Honeymoon night.. what to do???

[lulubboy]

So I was just asked from my fiance..."you ARE going to do something special on our Honeymoon aren''''t you?"???

what the heck... I may be clueless BUT I had NO idea you were suppose to do something special on your honeymoon trip.

We decided to goto Punta Cana All inclusive Palma Real.

DOES ANYBODY have ANY ideas to do? As a GUY ... I am CLUELESS.

 

[klavigne]

Did she tell you what she was going to do special? I didn''t realize you needed to do anything more than you''ve all ready done. I mean, isn''t a trip to Punta Cana special enough!!!

 

[AChiOAlumna]

Hmmm....every night on our honeymoon was special, but we didn''t do anything planned or special in itself. We used the time to reconnect & relax after the stress of hosting and the wedding.

Maybe you need to ask your fiancée what she''s expecting...this is a good time to communicate. You can''t read her mind (and don''t even try!) and she could be waiting for something that you won''t have a clue and then she''ll be resentful the whole honeymoon....talk about it now and get your marriage off on the right foot!

 

[lmurden]

Try to DO IT every night!

 

[Rod]

Date: 5/11/2006 2:56:15 PM
Author: lmurden
Try to DO IT every night!

That was my advice, but you said it sooner. And, if you need directions, then you''re in more trouble and need more help than anyone on this forum could possibly offer you.........LOL

I''m betting your fiance is perhaps suggesting the room be decked out with rose petals and chilled champagne. Maybe she''s hoping for a gift that sparkles, but man, if that''s the case are you ever in for an expensive ride in life.

You''d better ask her to be more specific on her expectations, so you do get to DO IT on your honeymoon............

 

[AmberWaves]

Date: 5/11/2006 3:09:35 PM
Author: Rod

Date: 5/11/2006 2:56:15 PM

Author: lmurden

Try to DO IT every night!

That was my advice, but you said it sooner. And, if you need directions, then you're in more trouble and need more help than anyone on this forum could possibly offer you.........LOL


I'm betting your fiance is perhaps suggesting the room be decked out with rose petals and chilled champagne. Maybe she's hoping for a gift that sparkles, but man, if that's the case are you ever in for an expensive ride in life.


You'd better ask her to be more specific on her expectations, so you do get to DO IT on your honeymoon............

I just have to say, Ha ha ha ha ha!! You all read my mind.

ETA: I was also going to say from reading the title, If you don't know, WE can't help you!, but now I understand.. I second Rod's ideas.

 

[lmurden]

I'm glad everybody got it, because I was thinking WHAT"S WRONG HERE?

 

[njc]

We spent the night at a B&B after the wedding and then later left for the honeymoon. DH, nor anyone else, tried to decorate our room, which I must admit I''m dissapointed about. That said, myself and BMs in a friends wedding got the hotel to give us a room key and WE went in to decorate. We bought cheap roses and spread the petals all over the bed (we even spelled out the words ''DO IT'') and floor and left candles all over with a lighter for them to light when they got there... they loved it!

 

[klavigne]

What a thoughtful idea! I hope someone in our wedding party has enough common sense to figure something like that out without having to be told. Asking someone to do something like that seems really tacky, maybe if I drop hints!

 

[oldminer]

My honeymoon night was spent at the new house I purchased a few months before the wedding. Can you imagine being able to write a check for a whole house at the age of 21? Well, I had been working for some years already and houses sure were a whole lot less back in 1969. My wedding party guys got into the house and took every single light bulb, including the refrigerator and oven bulbs. We did just fine in the dark...no complaints!

Toilet paper was everywhere. Inside the house and all through the shrubs and trees. We didn't see that until the next morning. Once we got to Jamaica for the real honeymoon my suit pockets were filled with half a dozen light bulbs just to show me they have found our luggage, but decided not to steal our underwear which was somewhat the common prank of the times for newlyweds.

The wedding day IS something special. It really needs nothing climactic after the EVENTS of the day have ended. Have some intimate times and prepare yourself to get into a nice vacation in Mexico. That seems special enough.

 

[lmurden]

Date: 5/11/2006 4:02:08 PM
Author: oldminer
My honeymoon night was spent at the new house I purchased a few months before the wedding. Can you imagine being able to write a check for a whole house at the age of 21? Well, I had been working for some years already and houses sure were a whole lot less back in 1969. My wedding party guys got into the house and took every single light bulb, including the refrigerator and oven bulbs. We did just fine in the dark...no complaints!

Toilet paper was everywhere. Inside the house and all through the shrubs and trees. We didn''t see that until the next morning. Once we got to Jamaica for the real honeymoon my suit pockets were filled with half a dozen light bulbs just to show me they have found our luggage, but decided not to steal our underwear which was somewhat the common prank of the times for newlyweds.

The wedding day IS something special. It really needs nothing climactic after the EVENTS of the day have ended. Have some intimate times and prepare yourself to get into a nice vacation in Mexico. That seems special enough.

What nice friends you have or had.

 

[klavigne]

Well said Dave. We sure don''t need more pressure to do something special on top of everything else. Like everything leading up to the honeymoon wasn''t special enough? I''ve spent the last five months of my life building a house for us to make a home, on top of trying to keep her sane and helping as much as I can with the wedding plans. Plus taking care of all the honeymoon plans myself. I really do need a vacation, and pressure to do something special isn''t my idea of a nice relaxing vacation.
If she wants anything more than I''ve already given her and done for her I better be getting a rolex!!!!!!!

 

[sydneycasandra]

Perhaps her idea of something "special" isn''t necessarily $$ related. I am also hoping that my FI does something "special" on our honeymoon night, but what I really, truly hope for is him to have some forethought to bring some bubble bath/bath salts to the island, along with some candles. If he went back to our room 20 min before me (I''m sure my mom and I will keep ourselves occupied along w/ her BF) and drew me a bath, lit some candles, and maybe turned on the ipod w/ speakers that we''re bringing with us... that would totally make my day.

What about something like that? Not expensive, not time-consuming, but big points in the "special" department! (Because although you may be "ready to go" as soon as you get back to the room, chances are good your new wife will probably want to clean up first after hours in a sweaty/heavy/whatevery dress.)

Write her a sweet letter telling her that although the wedding is over your lives together have just begun?


Good luck!

 

[reader]

A buddy of mine just got married, and was chewed out about the wedding day present. He bought her art supplies and a new easel with a note "You color my world: and I promise to support your passions and dreams" She didn''t think it was romantic enough.

I would like to hear from some guys as to what they would like as a wedding day present.

 

[AChiOAlumna]

Date: 5/11/2006 4:20:14 PM
Author: AntiguaBride
Perhaps her idea of something ''special'' isn''t necessarily $$ related. I am also hoping that my FI does something ''special'' on our honeymoon night, but what I really, truly hope for is him to have some forethought to bring some bubble bath/bath salts to the island, along with some candles. If he went back to our room 20 min before me (I''m sure my mom and I will keep ourselves occupied along w/ her BF) and drew me a bath, lit some candles, and maybe turned on the ipod w/ speakers that we''re bringing with us... that would totally make my day.Good luck!

Have you told your FI this?? If you haven''t told him (and I don''t mean hinting to him), there''s a good chance it may not happen...if that''s the case, will you be disappointed? If you''re answer is "YES," then let him know now your hopes for a "special night," so that he will know your expectations.

 

[sydneycasandra]

AChiO,

I have not mentioned this to FI... I think (for me at least) part of my little bath dream has to do with the fact that he would have the foresight to think of it (or something else equally as fun but not elaborate) himself. I''ll admit I feel like I missed out on some of the fun in picking out my own e-ring (albeit with much better results than I probably would have otherwise) and I''m hoping that he will come up with a special surprise idea, just something simple, for our wedding night.

Me telling him to go buy bath salts and candles and make sure he sets them up just doesn''t have quite the same romantic touch as him doing it himself- in fact, it seems a little dictatorial to me. (Not that there is anything wrong with telling your guys what you want, ladies! Just for this event, I want to not have anything to do with it.)

What I was trying to convey to our inquisitor was that it doesn''t have to be expensive or elaborate or complicated; just something simple, personal, and intimate that his lady will love.

 

[decodelighted]

Holy Moly. My Sweetie should *thank his lucky stars* he has a low maintenence/ pragmatic gal!

Most folks I''ve known are so exhausted after the wedding they collapse into bed w/no "romance". My sister was up all night nauseous from not having eaten enough during the day & being nervous. Some folks just went back to their apartments - no B&B, nothin''.

I have NO IDEA what your lady is expecting - but if you wanna please her I guess ask her or ask her friends.

This "Wedding Day" present is another semi-new-one for me. Def def only 10% of brides I know got any such gesture/gift ...

It strikes me a little "isn''t enough, enough" -- love of your life, big party, pretty dress, new sparkly ring, week or two week trip ... YA WANT MORE??? Geez.

 

[mrssalvo]

My hubby would not tell me where we were staying on our wedding night. our flight to mexico didn''t leave to the silly time he booked of 7:00am

the next morning. Anyway, in the months before the wedding I''d ask and he''d give me places like Motel 6 etc. He ended up booking a 4* hotel and got the honeymoon suite. The champange and roses were included with the room

. It was more than I could have imagined and fairly easy on him.

 

[Maria D]

>>A buddy of mine just got married, and was chewed out about the wedding day present. He bought her art supplies and a new easel with a note "You color my world: and I promise to support your passions and dreams" She didn''t think it was romantic enough.<<

Wow, that''s chilling. I''m assuming that the woman was artistic here, and that your buddy was in fact supporting *her* passions, not trying to create some for her. If that was the case, I feel very sorry for the guy if he stayed with her.

I also can''t imagine what the "something special" on the honeymoon trip is, besides the obvious!

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 5/11/2006 10:52:43 PM
Author: mrssalvo
He ended up booking a 4* hotel and got the honeymoon suite. The champange and roses were included with the room

. It was more than I could have imagined and fairly easy on him.

That''s a smartie ya got there! And a great idea for head-scratchin'' fellas. I forgot that "Honeymoon Suite" packages exist. Maybe that''s what the little lady in question has in mind.

 

[AChiOAlumna]

Date: 5/11/2006 9:14:54 PM
Author: AntiguaBride
AChiO,

I have not mentioned this to FI... I think (for me at least) part of my little bath dream has to do with the fact that he would have the foresight to think of it (or something else equally as fun but not elaborate) himself.......Me telling him to go buy bath salts and candles and make sure he sets them up just doesn''t have quite the same romantic touch as him doing it himself- in fact, it seems a little dictatorial to me. (Not that there is anything wrong with telling your guys what you want, ladies! Just for this event, I want to not have anything to do with it.).....

Antigua...I can appreciate you want him to do the planning....heck! That''s 1/2 the fun...however, you may want to be up front that you''re hoping for "something" to happen and leave it at that...

I work with couples in pre- and post-wedding situations and more often than not, the expectations couple have from one another usually result in disappointment, bitterness and frustration because their partner didn''t know that their spouse was expecting something from them...because it was never discussed....all this disappointment can result in resentment....

I just don''t want to see anyone here in that kind of situation....especially on their honeymoon!

 

[KristyDarling]

Whoa -- I''m a girl and I didn''t realize that guys were supposed to prepare a romantic surprise (other than the obvious bedroom business) on the honeymoon. I planned the wedding, DH planned the honeymoon. I guess the "surprise" for me was arriving at each of the 3 resorts we visited in Thailand. He had picked them out (or rather, his travel agent) so I had no idea what kinds of places we''d be staying at. Fortunately they were all nice so I guess that was my romantic surprise!

If you''re the one planning the honeymoon, just do it with your fiancee''s likes and dislikes in mind, and that should hopefully make her more than happy!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/11/2006 2:56:15 PM
Author: lmurden
Try to DO IT every night!

and don''t forget to bring lots of VIAGRA.

 

[tanyak]

Date: 5/11/2006 10:06:45 PM
Author: decodelighted
Some folks just went back to their apartments - no B&B, nothin''.

It''s actually a relief to read this. We''re getting married on a Saturday night, but we aren''t leaving for our honeymoon until Tuesday. I''m looking forward to sleeping in my own bed that night, but was feeling a little weird because most people seem to have big romantic nights in hotel suites. I know no one in our family will surprise us with that, and I''d rather put the money toward the honeymoon.

I''m also not expecting anything on my wedding night...well, besides that.

And if anybody puts roses and candles in our apartment, I''d kill ''em. Just more crap to clean up Sunday morning... I guess I''m not a romantic kind of gal.

 

[ilovesparkles]

I worked at a hotel for four years and the whole champaigne and flowers with a candle was standard for eny couple that was having their reception there. If you are staying at a hotel I would double check with them and not necessarily expect it. On occassion we had couples that were staying there but their reception was else where. The hotel did nothing for them unless it was requested. Other than that I really don''t have much advice but good luck!

 

[diamondfan]

Deco, I am with you! After the major stress of our wedding, including drama the morning of, we were WIPED. We did not get to our room in the hotel (same hotel as the wedding luckily) til 2:30 a.m. Neither of us had eaten so we ordered room service, look at gifts and relaxed a bit. We were being picked up at 6:30 the next morning to catch our flight to Europe, so we really did not want to sleep in case we overslept. And, we did not have any romance to my recollection, and I know my dh felt weird, like how could we NOT do that on our wedding night, BUT we made up for it on the honeymoon!

I think it is imperative for you to clarify things, as someone else posted, do not try to be Carnac right now. Better to know than to disappoint her, and if you cannot do it, she should know now. It is too vague and unclear otherwise!

 

[AChiOAlumna]

Our honeymoon night was in the hotel where we got married and had the reception. My sister did a little something for us, but nothing like flower petals, etc. etc.,,,we also found 2 pieces of wedding cake with flowers on the plates and a bottle of chilled champagne. We agreed days before the wedding that if nothing "happened" on the wedding night, then it didn''t happen, but if it did, it did...we exchanged wedding gifts (our own) and went to sleep due to exhaustion....

It was our way of winding down...but we did talk about our expectations for the wedding night so there were no misunderstandings or misperceptions.