Holiday Cards

[ladypirate]

So being the anal retentive person I am, I started making my holiday card list today and came across a dilemma. At what point do you and your FF start sending out cards as a couple?

Any thoughts? I''m thinking that this year we''ll send out cards individually (except to people we both know well) and then once we''re living together next year, we''ll send them all out as a couple.

 

[bubbly1126]

FF and I aren''t the holiday card sending type of people but I think it''s acceptable to send them as a couple at any point. Especially if you''ve been together a couple years and intend to be together in the future.

 

[MoonWater]

When you say at what point, do you mean how many years into the relationship? I am the card giver, so I alway sign my bf''s name or get him to sign the card. I also pick up all of his cards for his family (or remind him to do it himself) and we both sign. I''m not even sure when we started doing that...but we''ve been living together for over 3 years if that helps.

 

[KimberlyH]

I wouldn''t send out holiday cards as part of a couple unless we lived together, whether as boyfriend/girlfiend or man/wife.

 

[laine]

I think it depends more on who you are sending them to. Friends our age or people who know us as a couple would get a card from us as a couple. Grandma or my parents, and even most of my relatives get a card from me with a "BF says merry xmas" or whatever tacked on the bottom. He is unlikely to ever send cards to his family, so I might send those as a couple. (we live together and have been dating about 2.5 years)

 

[miss_flo]

Agreed with laine - it depends on who the card's going to. If your peers/friends have met him and know you as a couple, it makes sense to send the card from both of you. It might, however, be a little perturbing to Aunt Sally. Conversely, if you're living together then it might be a nice way to introduce him to the few in your life who haven't met him yet.

Example: My boyfriend was deployed for a lot of 2006 so our Christmas card was a picture of the two of us with a personal message for each recipient. It was a way for my relatives to put a face to a name

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

We sent cards from the both of us once we moved in together.

Last year our holiday cards were personalized with both our names and as a way of announcing our home purchase, we had postcards made with our new address and a photo of our house which we tucked inside of each card.

I think it would be lovely if we could put a "save the date" item in the cards this year

 

[Kayakqueen83]

My boyfriend and I started sending out holiday cards once we moved in together, which was our second year together. He addressed and wrote a personal message from the both of us to his relatives and I did the same for mine. It worked out quite well.

 

[Mara]

i didn''t officially send out cards from ''us'' til we lived together...but if we had friend couples who we knew exclusive as ''our friends'' then when i sent my holiday cards i signed them from greg too but i just put my name on return address. if they were cards to my friends moreso than people we knew together...i''d just sign them from me. he didn''t really do cards other than to his immediate family so he just would send those like right before holidays and sign them from him and put me in parentheses or something hehee. but once we moved in together and got married, they were from us both...and now i do all the holiday shopping for his family too! ahhh ain''t marriage grand? the guys got it made!

 

[Erin]

This was one of my few arguments with my ex's mother!

We lived together for about 6 months at this point. I kept badgering my ex - you have to sign these Christmas cards or people will never get them before the holiday. Sign the cards! Take out the garbage this morning and Sign those Cards!

Well, he never made it a priority so instead of his aunts and uncles not getting cards, I signed our names - his name first of course, with no personal message.

Well, his mother's sisters called. Apparantly, since they lived out of state, they had no clue who I was and knew it wasn't his handwriting. So how terrible of me to do what I did. At least my ex stood up for me saying, Mom she warned me about sending them out she was just doing what she thought was the right thing.

Until everyone knows you, some cards should definitely still come from the respective family member, in their handwriting, and they can add your name if warranted.