Hi! I''m new to LIW ...and already have a dilemma!!

[claireabelle]

Hi all!

I am officially a LIW (now I just have to get myself on that list!)... hello to you all

here''s my tiny dilemma...

My FF involved me in the design process of my Ering. We selected a diamond together that we both loved and I gave him pictures of the settings that I liked. He then went on to have the ring designed with a custom jeweller. I have no clue if the ring is finished or where it is! I will not see the finished product until the day.

So of course, I am dreaming about the proposal and the ring, day and night and becoming increasingly addicted to these forums!

Then last night, my FF casually dropped this on me... "I always intended to propose in the latter part of the year because I can plan something really special around that time... BUT I''ve been thinking that it might be too long!"

I think he has something amazing in mind that can only happen at the end of the year for some reason... and I think he is torn because he doesn''t want us both to wait that long. And he''s worried that I''ll be expecting him to propose soonish because we organised the ring so early... he''s basically throwing the ball in my court asking me if I''m happy to wait... which I am, after all - this is completely HIS area and his choice...

It''s just that I already feel like we are engaged because I know about the ring.... so it''s agony not being able to share the news with our families and friends... and I''m not bothered about a dramatic show-stopping engagement.... I just want a really special personal moment that we can remember forever. I wouldn''t care if it was in bed on a Sunday morning - as long as it was a perfect ''us'' moment... do you know what I mean?

AND - now he''s gone and told me about the end of the year - so I''m going to be expecting it all year!!

Knowing him though - he''s probably just toying with me to throw me off the scent and keep me guessing!! Cheeky boy in that case!!

Anyway.... what should I say to him about this whole situation? Should I just stay completely out of it??

 

[claireabelle]

By the way... I am 25 and he is 27

We''ve been together 6 years and have a house together (basically married!)

 

[smiles]

welcome!!

i would tell him what you just told us... you are happy to wait b/c you respect that he wants it to be amazing for both of you but that he should know that it will be special no matter what he does. you can even let him know that its hard to keep it a secret when you want the whole world to know!!!!!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I''d throw the ball right back into his court and let him know that your input phase has passed with the design of the ring. Whatever he wants to do you will be happy with. If he feels he can not wait, then he should feel free to do it sooner. If he would prefer to wait until the end of the year so he can pull of the big idea that you are totally fine with it.

 

[Bliss]

CONGRATS!!!!!!!

Since your gut is telling you he''s trying to throw you off, I''d guess you were right!

But be clear, too -- what you wrote was really sweet. And I''m sure added to the fact that when he gets the ring, he''ll be super excited as well... It won''t be the end of the year!

I''d sweetly communicate your wishes and then leave it up to him.

YAY!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Welcome to the forum this is a great place to be! If I were you, I would just wait....you know it is coming and it is possible that he may be throwing you off. Or, if he does have "big" plans for sometime later in the year, I would still just wait it out............