Holiday Nerves....

[Browneyedgal]

Hi,

We''re off on holiday on Tuesday, 2 weeks in Florida!! Yippey!!!

About March time he drunkenly told me that he was going to ask me to marry him in the "next couple of months" and I''ve tried to put it out of mind as I know that he''s short of money (he''s finishing a law degree at graduate school). But at the weekend he said that the girls at work had asked him when he was going to ask me to marry him and would it be on holiday. He refuses to tell me what he told them. Is he just messing with me or what???? Plus how do I get through the holiday without going crazy with constantly expecting it to happen? How do I now give a natural reaction if he does ask? And what if he doesn''t????

I think I''d better try and forget about the whole thing!

 

[sk8rjen]

I feel your "pain" -- my birthday trip is a couple weeks away and I know I shouldn''t want it to happen then (b/c I told him I don''t want it on my birthday!) but I do! So, I''m just gonna tell you what my mom so intelligently advised me yesterday -- enjoy the trip like no trip you''ve ever had before. Show him how much you love him and how much fun you are together and give him every reason to remember why he loves you so much. Most importantly, don''t think FOR A SECOND that he is going to propose, that way you don''t ruin your trip and you can enjoy it for the holiday it is rather than build it up to be something it''s not and be letdown.

I really hope you have fun -- and as much as we all hope engagements happen at special moments, I would just not count on it at all. That way, if it *should* happen, it would be a big surprise, but if not, you''ve still had a great time. Have fun!
jen

 

[monarch64]

LOL, Browneyed, I remember those feelings like they were yesterday!

Q: How do I give a natural reaction?
A: Scream "yes!" and jump up and down. Don''t knock the ring out of his hand, though.

Q: What do I do if he doesn''t propose?
A: Practice your "game face" in the mirror. A lot. You know what I''m talking about if you''ve ever seen a Miss America pageant and watched the girls on the risers as their hopes and dreams are dashed when they don''t make it into the final 10. They still have to smile and look happy for the others--mmm hmm, you could put some Vaseline on your teeth so you can keep that smile pasted on all night, lol!

You''ll be fiine, seriously. One of my closest friends got engaged in July of 2002 in Florida--she kinda knew it was coming but wasn''t QUITE sure. If he let it slip when he was drinking that''s a pretty good sign, imo.

 

[FireGoddess]

I would be surprised if he didn''t propose during the vacation. However, and this is easier said than done - try not to expect it during the vacation or you will drive yourself insane and that''s the OPPOSITE reason for having a holiday.

 

[RoseAngel04]

Wow...Florida for two weeks, sounds like fun!

My advice would just be to RELAX and enjoy your "holiday." To me it sounds like this will be when he will propose so be prepared with freshly manicured hands!

But...also don''t expect it. It may be in these two weeks and it may not, so just enjoy your time with your man, and get a glowing tan that all your friends will be jealous of when you return! All I''m trying to say is don''t get your hopes up and remain calm.

however hard that may be...

 

[anchor31]

Oooh... Enjoy your holiday! Have fun, andI''m crossing my fingers for some sparkly for you!

 

[Browneyedgal]

Thanks for all the advise and sympathy, I suppose the worst I could come back with is a great tan and that''s no hardship.

Keep your fingers crossed tho!