not going to pressure my bf to propsose either. just a thought.

You know, first of all after reading this I want to congratulate you. You sound like a really mature and strong lady who earned her independence and I always respect that in women. Secondly, I really don''t think someone who''s 23 is THAT young. Times change and people change too. Today we start working and living on our own much earlier compared to, say, 30-50 years ago. If you support yourself and have a roof above your head I think it would be a bit hypocritical to say "You''re old enough to be a hard working girl but you''re still too young to think about marriage". Well, at least that''s my 2 cents. Of course, it''s also true that I just turned 24 and I''ve been married for 2 years now sooo...lol I might be a little biased.

 

[missbunnie66]

you guys are really awesome!! of course, its hard for me to talk to my family about this, as they all get too excited, and think oh wow shes finally going to do it. I do know that it is some time away, if at all, but it is still exciting for me, as this is the first time, I have really lived with my SO and to have any body even elude to the fact that they want to spend the rest of their life with me. now dont get me wrong and think that Im just settling, or anything like that, but Just the notion of him brining it up before i had even had a chance to really think about it, just tickles me. we do get along very well, and I love him alot. we were good friends before dating, and that says something to me about a person, like we really do kinda know eachother already. I do know it probably isnt going to happen anytime soon, but I am happy and excited just the same, Thank you so much for all your support!!